self-healing
Not Everyone Chooses The Path Of Healing
You’ve probably heard the phrase “what they don’t know can’t hurt them.” Sometimes this is true, but there are also times when what people choose to ignore or disregard can cause real harm – not only to themselves, but also to those around them.
For those of us with psychic or spiritual gifts, there’s an added complexity: the ability to sense the struggles of others, which leads to the question of when and how to help.
Intuitives, channelers and healers are very aware of the energy of others, even when we’re just going about our daily routines. Whether it’s a stranger in the grocery store or a friend across the room, we tend to sense when someone is struggling with grief, trauma or stress.
We may choose to quietly send them comforting or healing energy, hoping it will ease their pain, even if only for a moment, yet the urge to help can be very strong in these situations. And while reaching out and offering help can be very uplifting or rewarding for everyone involved, there are times when our attempts to help are met with resistance, or worse, denial.
It’s especially challenging to see someone we care about turn a blind eye to their own needs or pain, and even more so when our support is disregarded or unappreciated.
One of the hardest lessons I have had to learn in both my personal and professional life is that I can only help those who are willing to help themselves. The sad truth is that sometimes people choose not to act on information that could improve their lives or change their destiny. Instead, their negativity, anger, or fear allows the problem to fester or the behavior to grow, affecting not only themselves but also their loved ones. Over time, this denial creates a cycle of suffering that affects physical, mental and karmic health and well-being, sometimes for generations.
Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself ~ Deborah Reber
I once confided in a friend my psychic insights regarding a family member of hers who was struggling with behavior that was detrimental to her health and the well-being of the family. I hoped that sharing my concern would encourage her to intervene, but she chose to direct. A year later, her relative’s health deteriorated significantly, an outcome I sensed would happen if left unaddressed.
In such situations, I believe that major setbacks such as illness often act as a wake-up call from the divine – a siren to awaken us from our denial so that we can face our truth, change our ways, or find healing.
Allowing Others To Walk Their Path
Over the years, I’ve had many experiences where I’ve witnessed the effects of people’s resistance to change. For example, just this morning I noticed a man in the grocery store with an aura so weak it seemed as if his last life energy was ebbing away. As I tuned in, I sensed that he had struggled with alcohol and nicotine addiction for decades and that many loved ones had tried to help him quit. I quietly sent him healing energy and whispered a prayer on his behalf and moved on, only to see him later in the parking lot smoking another cigarette.
Moments like these are important reminders that people must want to help themselves for true change or healing to occur. We can read for them, pray for them, offer guidance and support, but if they’re not ready to let go of their suffering, it’s important to respect their journey of free will. This can be especially challenging with family and friends, as it’s hard to witness their pain without wanting to intervene.
Ultimately, we cannot force someone to choose healing, no matter how much we want to help. If someone you love is caught in a cycle of denial or self-destruction, we can turn the situation over to God or the universe. We can pray for their peace and well-being, but ultimately they must go their own way.
This can be a painful realization for healers, empaths and parents. But as we learn to let go, we open ourselves to a healthier way of supporting others – one that respects their choices and sustains our own energy. And as we let go, we create space for people who are truly ready to embrace change and growth.
The Karma Of Denial In Families
Every holiday season I used to gather with a group of people whose lives seemed to be filled with tension and unhealed wounds. It’s painful to see how resentment, unresolved conflict and toxicity prevent them from embracing the joys of life and their many daily blessings.
One family member, now deceased, couldn’t even travel with her family in peace. Their holidays were always filled with frustration, impatience and drama, while negativity suffocated the atmosphere. Her choices created a painful void that no one could fill, no matter how much anyone wished for her healing, including me.
In such cases, I believe that denial can lead to physical illness and mental dysfunction. Anger, fear and bitterness take a toll on the body over time and slowly manifest as dysfunction and disease. When this energy permeates a family, it’s as if an invisible web of negativity surrounds each member, affecting their mental and physical health. As much as I wanted to help them find peace, I ultimately had to accept their resistance and let go.
