mental health
How To Heal Your Broken Heart
In the 1960’s Roy Orbison belted out the song, It’s Over. Even at four years of age, it stirred my emotions hearing it on the radio. In 1984, I heard the exact same words from a man I very much loved and believed to be ‘the one.’ Thankfully, he was not, but that is another story.
He turned to me and said, “We’re not a good match.”
I remember that moment as if it were yesterday. My heart jumped and my knees turned to jelly. I felt so lost and alone, as well as almost every other negative emotion possible…from anger and hurt, to frustration and hopelessness. All these emotions coursed through my body like a freight train.
How was I going to cope without him in my life? What will become of me? What do I do now that it is over?
At 24 years of age, I did not have much experience dealing with loss, disappointment, and grief as I do today. Today, as a practicing psychic with many years of professional experience, I would offer my younger self the following spiritual advice regarding healing a broken heart.
Acknowledge
I believe we can also mourn the living, just as much as we grieve for someone who has passed away. Indeed, acknowledging finality, in whatever form the finality presents itself, can be a challenging thing to do, especially if you are emotionally involved with someone. That said, it is much better than holding onto false hope, which is far worse. Continue reading
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
In 2015, my friend and colleague on Psychic Access, Salome, peacefully departed from this life. This blog is a tribute to her legacy and the important lessons I learned from her.
Before I met Salome, she had already made a name for herself in the pagan community. She was talked about in almost reverent whispers.
“Have you met her?”
“Isn’t she the psychic who helped the police find that missing girl?”
“You should take a class from her, she really knows her stuff.”
When I finally met Salome, I remember thinking that there was an almost regal bearing to the way she carried herself. Her posture always seemed completely correct, her make-up flawless, not a hair out of place. She seemed to know who she was and was confident in everything about her person, her talent, and her work.
As we got to know each other, she soon recognized something in me as a diviner that she felt needed to be nurtured and encouraged. So, she decided to mentor me. She watched how I handled my Tarot cards and how I applied them to the questions being asked. Her wise guidance added more depth to my readings and boosted my confidence. She also helped me get my first professional psychic job online.
Over the years she became my sister, my confidant, my counselor, one of my very best friends. Every time we met, I learned more about our craft, about being a better psychic reader, and how to practice Wicca, and the consequences and responsibilities that go with it.
She taught me how to connect with my inner guidance and listen to my guides. She taught me how to read auras and what the changes in colors meant. She taught me about energy work, the chakras and how to cleanse and balance my energy flow.
Take Better Care Of Yourself
I believe that we are given the opportunity to learn many valuable spiritual lessons by having many life experiences that bring us closer to enlightenment. I also believe that if we don’t learn a certain lesson, the Universe will simply provide another opportunity to learn that same lesson again, and this time it will be even more challenging and difficult.
A few years ago, I had been running at almost a break-neck pace. There was work; funeral arrangements twice; the birth of twins to one of my daughters; making sure the other daughter got to her radiation and chemotherapy cancer treatments; running my own household; helping my daughters with their children; and taking care of the two children who live with me.
I was worrying about everyone and everything, whether I had control or not over what was happening to them. The stress and lack of self-care took a toll, but I did what I always did: push through it as much as I could, getting as much done as I could, helping everyone around me as much as I could, and collapsing at the end of the day.
Eventually, I became severely ill with pneumonia. It got so bad my husband woke up one morning to find me passed out on the dining room floor. I have no idea how I got there or even why I would go there, I don’t remember any of it!
For months I was back and forth between home, the doctor’s office, and the hospital. I was not beating the illness and I was permanently fatigued, listless, depressed and kept losing my voice. But my solution was simply to drink more coffee, and push, push, push through it, keep going.
I became increasingly frustrated and impatient, more at myself than anyone else. I felt like a cat chasing its tail. I was not taking care of myself, and it got worse, because I pushed myself beyond my own ability to endure, unable to accomplish much, and failing all around. Then my doctor warned me in no uncertain terms that I am living my life with my thumb on the ‘self-destruct button.’ The time had come for me to make up my mind: live or die.
Looking Back To Move Forward
My favorite quote for this liminal time, at the end of the year and before the beginning of the new year is by self-help author Melody Beattie , who wrote, “The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written.” It reminds me that we always have the power to write new chapters and weave new threads into our life tapestry. We truly are the masters of our own destiny.
