marriage
Embracing Growth Challenges In Your Relationship
At some point in a romantic relationship, we all face challenges that test our connection with our partner or spouse. People disagree, make mistakes, and experience conflict. It’s human nature.
However, it is important to realize that most problems in a developing relationship are often not inherently negative or catastrophic. Instead, they present valuable opportunities for personal growth, healing, and self-discovery.
If you believe that your happiness in a relationship depends on finding the perfect partner, it’s time for a new perspective. The key to a happy relationship is to remove personal barriers one at a time. By doing so, you can fully immerse yourself in love and become a magnet for attracting the right partner into your life.
Consider the following five common issues that many new couples face and how you can learn from them to foster a stronger, more fulfilling connection with your significant other.
The Happiness Myth
Some people go into a new relationship expecting their partner to bring them the complete state of happiness, joy, and fulfillment they have always sought. But others cannot make us happy, joyful, or fulfilled because achieving this is always an inside job. It starts with us.
It’s important to ask yourself what really brings you joy and satisfaction. A healthy, successful relationship requires both partners to cultivate and contribute their own individual happiness, joy, and fulfillment, rather than expecting their significant other to provide it for both of them. It is our responsibility to create our own happiness, not our partner’s.
It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are ~ Allanah Hunt
The Blame Game
A common mistake in relationships is to blame our partner for our own thoughts, moods, or emotions. But no one else is responsible for our thoughts and feelings. We are the ones doing the thinking and feeling! We must take personal responsibility for them.
By releasing the false belief that our partner is responsible for our state of mind and emotions, we liberate ourselves, take back our power, and reclaim our autonomy. Yes, they may upset or disappoint us. They may upset us or hurt our feelings.But it remains our choice how to think, feel and react to them. We cannot control our partner’s words and actions, but we can absolutely control our own.
Take responsibility for your attitudes, emotions, and thought patterns. If you tend to constantly experience negative emotions or overreact in a dysfunctional way to almost everything your partner says or does, or to life in general, then it may be necessary to explore the root causes of your negativity rather than projecting it all onto your partner.
On the other hand, if your partner really does behave in ways that make you feel upset, sad, or depressed for good reason, then it may be time to rethink the future of your relationship. Either way, it will take some hard work. Seeking professional help from a reputable therapist or counselor is highly recommended.
The Frog Prince Delusion
Many people enter into a new relationship with someone who they think has the “potential” to become their ideal partner, rather than accepting their partner for who they really are. If you cannot unconditionally accept someone exactly as they are, then it is usually not a good idea to start a relationship with them.
Having unrealistic expectations that your partner will change or become a different person is usually a fool’s errand. Yes, people do grow and develop over time. But in a healthy relationship, partners grow and evolve together. They respect each other’s differences and celebrate each other’s uniqueness. They do not wait for their partner to change or demand they become someone better or different.
Trying to mold our partners to fit our expectations and meet all our demands not only stifles their authenticity and undermines the foundation of love, it is mission impossible. You cannot kiss a frog into becoming a prince or princess. We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves.
True, lasting love comes from wholeheartedly accepting yourself and your partner for who you both really are, with all your strengths and weaknesses.
You can’t possibly embrace that new relationship, that new companion, that new career, that new friendship, or that new life you want, while you’re still holding on to the baggage of the last one ~ Steve Maraboli
The Sleigh Ride
In new relationships, we often try to be perfect, keep up appearances, or project a certain image of ourselves, believing that we’ll only be loved if we meet certain expectations. But true love comes from being fully ourselves. You cannot build a lasting relationship by taking someone for a sleigh ride with pretense and deceit.
When we embrace authenticity and allow ourselves to be honest and vulnerable, we open ourselves up to genuine connection. Our own authenticity also invites our partners to do the same, fostering deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual understanding.
The Baggage Drag
Most people have faced challenges or had negative experiences in previous relationships. Often these experiences can leave deep emotional scars that affect new relationships, but carrying this baggage into a new relationship creates an energetic burden and hinders growth.
To experience a healthy, fulfilling relationship, we must process our emotional wounds and release the past. Sometimes this is as simple as choosing to start with a clean slate or giving our new partner the benefit of the doubt. But in cases where someone has experienced extreme abuse, loss, or trauma, it may be necessary to seek professional help before entering a new relationship.
A new partner should not have to take on the old baggage and carry the burden of all the damage someone else has caused. Just because they are brave enough and willing to be there for you, does not mean they are equipped to handle it.
Embrace the growth opportunities that come from relationship challenges and embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowered connection. Remember that every relationship is an exciting learning experience that brings us closer to a more fulfilling and harmonious love. Continue reading
Thorns Are Only There To Protect The Rose
Each time we turn to unnecessary conflict, things turn into chaos. It stirs up the aura around each person involved. The ripples of anger and hurt affects everyone involved.
This doesn’t mean we can’t ever stand up for ourselves, or disagree. In fact, statistics prove that couples who never argue most often don’t last in their relationships.
A good storm now and then can clear up things and allow us opportunity to express the things we have been suppressing.
But often we hold it in for too long, and then it blows up. When this happens, the drama is often worse than it needed to be. We say things we later regret. We are even surprised by some of the things we say when we get this upset! Where did that come from?
Then, as time goes on, we want to make amends. Yet, those words caused a hurt that never really leaves. Sometimes an apology is no longer enough.
I know that it is hard to do, but it is mostly for the best not to stir the pot when it is already too late. The wisest way to handle issues is to bring them up early on. Talk and work them out before they blow up.
Love is like a rose. Roses are so beautiful, with their sweet smell, the velvet petals, brilliant colors, and heady scent. It overwhelms the senses.