Parents have a particularly profound influence on the emotional and spiritual well-being of their children. When children grow up in an environment of anger, impatience, or resentment, they often carry these energies forward, creating karmic patterns that affect not only their adult lives and their own families, but also many future generations. By choosing kindness, compassion, tolerance, patience, and positivity, parents can instead give their children the gift of a karmic legacy of resilience, well-being, fulfillment, and joy.
Remember, children’s inner dialogue is shaped by what their parents do, not what they say. Positive reinforcement, love, and patience teach them to value themselves, which protects them from the cycle of negativity that many families unwittingly perpetuate. Think before you speak or act in anger; each word and action leaves a mark that can either uplift or burden them for life.
But until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise” ~ Stephen R. Covey
How To Protect Your Own Energy
For psychics, healers and empaths, the desire to help can feel almost automatic, but we must remember that not everyone is ready to receive healing. Here are some strategies for protecting your own energy and well-being when dealing with those who aren’t open to receiving help or who are trying to take advantage of your energy:
Set clear boundaries: Determine when and how to engage with people who drain your energy. Limit the amount of time you spend with them and, when necessary, communicate your boundaries kindly but firmly. Being around people who radiate anger or despair for long periods of time can be draining. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you don’t care; it’s a way to maintain your own well-being.
Use affirmations: Reinforce your boundaries and protect your energy with affirmations such as “I am protected and grounded” or “I allow only loving, healing energy to enter my space.
Limit emotional investment: Remind yourself that it’s okay to care without absorbing the struggles of others. Disconnect from their outcomes by focusing on what you can realistically offer and letting go of what you cannot control.
Let go with love: Recognize that everyone is on their own journey. If someone resists or refuses your help, release with compassion, recognizing that sometimes the most healing act is to let them learn in their own time and way.
Stop offering help uninvited: It’s natural to want to step in and help or send healing to someone in pain, but if the person hasn’t asked for it and isn’t seeking change, sending energy can be counterproductive. Recognize that some people have chosen their path and trying to intervene can drain your own resources. Let Spirit guide you in this process and trust your intuition. Just as our ancestors, spirit guides and angels will not interfere with our free will unless we ask for their help, we must accept and respect the free will of others.
Ask for divine intervention: Sometimes the best and only way to help is through prayer, turning the situation over to a higher power and the universe. We can’t heal, save, or help everyone, especially those who are not ready or willing. Through prayer, we can place our intentions positively into the capable hands of God, Source, Spirit, the Divine, while accepting the limits of our own influence and abilities.
Ground yourself daily: Use grounding techniques such as visualization or meditation to connect with the earth’s energy. Imagine roots extending from your feet deep into the earth, releasing any negativity and drawing in stabilizing energy.
Engage in energy clearing: Regularly clear your energy field with sage, palo santo, or other tools, especially after interactions with draining people.
Practice shielding: Visualize an energetic barrier around you-like a protective bubble or cloak-that filters out negativity and prevents unwanted energies from attaching to you.
Use protective crystals: Wear crystals such as black tourmaline, smoky quartz, or amethyst, which are known to absorb and transmute negative energy, especially during interactions that may be challenging.
Limit your exposure to negativity: Avoid people, places, situations, or activities that are overly negative, toxic, or draining. Be selective about how and where you spend your time, and disengage when situations become too intense. Social media exposure can also be a significant source of negativity and emotional triggers. Limit your time scrolling, especially on days when you are feeling vulnerable, and follow accounts that inspire and uplift you rather than those that add to your stress.
Replenish through self-care: Engage in activities and spiritual practices that recharge you, such as spending time in nature, practicing yoga, praying, or meditating. Maintaining a strong sense of self helps to buffer against energetic depletion.
Prioritize your inner circle: Invest your energy in relationships that uplift and support you. Surrounding yourself with like-minded, positive people helps sustain your energy and builds resilience.
