self-reflection
Small Steps To Big Changes
Making positive changes in your life can often feel like an insurmountable task. At times it can be so daunting that it might even seem easier to just have things stay the same, no matter how uncomfortable it has become.
This is especially true when we have been working on the same aspect of our life for years and still not seeing the results we were hoping for, whether the issue is weight loss, finances, health and wellness, family, career, or relationship.
For me the challenge was a particularly frustrating relationship situation. I felt that no matter what I did, no matter how hard I tried to grow and move forward, I always got sucked back into the drama and negativity.
I continually called on my angels and spirit guides to help me improve the relationship, to heal our issues, release our karma, and so forth. I tried anything and everything I could think of to achieve some of the harmony and peace I so much desired in my life.
This went on for years, and I was ready to throw in the towel and just accept that this one area of my life would always be out of balance. But as soon as I let go, I received the most amazing piece of information from my guides!
They showed me how I was focusing too much on the big picture, or the end result. I also realized that because everything wasn’t miraculously healed over night, I was becoming frustrated and disregarding all the tiny steps and improvements I had been making in repairing the relationship.
My guides further told me to break the steps in the healing and reconciliation process down into smaller parts. Instead of seeking instant and complete resolution, I should be working towards small daily improvements. If I do this consistently, I will soon reach the end goal.
Embrace Your Endless Possibilities
No matter how psychic we are (or think we are), we are not! We all have a lot more to develop and learn. The possibilities of the Universe are endless, and so are we. When I just begin to think about this, it becomes truly mind-boggling. There are a lot more to us than most of us realize. Only the end of each lifetime, when we cross over into the spirit realm, do we really comprehend the true purpose and potential of our chosen life paths. Until then the wise thing to do is make a real daily effort with our spiritual practice and personal growth.
I have been dealing with some physical health problems in recent years, but I refuse to think of myself as ill. I am constantly working on myself psychically, while I am also physically following the doctor’s advice. I just do what I have to do. A wisdom I must share is that when we are physically unwell, we should never just rely on the spiritual or metaphysical. We must also rely on our medical doctor and other professional healthcare providers. Modern medical science is a gift from God and we must use it in our lives for our highest good. Science and spirituality works hand-in-hand.
I have also been working on past life healing a lot lately using both meditation during the day, and dreamwork at night. Before I sleep, I ask my higher self or subconscious self to reveal information to me about my former lives, while I am in the dream state. It is fascinating. You know how we dream and forget the dreams when we awake? Well, those dreams seem to hang in our memories, and they come up in our memories throughout the day.
Recently, I dreamed of a busy, happy lady, walking through food markets, and all kinds of crowded markets. She looked like she was wrapped in a beautiful violet fabric. I saw a mark on her third eye. She was smiling, waving hello to everyone! Everyone was calling her “Anika.” I swear I never heard that name before, but it did seem like it might have been my name in a former life. I will continue to work on this; I guess my higher self feels it’s time for me to learn more about her.
Love, Joy And The Pursuit Of Happiness
According to the United States Declaration of Independence “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” are the inalienable birthrights of every human being given to us by our Creator, God, Source, the Divine.
Sadly, I find very few people to be successful in their pursuit of happiness. The same is true for finding love and joy. It seems many are merely stumbling through life trying to find it.
A teacher once told me life is like school. For some of us it’s like kindergarten – easy, uncomplicated, and lots of fun. For others it’s like graduate school with lots of difficulties and challenges to overcome.
Searching for joy, love and happiness does seem to be a ‘wild goose chase’ for many people. It truly is like chasing wild animals. The faster we run after it, the more it seems to flee. I don’t believe joy, love and happiness can be found. Well, at least not in the ways that many of us are hoping to find it.
Like happiness, the right to love is also the natural inheritance of every person. The well-known channeled text, A Course in Miracles, delves into the idea of love from a spiritual perspective. It states that it is impossible to teach love. Instead, the goal should be to remove the blockages or obstacles we have to allowing love’s presence in our lives.
I have seen repeated evidence of this in doing readings for many years now. Certain reading themes are repetitive and common themes are ‘finding love,’ or the ‘lack of love,’ or ‘loss of love.’ In all these readings one thing always becomes very clear: love itself is not an ‘out there’ thing. It is also not something that can be received from another person or thing.
In readings, Spirit will often say, “Love is not a feeling.” This one initially took me a while to understand myself, until I realized that love is in fact an intrinsic quality of being. It is already within each of us. We refer to it as the Higher Self, the Soul, or the Spirit. No one is ever separated from this innate love because it is an intrinsic aspect of our very being.
Turn Your Setbacks Into Inspirational Comebacks
A friend recently mentioned she was applying for a new position as a trainer in her company. She was so excited. She had applied for the same job two years ago, but with the events of the Covid-19 pandemic things didn’t work out. He mother was meanwhile diagnosed with cancer and passed away early this year.
The same position was advertised recently, and she applied again. She says she felt it was the right time for her. She has two more years of life experience now and it was also a blessing that she didn’t get the job before, as she probably would have been unable to spend much time with her mom before passing. Everything happens for a reason.
