Being Patient With The Man You Love
When we meet someone we’re attracted to, we don’t always listen to our inner voice and tend to go with our heart instead of our head. And when we don’t listen to our inner guidance and get ahead of ourselves, we tend to get hurt.
I think it is fair to say that modern women prefer men who say what they mean and mean what they say. Women today are independent and we want someone who can stand his ground and bring out the best in us.
Today’s empowered woman wants a gentleman, a best friend, a soulmate and a superhero all in one. We want romance and respect, adventure and security, strength and tenderness.
But most of all, we want loyalty, honesty and trust. Because without that, we have nothing. Unfortunately, some men never speak their minds, and some never tell the truth.
There are also men who come on too strong, always calling, always texting, making you feel like he can’t live without you and everything seems almost too good to be true. Then suddenly one day he is gone, missing in action, retreated to his cave.
Healing A Broken Heart
One of the hardest things that we will ever have to do is recover from a broken heart after a relationship break-up. We don’t want to be without the person we love; it hurts to say their name, or to think about them. And sometimes it is hard to even breathe.
When a relationship fails we need to grieve and heal. This is a time to be around people who care about us. The worst thing that we can do is to harden our hearts and build a wall that no one can touch. All that this will do is stop us from growing and learning more about ourselves – to know who we are and learning how to love ourselves again.
We are not to give up on future relationships, because that will not serve us in the long run. We need to be able to feel again, but it takes time. Everyone has to go through their own grieving process because no one really knows just how much you are really hurting. With time you will get there.
So many times we think that the love that we have found is real and everlasting, but true love does not lie, or cheat, or make you feel unwanted. True love makes us feel secure, not insecure.
Sure, we have to work at a good relationship, but when it becomes too much of a tug-and-pull, we have to listen to our gut feelings. Trust your inner guidance and hear what spirit is trying to tell you.
I do not think anything hurts more than being disappointed by the person that you thought would never hurt you. When you are ready to start again, make the decision that you are going to move on, that its time.
Learning To Forgive
Accepting, letting go and forgiving is difficult, but necessary to thrive and live our best life. When we do not forgive, we carry toxic energy within that poisons us mind, body and soul.
Energetically non-forgiveness wreaks havoc in our chakras that can cause physical disease and mental illness. Our chakras store the energies of negative life events and experiences, if we do not release it, and heal those imbalances and blockages.
Forgiving does not mean we condone or exonerate the evil deeds of others, nor do we have to allow the people who have wronged us back into our life. This is seldom wise.
However, it is also not karmically smart to harbor resentment, seek vengeance, or wish others harm…for it will come back to us. Forgiveness is to surrender control and allowing karma to deal with those who wronged us.
When we forgive and release the trauma others have caused us, their choices and actions can no longer control us, nor steal our happiness, joy, and well-being. This is why forgiveness is the best gift we can give to ourselves.
Forgiveness does not set the wrongdoer free or exempt them from their karmic debt. Instead, we set ourselves free, so that their karmic choices no longer interfere with our energetic well-being and our divine right to manifest our best life. When we do not forgive and move on, it will continue to haunt us. It gradually infiltrates and contaminates every aspect of our life, and even causes us to attract more of the same unwanted experiences.
Knowing Your Past Is Owning Your Future
Knowing your past is just as important as knowing your future. There are many hurts that are carried over into this incarnation when the soul does not heal from its prior life. Most people do believe in reincarnation. I certainly do.
Knowing who you were, how you lived, and who you loved and lost in previous lives is important so that your soul can heal in this lifetime. It is one of the keys to joy and happiness.
Our soul has ‘cellular memory’. Letting go of judgment toward yourself and others, and healing from guilt and other emotions from past lives, releases these memories and you become happier and have a new sense of freedom in this life. It enables you to move forward on your journey in this life.
Every soul that you have ever known in other lifetimes you will also know in this one. We are here to learn lessons which are written in our soul contract, which we put together while we were on the other side. We picked our parents, our children, family, friends, hard times and good times, the men and women we choose to love and to learn from.
Soul contracts are lesson plans or agreements that we make before we incarnate. We can choose to be guides instead of reincarnating, because each of us have all been guides at one time or another. Leonard is my guide and he is always with me in my meditations. I consciously remember him at a young age when he first came to me and told me that I would be helping many people in my life one day.
