From Lightwork And High Vibes, To Laundry And Dirty Dishes!

To be in the world…but not of it! I imagine this is the secret wish of many a professional psychic. We walk between two worlds on a daily basis – one rooted in spiritual awareness and higher consciousness, the other deeply embedded in the human condition and everyday reality.

Our clients prefer to see us as serene and calm mystics who somehow exist above the daily struggles of ordinary people. But let me be clear: life happens to psychics, too. And sometimes it gets messy!

For example, like everyone else, I have to take care of my usual household chores despite a demanding work schedule. Today I have bills to pay, dishes to wash, and a pile of laundry to do, just to name a few. I don’t get a pass just because I tune into the higher realms for a living.

Short of living in a cave somewhere (and believe me, I’ve been tempted!), psychics are not immune to the challenges and chaos of everyday life.

But what we can do, and what many of us learn to master over time, is to hold a sacred space within ourselves — a sanctuary in our hearts that remains untouched even when the world around us is swirling with turbulence.

Oddly enough, I feel that facing the messy, painful, chaotic challenges of daily life is essential for psychic professionals. These experiences serve as connection points in our spiritual work because they ground us, keep us humble, and make us relatable.

When a client tells me they’re running around like a “headless chicken,” I can really relate. I get it. I live it, too. My own struggles are a gift because they allow me to truly understand and relate to the people who come to me for guidance and support.

It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties ~ Abigail Adams

What’s always been a great comfort to me is how spirit always steps up to support me in my work. I can have a very difficult day or feel considerable turmoil within myself — exhaustion, worry, or even grief — yet as soon as I begin a reading, something shifts. I am immediately lifted out of my immediate concerns and carried into an elevated state of mind and a deeper sense of presence. It’s as if spirit is saying, “We’ve got this now.” All my mundane worries immediately fade away and I become a clear, focused vessel.

I had a powerful reminder of this just yesterday. I was in the middle of a phone reading on Psychic Access when suddenly my reading room was filled with the most exquisite scent. It was unmistakably like the scent of the “Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow” shrub (Brunfelsia pauciflora) that used to bloom outside my old workplace in South Africa many years ago. This evergreen plant is famous for its color-changing flowers that start out purple, fade to lavender, and finally turn white over the course of a few days — hence its poetic name.

The familiar floral aroma was so distinct and so out of nowhere that I knew it was a sign. That shrub that used to be outside my office window had always brought me so much joy and comfort on difficult days. It was undoubtedly a fragrant calling card from spirit, for I do not have a”Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow” shrub in my garden here in Spain.

The scent lingered for the rest of the day — a powerful reminder that the guidance I offer doesn’t come from me, but through me. Mystical experiences like these humble me. They remind me that as psychics we are not the source — we are simply the channels. And as such, we are also ‘held,’ just as much as we hold others.

Still, it’s important to acknowledge that being a psychic — especially a full-time working psychic — can be emotionally and energetically taxing at times. We take on a lot, not only in the readings we offer, but in the fabric of our daily lives. Many psychics, mediums and healers I know have a strong sense of duty and responsibility to be of service. We have a built-in desire to help. We feel and experience life more deeply. And we often go above and beyond, sometimes to the detriment of our own health and well-being.

In our bodies, in this moment, there live the seed impulses of the change and spiritual growth we seek, and to awaken them we must bring our awareness into the body, into the here and now ~ Pat Ogden

I see this pattern in many of my more sensitive and empathetic clients. They come to me exhausted and disillusioned, wondering why life has piled so much on their shoulders. “Why me?” they ask. And what I’ve learned through both personal and professional experience is this: often it’s not some cruel twist of fate. It’s a soul lesson — a spiritual invitation to learn the sacred art of setting boundaries and saying no.

I’ve had to learn this lesson the hard way, too. For a long time I was the doormat — always saying yes, always over-delivering, always trying to be everything to everyone. Saying no felt selfish. But I’ve come to see that saying no is actually an act of self-preservation and spiritual maturity. This doesn’t mean I’ve become a heartless robot – I still melt for my furry pets, who know exactly how to manipulate me with a single look! But I’ve become more discerning about how I relate to people.

So why is it so hard to say no? Guilt, for one. Many of us have been conditioned to equate our worth with how much we do for others. We want to be liked. We want to be needed. We want to be seen as capable and dependable. And yet, if we keep saying yes, we risk becoming resentful, overwhelmed, and, ironically, less available to those we truly care about.

Sometimes it’s not even guilt, it’s perfectionism. We fear that if we don’t do it ourselves, the work won’t be done “right. We don’t delegate, even when we’re drowning. The result? Burnout. And when we’re exhausted, our spiritual gifts become blurred. Our connection to our higher self, spirit, and the divine becomes harder to access. Self-care is not a luxury — it’s essential. And for the professional psychic, medium or healer, it is essential to our work.

Ultimately, the paradox of being a psychic in the modern world is this: we are both grounded and elevated, human and spiritual, vulnerable and wise, physical and metaphysical. We are here to serve, but we are also here to live. To fail. To struggle. To grow. To learn. And in doing so, we model what it means to walk the spiritual path without losing touch with our own humanity.

So, yes, psychics may be “in the world but not of it.” But we’re very much here. And that’s exactly where we are meant to be.