spiritual self-care
What To Do When He Disappears Into His Cave
He tells you he loves you, wants to be with you all the time, and can’t get enough of you. He calls and texts you constantly, and you feel like you’ve found the perfect relationship. You love the way he makes you feel. He must be “the one.”
Then, suddenly, he’s gone. No calls, no texts, no dates, nothing. Ghosted.
And you’re left wondering: What happened? Where did he go? Was it something I said, or did?
Well, no. He just retreated into his “cave.” It is where your man goes to think, breathe, and figure out what’s going on in his head.
This is the mysterious and often frustrating time-out that men often take when they realize things are moving too fast, or when they start to feel deeply attached.
For us women, especially those who are spiritually aware and emotionally intuitive, this sudden withdrawal can be very confusing and even painful.
Women tend to thrive on connection and open communication, and we naturally want to nurture and support others. So, when the man we care about suddenly becomes distant, it can trigger our deepest fears of abandonment or rejection.
But here’s what you need to understand: his retreat is not about you.
Nurturing Soul Bonds Beyond Rational Understanding
Psychology has provided us with invaluable tools for navigating life’s challenges. It helps us understand ourselves and each other, improves our communication, and builds stronger relationships. Whether we’re managing stress, boosting emotional intelligence, or making better decisions at work or at home, psychological insights guide us toward healthier, more connected lives.
However, there’s another layer to our existence that studying the mind alone can’t fully reach. While psychology breaks things down into patterns and causes, the soul deals in ongoing, heart-to-heart connections that go beyond intellectual discussion and analysis.
Psychology can explain why we feel anxious, how old wounds still affect us, and which coping strategies we tend to use. This kind of insight can spark real change.
However, understanding alone stops at the intellectual level. It doesn’t inspire the deeper truths and wisdom that make us feel truly alive and connected.
This is where ‘soul care,’ rather than analysis or therapy, offers a different path.
Rather than observing ourselves and others as case studies, soul care invites us to honor all our relationships — past, present, and future, as well as beyond this life — with warmth and continuity. It invites us to see friends, family, teachers, and deceased loved ones as conscious, eternal presences to be celebrated, not merely dissected.
Spirit’s Three-Step Remedy For The Scattered Mind
I love to meditate. It’s my sacred coffee break with the cosmos — the moment when I trade phone pings and to-do lists for the whispers of spirit and the soothing hum of the universe.
Before every session, I set an intention. Usually it is a question I’d like spirit to answer. I think of it as sending a “text message” to the divine and waiting, phone in hand, for the soft chime of truth.
Today’s intention led me straight to the heart of a puzzle that troubles many parents, teachers, and sensitive individuals: Why does Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) seem to be skyrocketing in society?
In classrooms, offices, and even yoga studios, more of us are struggling with scattered focus and mental fatigue. Studies now suggest that our screen-filled, high-pressure lives may be pushing hidden attention problems into a full-blown pandemic.
I felt compelled to ask, “Is there more to the story than brain chemistry and prescription medication?”
After a longer than usual session, I emerged with a couple of journal pages full of insights that felt refreshingly simple, yet profoundly wise.
The first thing I saw in my meditation was a vision of life in the pre-internet age before we had smartphones.
I saw in my mind’s eye neighbors chatting on porches, children riding their bikes in the street until dinnertime, and evenings lit by conversation instead of blue screens. The pace was slower, and people’s nervous systems were calmer.
Navigating The Sacred Journey Of Grief
As a psychic medium, I have spent decades bearing witness to the immense and complex journey of grief.
Over the years, I’ve learned that grief has many faces and forms. It is not only about death and dying. It can arise from various types of loss, such as the loss of a pet, the end of a relationship, a change in life path, the loss of a job, or moving away from a beloved home.
My clients often tell me, “My heart has a hole in it,” or “It feels like my heart has been torn apart.”
These aren’t just metaphors. Grief can feel so intense that it seems like a physical injury — like a ‘heart attack’ of the soul. Grief reverberates through our heart, mind, body, and spirit, leaving no part of us untouched.