When An Earthbound Soul Haunts Your Home
Earthbound souls are lingering spirits that have not yet crossed over. Their energy is often attached to their former home, or even to objects that they cherished. They can also be attached to a person.
They typically continue to dwell on the earth plane because they either cannot accept or do not understand that they have passed, or they have unfinished business here. They often harbor regret. Some of the typical reasons why a soul may remain attached to this world include:
- They have unfinished business, karmic debt, or have suffered an injustice.
- They are fearful of crossing over or worried about what may await them in the spirit realm.
- Their death was extremely painful or traumatic.
- They died suddenly or unexpectedly and do not realize they are no longer alive.
- They are intensly concerned for the well-being of their loved ones.
In my experience, it is sometimes living relatives who are causing spirits to remain attached to this world. Sometimes bereaved family members do not realize that their avoidance of dealing with the grieving process may be preventing their deceased loved one from crossing over.
If we are unable or unwilling to let a loved one go and release their soul to the spirit realm, they then choose to stay here with us. They are concerned for our well-being and until they are reassured that we will be okay without them, they will not muster the necessary will to fully depart this world and cross over to the Other Side. Continue reading
How To Know If Your Home Is Haunted
Do you suspect that you home may be haunted, or feel the presence of something paranormal? When we sense something like this, it is usually true. And the more open we are to it, the more this kind off spirit energy can linger in the house, on furniture, and even in ornaments and clothing. Spirit energy can become attached to a place, person, or an object and dwell there.
One of the tell-tale signs to look out for is a sudden sense of cold air that you cannot explain – it feels a little like being near dry ice. This is how I often experience it. Other signs include a strong pressure around your head, a strange ‘heaviness’ in the air, whispers, unusual sounds, or hearing voices, as well as the feeling that someone is watching you.
Other things to look out for is electrical disturbances that can’t be explained, seeing shadows out of the corner of your eye, the ominous feeling of being touched, feeling constantly drained or tired, and abnormal behavior in your pets. You may also have an ‘unwelcome house guest’ if there are unexplained, unfamiliar smells that have no other explanation. It is often a foul smell.
Being more aware of the presence of spirit energies can be very helpful when you are considering renting or buying a house. Often there is a presence of dark, negative spirit attachment in a home, it will often feel very cold, empty, lonely, and angry. A home with positive, healthy energy feels peaceful warm, peaceful and calm.
Ghosts are spirits that have not crossed over. There are differences between a ghost and a spirit. A spirit, like the energies of our departed loved ones, our guides and angels, makes us feel calm and reassured., while a ghost or negative energy attachment will cause an eerie, ominous feeling.
Letting Go Heals Our Silent Pain
Too often we are not aware of the emotional pain in others. We are blissfully ignorant of the invisible pain that they are suffering. This is the secret pain of grief, of tragedy and loss. It is often the silent pain that many of us carry inside, a pain we secretly endure every day.
Our grief and sorrow is something we hide from the world, because we tend to feel ashamed, embarrassed or guilty for not being ‘stronger.’ The fast-paced modern world we live in has little patience with those who need time to mourn and heal. Life goes on, they say.
Those who are grieving must get through their pain as best they can, often without having anyone to talk to or no one wo cares to understand. They must simply put on a happy face and get through the day.
Sometimes people are having a hard time processing a loss or disappointment because they do not want to let go. Why would anyone choose to hold on to the pain, you may ask? Well, there is sometimes a strange comfort found in a state of holding on. When our world feels upside down and the future seems uncertain, we tend to hold on to the familiarity of the past, of the life we once knew.
The energy of such an ongoing state of silent pain soon becomes an imbalance in the throat chakra and blocks our ability to heal. The throat chakra plays a very big part, because it is our energy center of truth, the seat of our power to communicate our free will and talk about our true feelings.
Suppressed mental and emotional pain in time manifests itself in our body in many debilitating ways, such as migraine headaches, stomach aches, physical discomfort and a variety of other symptoms and potential health problems. Only when the pain is addressed and processed, will it go away and will our well-being improve.