The Spiritual Power Of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful therapeutic tool for those who view spirituality as a journey of personal growth, karmic healing, and soul evolution. NLP’s focus on reframing beliefs, improving communication, and cultivating self-awareness resonates deeply with modern spiritual aspirations.
Rather than seeing NLP as simply a set of psychological techniques, many spiritually-minded people use it as a means of transforming inner blockages, clearing old patterns, and creating a life that serves their highest good. With NLP, personal growth becomes a conscious journey in which the mind, heart and spirit work together in harmony.
At its core, NLP emphasizes the power of our beliefs and the language we use – two aspects that are also relevant to spirituality. Many spiritual seekers strive to release limiting beliefs and align with their true self and divine potential, and NLP offers practical tools to make this personal transformation possible.
By teaching you how to identify and reprogram subconscious thoughts, NLP empowers you to change habitual responses, tap into your creative potential, and live with greater intention. This approach resonates with those of us on a spiritual path because it addresses one of the central concepts in several spiritual teachings and esoteric traditions: the belief that our inner world shapes our outer reality, and that by changing our mindset we can transform our life experiences.
When applied with a spiritual perspective, NLP becomes a means of aligning with one’s higher purpose, healing karmic wounds, and fostering self-love. By understanding how thoughts, emotions, and language interact to shape reality, those on a path of spiritual growth can use NLP to accelerate their journey and transform both their inner landscape and outer reality.
Karmic Healing: Can You Handle The Truth?
In the famous courtroom drama A Few Good Men, Jack Nicholson’s character, Colonel Jessup, exclaims in an iconic movie moment, “You can’t handle the truth!”
I suspect this scene has become legendary in movie history because it resonates so deeply with most people. On some level, many of us sometimes struggle to face the truth about ourselves and our lives.
Whether it’s difficult memories, unhealed wounds, failed relationships, or unspoken regrets, facing our truth can be challenging, even traumatic or overwhelming.
Yet, from a spiritual perspective, facing and owning our truth is one of the most powerful steps we can take on our path to karmic healing and soul growth.
Our soul journey is a karmic balancing act in which the energy we put out into the world eventually comes back to us. When we hide from our truth – whether through denial, justification or avoidance – we accumulate karmic debt.
Like a heavy boulder that we carrry around, karmic debt hinders our soul growth and spiritual progress. On the other hand, when we consciously choose to face our truth, we release this burden and open ourselves to healing, growth, fulfillment and inner peace.
Denial is our most common response to unpleasant truths. We tend to avoid acknowledging aspects of ourselves that we find unattractive, justify our negative behaviors, and make excuses for our bad choices and failures in order to protect our fragile human egos. However, these “untruths” build up over time. By avoiding them, we create layers of illusion that distance us from who we really are and cloud our understanding of our soul purpose and the divine spark within.
Forgiveness Is Choosing To Take Back Your Power
Ah, forgiveness! Such a misunderstood concept. For many people, forgiveness, as noble as it may sound, is very difficult, even impossible.
Sometimes certain wrongs are so grave to us that the offender doesn’t deserve forgiveness in our eyes. There is also a misconception that forgiving someone is tantamount to excusing or justifying their terrible actions. But forgiveness is not about absolving someone of responsibility. Instead, it is a powerful, personal act of release and healing.
When we forgive someone, whether they’ve hurt us emotionally, betrayed our trust, or even caused us physical harm, we’re not letting them off the hook.
We are not condoning their actions or giving them permission to repeat those offenses. Rather, we are choosing to free ourselves from the weight of resentment, pain, and bitterness that binds us to them and their past actions.
Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. It allows us to move forward without the burden of past grievances and with an open heart, free of resentment.
By forgiving, we determine for ourselves that the transgressor’s actions and the memory of their misdeeds will no longer hold us hostage or march with us into the future.
While we may not be responsible for what happened to us in the past, we are responsible for how we choose to carry the memory of it into the future. This is the power of forgiveness: it gives us the strength to embrace our present reality with clarity, compassion, and freedom. It also transforms our future, for it is ultimately a karmic choice that will shape our destiny in ways we will only understand much later in this life and beyond.
