Self-Care
Cutting The Toxic Cords That Bind Us
In every relationship – romantic, platonic, professional – there is a metaphysical cord of attachment that exhanges energy from one person to the other.
These energy cords can be thought of as WiFi signals, electrical circuits, or even surgical tubes that transfer mental, emotional, and spiritual energies between individuals. They are the invisible ties of love that keep us connected to our loved ones.
I remember reading an article years ago about the intense grief of famous American singer Dean Martin after the tragic death of his eldest son. His boy was a fighter pilot in the California Air National Guard and lost his life in a plane crash during a training flight in 1987.
Martin described the loss as feeling as if his “heart had been ripped out.” This vivid description is a testament to the reality of these ties that bind us. The intense pain the singer felt was essentially his heart chakra feeling ‘broken.’ The loss had a profound impact on the remainder of his life and career.
The concept of these cords may seem abstract, but their effects are very tangible. They are not just symbolic; they are very real and have a profound effect on our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being on a daily basis.
When we engage in any kind of relationship with someone, these energetic cords extend from our chakras, or energy centers, to those of the other person. While these soul-to-soul cords feed us with all the good energies that come from being connected to others, such as love, nurturing, and belonging, they can also have the opposite effect.
Practical Techniques For Psychic Protection
Psychic protection, also known as spiritual or energetic protection, is a practice I hold dear because it helps shield me from negative energies, psychic attacks, and unwanted influences.
The concept is not new. Mystical protection practices can be traced back to various ancient civilizations, indigenous traditions, Eastern philosophies, and Western esoteric practices.
In ancient Egypt, Greece, and Rome, amulets and talismans were worn and protective deities invoked to ward off negative energies and evil spirits. Indigenous cultures in the Americas and Africa used smudging and rituals to summon ancestral spirits for protection.
Eastern religious traditions such as Hinduism and Buddhism use mantras, yantras, and meditation for spiritual protection. Kabbalistic traditions emphasize the use of specific prayers and rituals to create spiritual shields. These practices reflect a deep-rooted belief in the power of divine intervention and sacred symbols to provide protection.
In Catholicism, believers recite prayers such as the Lord’s Prayer or the prayer to St. Michael for protection from evil. They may also use holy water, crucifixes, or medals of saints as protective symbols. In Judaism, the recitation of Psalms and the use of amulets inscribed with Hebrew verses are common practices for protection against negative influences.
Contemporary spiritual communities have adapted these ancient practices to include the use of crystals, energy healing, and visualization techniques. Workshops, books, and teachings offer a wealth of methods for psychic protection, all aimed at maintaining a balanced, protected, and positive state of being. These diverse traditions and modern adaptations underscore the universal spiritual need to protect ourselves from unseen negative energies and dark influences.
Learning To Trust Your Inner Truth
Have you ever noticed that whenever you’re really enjoying what you’re doing, it’s as if there’s an amazing energy flow or undercurrent carrying you along?
In these magical moments it feels as if the universe itself is moving with you, effortlessly aligning circumstances, people, and opportunities in your favor.
Don’t you wish you could live like this all the time? Imagine a life where every decision you make feels right, where your inner compass is so attuned to your truth that you rarely second-guess yourself.
Unfortunately, we too often worry about what others might think of us, or we choose the practical path – the road most traveled. We fall into the trap of following the opinions of others instead of tuning in and listening to our own inner guidance.
The fear of rejection or failure too often looms large, keeping us tethered to a path that feel safe but uninspiring. We convince ourselves that following our soul’s calling is a luxury rather than a necessity.
Following your inner truth is not selfish. Following the flow of what is true for you also doesn’t mean you’re shirking your responsibilities. It simply means that you are choosing, moment by moment, what feels right for your soul.
Society bombards us daily with standards and our families with expectations of what’s right and acceptable, yet how often do we stop and do a self-check-in? How often do we ask ourselves, “Is this really what I want?” instead of “Is this what I’m supposed to want?”
What The Mind Believes, The Body Perceives
Self-talk and inner dialogue play a crucial role in our overall well-being – body, mind and spirit. The way we think and talk to ourselves shapes our reality, affecting not only our emotions and moods, but also our physical health.
For example, if we wake up and immediately think, “I feel terrible. I’m still exhausted. I don’t want to face the day,” our body will respond in kind. We’ll move sluggishly, feel each ache more intensely, and reinforce a state of fatigue.