One of the most important truths I’ve learned is that grief is deeply personal. No two people experience it in the same way. There is no “normal” way to grieve or a fixed timeline.
Some people begin to feel a little lighter after a few weeks or months, while for others, the sorrow lingers for years or even decades. And that’s okay.
Grieving means you loved deeply, cared sincerely, and connected profoundly. It is not just about saying goodbye, but also about building a new relationship with their absence — one that carries forward the love in a different way.
The Sublime Joy Of Solitary Bliss
There’s something truly magical about solitude. I’m not talking about loneliness or feeling isolated. I’m talking about that golden, nourishing moments of ‘me-time’ when you can just be alone in peace with yourself — and only yourself.
For me, taking time out from the noise and chaos is not just a preference. It’s a sacred necessity. I mostly like to do things on my own, at my own pace, without interruption. Whether I’m meditating, walking in nature, or simply brewing a cup of tea, being alone allows my heart, mind and soul to breathe!
Some people thrive in the company of others. They feel alive in the presence of connection and togetherness. And I respect that. We all walk different paths, and what nourishes one soul may not nourish another in the same way.
But for those of us who find peace in solitude, the inner sanctuary is a silent temple — where we commune with the divine, reconnect with our essence, and return to the world feeling centered and whole.
Solitude is not just a lifestyle choice for me — it’s the grounding force that supports everything else in my life.
When I am peacefully alone, I can focus better, think more clearly, and become truly aligned. My energy is mine. My time is mine. My thoughts are mine. There’s no need to filter, explain, or adjust to anyone else’s expectations. It’s just me, myself and the universe — and in that space I feel centered and complete.
Feeling Stuck? Maybe It’s Time To Clear The Clutter!
Have you ever felt like your life is stagnant…or even moving backwards. Despite your best intentions and efforts, something unseen keeps slowing your down or pulling you off track?
Recently, I found myself in exactly that place. My energy was low. My motivation had all but evaporated. My health was taking a hit.
And even though I was doing all the “right” things-helping others, staying aligned with my purpose, and working toward my highest good-everything felt dense, heavy, blocked, stuck.
In a quiet moment of surrender, I finally sat down and asked my guides, “What am I missing here?
The answer I received was very simple, yet profoundly eye-opening:
“It’s time to clear the clutter…so you can move forward.”
At first I was stunned. What? Really? But after some careful reflection, the wisdom of this guidance from spirit sunk in.
The idea of clutter is one we often associate with messy rooms, crowded surfaces, or overflowing closets, but its reach goes much deeper.
Clutter can accumulate in our minds, emotions, energy fields, and souls. It’s not always visible, but it weighs us down. It can block intuition, dull our spark, and create invisible walls that keep us from stepping into our divine potential.
From Lightwork And High Vibes, To Laundry And Dirty Dishes!
To be in the world…but not of it! I imagine this is the secret wish of many a professional psychic. We walk between two worlds on a daily basis – one rooted in spiritual awareness and higher consciousness, the other deeply embedded in the human condition and everyday reality.
Our clients prefer to see us as serene and calm mystics who somehow exist above the daily struggles of ordinary people. But let me be clear: life happens to psychics, too. And sometimes it gets messy!
For example, like everyone else, I have to take care of my usual household chores despite a demanding work schedule. Today I have bills to pay, dishes to wash, and a pile of laundry to do, just to name a few. I don’t get a pass just because I tune into the higher realms for a living.
Short of living in a cave somewhere (and believe me, I’ve been tempted!), psychics are not immune to the challenges and chaos of everyday life.
But what we can do, and what many of us learn to master over time, is to hold a sacred space within ourselves — a sanctuary in our hearts that remains untouched even when the world around us is swirling with turbulence.
Oddly enough, I feel that facing the messy, painful, chaotic challenges of daily life is essential for psychic professionals. These experiences serve as connection points in our spiritual work because they ground us, keep us humble, and make us relatable.