The Power Of Psychic Prediction
The future is fluid and dynamic, and responds to the forces of the present moment. Feeling peaceful, grounded and centered in the present moment is a feeling we all strive to experience every day, but the challenges of life often pulls in memories of the past, and worries about the future.
Thoughts of the future can bring up fear and anxiety as we face the unknown, especially when viewed through current life challenges. In such challenging times you may want to consider reaching out to a psychic advisor, for clarity and support in navigating the path ahead. In my own life I have valued the support of a trusted fellow psychic advisor, especially during emotional and challenging times.
We all experience difficult times, and having someone hold a vision for us about our future path can be highly valuable. Someone to see the divine order in unforeseen events, and show us a way through the uncertainty, despite the challenges and broken pieces of the present. This reassurance helps to strengthen our resolve and belief in ourselves and our future.
As a psychic reader, I have great awareness of the power of a prediction. I believe that the true gift in a prediction is that they can provide a preparedness for the journey ahead, and they can anchor us in faith and hope. Faith is to have trust in something or someone, and it is a source of comfort.
Asking the Divine about the likelihood of future outcomes shows an open-heartedness and desire to see beyond the current. It also says to the Divine, show me the way. Guide me the vision, so that I may walk with more clarity and an open mind and heart.
Give Yourself Permission To Be Happy!
My life would be great if only… I had more money… he would come back to me.. I can find a better job… I can reach my goal weight.
How many times have you heard such statements? How many times have you told yourself something like this? Is it truly the answer to lasting happiness? What if there was a way to train your brain to accept life and live your best in the meantime?
As a hypnotherapist, my experience has been that when any suggestion is put into the mind, the subconscious will accept the information, whether it is true or false.
Whatever a person chooses to tell themselves enough times becomes their truth. The information becomes a habit to believe the suggestion. Some habits are good and some not so good. A bad habit needs to be replaced with a good one.
Why not take all the positive steps needed to live your best in the meantime… while waiting for the wishes to come true. There are many ways to retrain the brain, just as there are many ways to travel to a destination.
Some people like the fastest route, while other like the scenic route, in order to see the sights along the way. It doesn’t really matter what route you take. What does matter is that you truly have the belief that you can reach the destination, and allow yourself to enjoy the ride in the meantime.
When Will I Find My Soulmate?
The questions I get most often in psychic readings is about finding true love and meeting soulmates. Why am I still single? When will I meet the love of my life? Will I be married? To be honest, I asked myself the same kind of question for decades.
When I got divorced at the age of 28, I had no idea that I would be single until the age of 52. Yes, I had several failed relationships during those years, and even when I connected with someone who I was certain was my life partner, things always seemed to fall apart.
However, many years later, when I did meet my soulmate, it was incredible! Truth be told, I would go through it all again to end up in the relationship of my dreams, no matter how long it took.
Of course, I would have done many things differently over those two and a half decades, instead of wasting my time searching and lamenting the fear that I would always be alone.
That fear, along with a few other factors, was actually what held me hostage for years. It is the first thing that should be addressed when one is searching for your soulmate.
Many people told me over the years, that I would meet the man of my dreams when I wasn’t looking. My response to that was always, “Well, it will have to be a burglar then, because the only time I am not looking is when I am asleep!” If this is how it seems for you, then this is the first thing that needs to change. Your soulmate will find you. Period. And it will happen when you are not looking. Double period!
When Your Man Is Not Ready To Commit
I often hear how wonderful the guy is that she is dating… if only he would commit to taking their relationship to the next level!
If a woman is not satisfied with the way things are going and what she is getting from the relationship, should she continue to wait for him?
By patiently waiting for him against your better judgment, he only learns that he can get away with his lack of commitment, especially if he feels comfortable with what he is getting from the relationship. This way a pattern is formed.
So, how do you avoid wasting some of the best years of your life waiting on a guy that is never going to commit?
Well, right from the start you tell him what your looking for and what your expectations are. But handle it carefully, after all you don’t want to scare him away before things even get off the ground!
But do let him know how you feel about dating, long-term relationships, commitment, marriage, children, and whatever else may be important to you.
This will inform him, so that you have a better shot at being on the same page. If he starts to make excuses, or says that he is not interested in a long-term commitment, at least not right now, then accept his words as the truth.
If you are looking for long-term, committed relationship, then spend time with a guys who shares the same values and expectations. Watch his actions – they do speak louder than words!
Are You Desperately Seeking Your Soulmate?
As a psychic reader, I often deal with questions about love and relationships. Many clients ask about meeting their soulmate, twin flame, or special life partner.
A dear client once told me how desperate she was to find her soulmate. She said she wouldn’t be happy until she met him, as she believed he would complete her.
But Spirit did not respond with a simplistic prediction or quick fix. The message was clear and direct: she would never find a man to complete her. Instead, she would have to find happiness and fulfillment from within. Only after she accomplished this would she be able to find lasting happiness in a relationship.
I gave her some things she could do to help her and I was later thrilled to get an email from her telling me how thankful she was. She was looking to all the wrong things and people to give her the happiness she so desired.
She then asked me the right question and I was so happy she remembered! How could she connect with her true beloved?
I remote viewed and explained where I saw him and felt it was someone from her past and how she could find him by simply not looking, and we discussed many different things about this person.
She never realized it, until I finally mentioned to her, that this was her best friend that she had been in touch with for many years. They had had their ups and downs, but as I explained, even the best of marriages are like roller-coaster rides. It is not the easy connections that we gain the greatest amount of soul growth from. Instead, the relationships that aren’t easy are the ones that you become wiser from and gain the most wisdom from.