I also watched the Tokyo Olympics recently. The media reported amazing stories of athletes from all around the world who had to overcome many obstacles and setbacks in order to qualify, compete and, in some cases, win medals.
These stories reminded me that we all have ‘comebacks’ in us. The resilience of the human spirit is truly remarkable. Comebacks are so inspirational! To see someone with goals and aspirations fail or suffer disappointment, and then get a second chance to ultimately succeed, is testament to our capacity for inner strength, bravery and courage.
Much good often comes from adversity and setbacks. Life’s obstacles are often a blessing in disguise, or a doorway to greater heights, even if we don’t usually see or feel it at the time. Similar to healing from loss or grief, it takes the time it needs to reveal its true meaning or lesson. Sometimes it is simply not the right time.
Know that there is usually a greater good to every setback. Something better may be coming your way, or somehow you are being protected, shielded or re-directed for your highest good. It may not make sense at this time, but eventually it will.
Taking Time Out On Life’s Park Bench
Recently, I had the wonderful experience of meeting a mature gentleman who was sitting in the park on a bench. As I approached the bench, I noticed he was smiling and writing on a manila notepad. I sat down on the next bench to enjoy the sounds of the wind, and the birds, and the barking of a dog playing nearby with a little boy.
The gentleman introduced himself and we began talking. I asked him what he was so furiously writing about in his notepad?
“Life,” he said and smiled.
I obviously had a puzzled look on my face and he laughed. I asked what was so funny? He answered with a puzzling question.
“Well, what does the word ‘life’ mean to you?”
We then began a very pleasant philosophical conversation about metaphysics. I confided that I was in fact a psychic and we talked about energy, manifesting, meditation, and psychic phenomena.
At one point he asked me how I handle crossroads or major decisions in my life? Now it was my turn to laugh. He cocked his head and seemed curious as to my reaction.
“Well, we all deal with life changes and crossroads differently,” I said, “but since you are writing about ‘life’ on your notepad, I suspect you’re busy making a list of all the pros and cons of the dilemma or life choice you’re currently facing?”
“Yes,” he admitted. “That’s exactly what I’m doing.”
Only You Can Change Your Life
Why does it always happen to me? This is a common question I have heard many times over the past 40 years working as a psychic reader and spiritual advisor. In my experience, the real question is not ‘why’ something happens to a person. Instead, the question is, what does the person expect?
I find most people are perfectly capable of being very understanding, tolerant and patient, but there are times when all these values and best intentions instantly disappear because we demand and resist. The pain of being hurt or disappointed can sometimes turn people into a mere shadow of themselves – and this is usually the time when the ‘why me’ question comes up.
The spiritual truth is that life is hollow without constant growth and change, but things do not always go our way, because spirit sometimes has something better planned for us. Divine timing and divine intervention always aim to serve our highest good, but we too often refuse to accept these blessings in disguise.
As spiritual beings in human form we want to change things to make our lives better: jobs, trades, businesses, hobbies, lifestyles, partners, homes, locations, even countries. But we tend to be fearful of the unknown and the uncertain. So, our ego begins to interfere and we try to control everything and everyone to get what we think we want and need.
To make the most of the energies of spiritual and personal growth, expansion, and transformation, we must overcome this fear of the unknown and accept life changes, challenges, and transitions as they come. Resisting the divine intervention of what is meant to be only serves to block or derail our progress. We must get out of our own way.
I regularly experience this desperation with some of my clients, for example, when they are trying to change their partner’s wicked ways or annoying habits. They refuse to accept the truth about the other person’s behavior or personality, and then they are devastated when the relationship outcome is not what they expected.
Reclaim Your Energy For Financial Prosperity
You may be surprised to learn that I find doing readings about money and finances to be no different from doing a love or relationship reading. In my experience, how we handle money is usually exactly the same as how we operate in relationships and how we ultimately treat ourselves and others. How we earn and spend money is also how we love ourselves and others. In the end it is all about how we manage our personal energy.
For example, if you constantly find yourself in overwhelming debt, consider how you operate in your relationships. Do you feel as if you give, and give, and give, and rarely get anything back? Do you feel as if you are always pursuing relationships and they are unwilling to commit? Is it typically an ‘on again, off again’ scenario?
Now consider how this also reflects in your money matters and financial management. Do you find that as soon as you have money it is already spent? Is it continuously flowing out? Do you struggle to hold on to, or build any savings? The deeper truth is that this constant ‘scarcity’ or ‘lack’ is the result of a fear of owning our power.
Do a simple exercise by becoming quiet and centered. Calm your mind and body and then call on your angels and guides. Ask them to show you what it would feel like to hold on to just ten percent more of your energy. Increase this every day for ten days and you will now know what it is like to hold on to hundred percent of your energy!
Once you have reclaimed all your energy, ask your spirit helpers to teach you how to carry this newfound sense of personal power into your daily life. If you are like many of my clients, you will soon find that both your financial priorities have shifted. You will be making less impulse purchases and find yourself saving for the things that are more in alignment with your higher self.