As a Numerologist I’ve looked at the energy of the vibrations of 2021, a number 5 World Year. It’s been quite the ride as we all know! The energy of the 5 is fast moving, sometimes chaotic, adventurous, dramatic, risky. It is literally ‘mind-blowing’ in many ways as the number 5 is considered to be the ‘mind’ energy in Numerology.
We indeed had to think, and rethink things very deeply over this past year. There have been many starts, stops, pauses, and pattern interrupt, false alarms, recoveries, and amazing breakthroughs.
This year we’ve had to come up not only with a Plan A and B, but also a C, D and even an E. And we had to rekindle our courage and faith. Many of us learned the true meaning of the Serenity Prayer – some for the first time in their life.
God to grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
As we look back on this year, there are many illuminating questions we may ask. Where did our own serenity come from? What things did we have the courage to change, and what things were not ours to change? Did we embrace the spiritual wisdom of release and acceptance? What spiritual insight and personal growth did we gain from this challenging year?
Essential Oils For Energy Work
Essential oils can be a powerful resource when used in energy work and related spiritual and metaphysical practices.
Grounding. Using Sandalwood, Patchouli, and Frankincense oils, for example, can help keep us grounded while meditating or doing energy work. You can use just one, or you can mix them, then simply diffuse the oil according to your preference.
Romance. To attract love and romance combine 2 parts Rose or Rose Otto with 1 part Lavender, Honeysuckle, or Ylang Ylang. Use in a diffuser or as a perfume oil on pulse points on your body. The Rose oil makes us feel more desirable, the Lavender, Honeysuckle or Ylang Ylang gives us confidence.
Memory. Using Rosemary, Peppermint, Lemon Grass, and Ginger in any combination will help with studying and memory retention. Dabbing a small amount on your third eye will enhance your ability to recall information later too.
Depression. For mild depression use 2 drops each Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, Geranium and Sandalwood in any diffuser. Clary Sage helps promote the feel-good hormones, Ylang Ylang helps with anxiety, Geranium helps clear the debris in our heads and Sandalwood helps keep us grounded.
Energy. To recharge or refuel your energy, mix 12 drops Lavender, 6 drops Peppermint, 4 drops Pine, one drop Cinnamon essential oil. You can mix this in 1 cup of bath salts and enjoy a relaxing bath, or use in an oil diffuser, or both.
Embracing The Uncertainty Of Change
One of the earliest life lessons I had to learn the hard way is that change is the only thing that ever consistently happens in life. We cannot avoid it. It is fundamental to our journey in this lifetime to learn to embrace change, as without it we cannot grow and evolve as spiritual beings.
Yet, change causes much fear and apprehension for many people. It can be daunting. This is in fact one of the reasons why clients contact me for advice and predictions. In life it is vital to always be prepared for change.
Being mentally and emotionally prepared gives us a greater sense of control over any forthcoming event and thus alleviate some of its stress. Who wants to remain stagnant anyway? It is vital to look for the good that change can bring, rather than dwell on any potential negative impact it could bring about. We need to take on board the necessity to learn and strengthen from it.
Change comes in many forms. For example, it is estimated some people change their homes up to eight times in their lifespan. How stressful is that? But instead of focusing too heavily on the downside, such as the stress of buying, selling and packing, spirit advises we see a new home as a beautiful new chapter in our lives. Think of it as an exciting fresh start and allow yourself time to adjust. You may soon be happier in your new abode than you could ever imagine!
Beginning a new job is equally stressful. For whatever reason you find yourself in new employment, the very thought of walking into a new workplace on a Monday morning, meeting new colleagues in unfamiliar environment is always daunting. However, rather than be afraid, advises spirit, why not congratulate yourself for being there in the first place?
Practical Guidelines For Aromatherapy – Part 3
Aromatherapy and essential oils are often used in spiritual and metaphysical practices, but it can also enhance our health and well-being in many ways, including relaxation, relieving tension, calming the mind improving concentration, and increasing mental clarity.
Below are five practical ways to use your favorite essential oils in your home, as well as personal health and beauty.
CANDLES
Any essential oil can be used in a candle to infuse your home, or any space where energy needs to be shifted, cleansed, or recalibrated.
Candle-making is an art and a fun craft for the entire family. You can use molds, tall fireproof glasses, dixie cups. Just be sure to add the oil while melting the wax, not after the candle has been poured, I learned this the hard way!
SOAPS AND LOTIONS
Soap making is also an art and especially useful in gift-making around the holidays. Making a personalized gift of soap, lotion or candles is inexpensive and always treasured instead of commercial retail products. Soaps can be either in liquid form, or a bar form (or any shape you can think of).