Negative self-talk can even affect digestion, metabolism, and immune function because the body takes its cues from the mind. When we repeatedly tell ourselves that we lack energy, the body responds by slowing down.
However, when we consciously shift our thoughts to a more positive perspective, we cultivate an inner environment that supports healing, resilience, and vitality.
The same principle applies to how we perceive ourselves physically. If we stand in front of the mirror and focus on perceived flaws, our posture and energy will reflect that self-criticism. We may unconsciously choose clothing that reinforces our negative self-image and move through the day with slumped shoulders and diminished confidence. Our bodies reflect the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Conversely, when we practice self-talk that is uplifting and empowering, our body responds accordingly. By consciously choosing to carry ourselves with confidence, even if it feels unnatural at first, we initiate a shift in both our emotional and physical states.
Tarot Forecast April 2025: Five Of Wands
The Five of Wands sets a confrontational tone this month, predicting energies of challenge, competition, and inner or outer conflict.
But don’t be alarmed by the mayhem and drama it implies — this is not a card of disaster. Rather, it’s a reminder that the most meaningful growth often comes from pushing through obstacles, navigating differences, and finding our unique voice amidst the chaos and discord.
The Five of Wands represents differences that are not insurmountable, but rather opportunities for growth through constructive conflict. You may find yourself in situations where differing opinions, clashing ideas, or rivalries take center stage.
While these moments may feel chaotic at first, they have the potential to lead to breakthroughs and innovative solutions. Embrace the chaos as an opportunity to sharpen your skills and prove your resilience.
In the coming weeks you may experience moments of intensity, whether in your relationships, your career or your personal life. But this energy also urges you to rise above, to think creatively, and to remain adaptable.
While this card does not promise smooth sailing, its message is one of growth through resilience. By maintaining balance, addressing conflict head-on, and remaining open to collaboration, you can turn this month’s challenges into stepping stones to success. It’s a time to fully engage, adapt, and emerge stronger on the other side.
Clearing Toxic Energy From Your Home
When I do a reading for a client, I not only read their energy, but I also tune into the energy of their loved ones, co-workers, friends, home and work environments, and community. Often, it quickly becomes apparent that the client’s home environment is toxic, stagnant, or energetically polluted, deeply affecting their health, well-being, and spiritual harmony.
In these cases, clients often report a mix of physical and emotional symptoms commonly seen with energy pollution, which may include fatigue, irritability, anxiety, depression, oversleeping or insomnia, cravings for sugar, caffeine, or alcohol.
Sometimes there are also spiritual, supernatural, or paranormal issues in the home. These may include a persistent feeling of “being watched” or an unexplained heaviness or unusual temperature variations in certain areas of their home.
Clients may also describe disturbing dreams and nighmares, an inability to connect with their intuition, or a sense of spiritual detachment. Some even mention hearing unexplained noises or experiencing a frequent loss of items in the home that later turn up in strange or unexpected places.
The reason for this is that a energetically polluted environment tends to amplify negative spiritual attachments or attract energies that feed on the chaos. Such clients often express difficulty maintaining protective spiritual practices, such as meditation or grounding, and feel that their energy feeling drained or blocked.
Surround Yourself With Love, Light And Positive People
Some people emanate a charismatic warmth and depth that is almost otherworldly. Their presence is soothing, their energy uplifting, and their kindness genuine.
These are the souls you want to stay connected with — the ones who inspire, support and nurture your growth. They bring light into your life, and in their company you feel understood, valued, and enriched. Such people are rare gems, and when you find them, you cherish them.
On the other hand, some people remain stagnant in their personal growth and soul evolution. They resist change and cling to old patterns and limiting beliefs. Again, this is part of the human experience, and it is not for others to judge.
Instead, I imagine them finding their own path elsewhere. I envision them thriving, but at a distance from my own journey. It is not selfish to protect your own energy; it is necessary for your health and well-being.
Then there are those who seem perpetually stuck in a schoolyard mentality, indulging in gossip and petty rivalries. Although they have grown physically, their emotional and spiritual maturity lags behind. The game of “grapevine” is their chosen pastime, spreading rumors, conspiracy theories and toxic negativity.
These individuals serve as a spiritual reminder of what we must rise above. Instead of engaging them, release them with love – let them be do their karmic growth somewhere else, far from your peace and joy. Continue reading