Transform Your Life With Akashic Healing
Exploring my own Akashic record was a profoundly healing and enlightening experience. By accessing this information, I was able to uncover deep-rooted karmic patterns that spanned across lifetimes. Discovering the origins of these patterns helped me understand why certain fears and emotional blockages existed in my present life.
For example, one major discovery I made was the origin of a lingering fear of abandonment and persecution that I could not attribute to anything that had happened in my current lifetime.
By delving into my Akashic record, I uncovered past life memories of being persecuted as a witch and burned alive at the stake, which had left an indelible imprint on my soul memory. Although this discovery was painful, it gave me the clarity I needed to heal those karmic wounds.
The Akashic Records are a metaphysical “library” or energetic “database” that contains all the information about our soul’s journey across lifetimes. The Akasha holds records of every thought, action, emotion and experience our soul has ever had. It is part of the collective consciousness or universal memory that transcends time and space, and by tapping into this archived metaphysical information, one can gain insight into one’s past lives, current life situations, and potential future paths.
The term “Akasha” comes from the Sanskrit word for “ether” or “sky” and refers to the source energy or creative life force that permeates the entire universe. In Hinduism and Buddhism, Akasha is traditionally seen as the primary substance from which all things are formed and is considered the fifth element, along with earth, water, fire, and air.
How To Embrace Your Shadow Self
Most people tend to shy away from acknowledging their dark or “shadow” side when it comes to spirituality.
In fact, the tendency to avoid the uncomfortable aspects of the self is due in large part to our religious or spiritual background. Throughout history, most traditions have encouraged people to suppress, deny, or transcend their human flaws and shortcomings in favor of higher ideals such as purity, salvation, or enlightenment.
This reluctance to face the shadow within continues to this day, with modern spiritual and metaphysical communities often favoring light, love, and positivity while largely ignoring the messy, difficult, and painful aspects of the human experience.
But by avoiding the shadow within, we deny ourselves the opportunity for a deeper understanding of our soul’s purpose and untapped possibilities for personal and spiritual growth.
According to Carl Jung, the famous Swiss psychiatrist who pioneered the concept of the “shadow” in psychology, “one is not enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Enlightenment isn’t about avoiding the shadow. Instead, it’s about facing it and integrating it into our being.
When we face the shadow within, we reclaim parts of ourselves that hold immense power, creativity, and insight. By delving into the deeper truths of our shadow selves, we can unravel the unconscious patterns that dictate our lives, allowing for true healing, transformation, and enlightenment.
Healing Your Chakras With Flower Power
Plants have long been regarded as nature’s healers, offering remedies for a wide range of physical ailments. But beyond their traditional medicinal uses, plants — especially flowers — have incredible energetic properties that can profoundly affect our well-being.
As a firm believer in the healing power of plants. I have seen firsthand how Mother Nature can work in harmony with our body, mind and spirit.
Flowers in particular, with their delicate beauty, aromatic essential oils and subtle vibrational frequencies, have powerful healing properties.
It is no coincidence that flowers are used in many cultural traditions to convey empathy and caring, to provide comfort, and to promote well-being. This is not simply because flowers are pretty and colorful, but because they have such powerful healing properties.
In many cultures, flowers are used to express sympathy and support. For example, it is common to send a bouquet of “get well soon” flowers to someone who is ill or recovering from surgery. Flowers such as lilies and daisies are often chosen for their associations with purity and cheerfulness, helping to lift the recipient’s spirits and contribute to emotional healing.
In Japan the practice of giving flowers, known as hanakotoba (flower language), is deeply embedded in cultural rituals. Each flower has a specific meaning, and their use conveys messages of sympathy, respect or congratulations. Chrysanthemums are associated with long life and are often given to the sick or elderly to wish them good health and longevity. The thoughtful selection of flowers is believed to bring emotional healing and comfort. Continue reading