We Can’t Always Rescue The Ones We Love
A topic that often comes up in psychic readings is the client’s concern for someone they love – a child, significant other, sibling, close friend, or even a co-worker.
The problem? Usually the person has chosen a path that is confusing, destructive, or even life-threatening: substance abuse, toxic relationships, unwise career moves, or a lifestyle that just doesn’t make sense to the onlooker.
If you’re nodding your head right now about someone in your own family or circle of friends, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there – watching someone we love make free will choices that, from our perspective, can only lead to pain, loss, or utter disaster.
Maybe they have moved in with someone who is controlling and abusive, or they dropped out of college to move across the country and get married to someone they hardly know. Or maybe they are determined to put their life savings into a shady Ponzi scheme. Maybe they keep repeating choices and patterns that seem so clearly wrong for them.
Maybe you’ve seen the red flags from day one, and your heart is already aching with a kind of spiritual déjà vu…because you know what’s coming. And yet…you feel powerless to stop it.
This is where spiritual teachings can offer both comfort and perspective. According to many wisdom traditions, it’s often the most painful, confusing, or seemingly misguided paths that lead to the greatest soul growth. Sometimes a person must walk through fire or descend into darkness to find their light. And as difficult as that is to witness, it may very well be part of their soul plan.
Why You’re Absolutely Meant To Be Here!
Lately I’ve been hearing more cries for help from clients saying things like: “I really don’t want to be here anymore,” “No one will even miss me when I’m gone,” or “This world is not for me, I never belonged here anyway.”
This sense of despair seems to have increased in recent times. For many, there seems to be an overwhelming sense that the world is spinning out of control. More and more people are struggling with a deep sense of disconnection and hopelessness, triggered by the relentless pace of global upheaval and chaos.
Some also speak of a deep inner alienation — a quiet pain that comes from trying to reconcile their heartfelt values and dreams with a daily reality that feels cold, uncertain, cruel, and fragmented. They no longer see the compassion, unity, or progress they once believed in, and this leaves them questioning their place in the world, or if they even belong here.
It is a powerful reminder of the urgent need for the world’s lightworkers to rise — to hold space, to nurture hope, to foster connection, and to work toward a more compassionate and sustainable future.
I, for one, do not share this negative view regarding my place and purpose in this world, because about three decades ago I faced a serious illness that nearly ended my life. This traumatic chapter led me to a profound realization: we plan our lives before we incarnate, and we all absolutely belong here!
From Lightwork And High Vibes, To Laundry And Dirty Dishes!
To be in the world…but not of it! I imagine this is the secret wish of many a professional psychic. We walk between two worlds on a daily basis – one rooted in spiritual awareness and higher consciousness, the other deeply embedded in the human condition and everyday reality.
Our clients prefer to see us as serene and calm mystics who somehow exist above the daily struggles of ordinary people. But let me be clear: life happens to psychics, too. And sometimes it gets messy!
For example, like everyone else, I have to take care of my usual household chores despite a demanding work schedule. Today I have bills to pay, dishes to wash, and a pile of laundry to do, just to name a few. I don’t get a pass just because I tune into the higher realms for a living.
Short of living in a cave somewhere (and believe me, I’ve been tempted!), psychics are not immune to the challenges and chaos of everyday life.
But what we can do, and what many of us learn to master over time, is to hold a sacred space within ourselves — a sanctuary in our hearts that remains untouched even when the world around us is swirling with turbulence.
Oddly enough, I feel that facing the messy, painful, chaotic challenges of daily life is essential for psychic professionals. These experiences serve as connection points in our spiritual work because they ground us, keep us humble, and make us relatable.
The Ripple Effect Of Radiating Good Vibes!
There have been times when leaving home on a miserable day has felt like a major challenge for me as an empath. However, after completing my errands, I often find myself unexpectedly uplifted, simply by the energy of the people and places I encounter.
Recently, while shopping for a new journal, one particular notebook caught my eye because of the title printed on the cover: Good Vibes. I ended up going back to add it to my cart because those two simple words stuck with me. Some good vibrations are certainly always welcome in today’s chaotic world!
In this particular store, the staff is incredibly friendly, always ready with a smile and a warm greeting. Even the people stocking the shelves take a moment to acknowledge customers, creating a welcoming atmosphere. These small, everyday interactions are still commonplace in the small town where I live in Spain, and long may they continue!
The little notebook and this friendly exchange reminded me that “good vibes” is not just a phrase on a cover, but a very real force that shapes our daily experiences.
As I was driving home thinking about this, I noticed a gentleman who was busy smoothing out some gravel on the country road. He had stopped to have a conversation with the person in the car in front of me.
As I was about to go around them, he said goodbye to the person he was talking to and approached me. My first thought was that he was trying to warn me of a problem on the road ahead or maybe point out a problem with my car. It was drizzling and damp and he was soaked, but when I rolled down my window he just smiled and asked how I was doing.
Cutting The Toxic Cords That Bind Us
In every relationship – romantic, platonic, professional – there is a metaphysical cord of attachment that exhanges energy from one person to the other.
These energy cords can be thought of as WiFi signals, electrical circuits, or even surgical tubes that transfer mental, emotional, and spiritual energies between individuals. They are the invisible ties of love that keep us connected to our loved ones.
I remember reading an article years ago about the intense grief of famous American singer Dean Martin after the tragic death of his eldest son. His boy was a fighter pilot in the California Air National Guard and lost his life in a plane crash during a training flight in 1987.
Martin described the loss as feeling as if his “heart had been ripped out.” This vivid description is a testament to the reality of these ties that bind us. The intense pain the singer felt was essentially his heart chakra feeling ‘broken.’ The loss had a profound impact on the remainder of his life and career.
The concept of these cords may seem abstract, but their effects are very tangible. They are not just symbolic; they are very real and have a profound effect on our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being on a daily basis.
When we engage in any kind of relationship with someone, these energetic cords extend from our chakras, or energy centers, to those of the other person. While these soul-to-soul cords feed us with all the good energies that come from being connected to others, such as love, nurturing, and belonging, they can also have the opposite effect.
The Bliss Of Being In Your Element
A former co-worker I hadn’t heard from in years recently contacted me. She asked me how I was doing.
“I’m in my element!” I said. “Working from home, doing what I love, and surrounded by my menagerie of many.”
After our chat, I began to think about what I had just said. The phrase “being in my element” isn’t something I use regularly, so it made me pause and consider its true meaning. What does it mean to be in one’s element?
The saying “being in your element” has its ancient mystical roots. Historically, the concept of “elements” referred to the four classical elements — earth, water, air, and fire — that were believed to make up the world. Each element was thought to have its own characteristics, and people were metaphorically associated with an element that suited their personality or environment.
For example, to say that someone is “in their element” was to compare them to a fish in water — perfectly suited to their surroundings. Over time, this literal meaning evolved into the figurative meaning we use today: feeling comfortable, confident, and successful in a situation that matches one’s abilities or preferences.
As I examined my current life circumstances, I realized that I had intentionally set my vision and manifested exactly the work environment I wanted. This wasn’t an accident — it was the power of focused intention and alignment with my true calling. Continue reading