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A Step-By-Step Guide To Manifesting True, Lasting Love
Have you been asking yourself: Does he love me? Is he into me, like I am into him? Where is my life partner, my soulmate? Is my person ever going to come into my life?
We all want that amazing, healthy relationship where we feel desired, respected, appreciated, and deeply connected. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a love that feels like it was written in the stars.
But many people don’t really know how to get there. If you’re feeling a bit lost about where to start, or confused about why love hasn’t shown up for you yet, you’re not the only one.
No matter how down you might feel, your desire for deep, lasting love is very much possible.
One of the first steps is to stop doubting your own value. Feeling unworthy is one of the main reasons many people do not meet their person.
You’re totally worthy of the kind of relationship you’re after. Yes, you! And it can start right now.
Sometimes the underlying issue is subtle, like a limiting belief, an old emotional wound, or a vibrational mismatch between what you want and what you’re actually putting out there. Other times, it’s just that you haven’t quite tapped into your manifesting power yet.
Here’s the thing: love isn’t something you chase. It’s something you align with. Everything you think, feel, and do contributes to how you see your world. True love wants to find you. You just need to meet it halfway. It all starts with self-awareness, a mindset shift, and the courage to heal what’s been holding you back.
How She Found Her Way Back
Not every psychic reading begins in light. Some start in silence — the kind that weighs heavy in the heart.
When she first reached out to me, her question was brief, but the energy spoke volumes. There was pain behind her words, and she barely dared to ask: “Am I still in here somewhere?”
She had been in a relationship that, at first, felt exciting—perhaps even fated. “He swept me off my feet,” she once said. “I thought he saw me.”
And maybe he did, in the beginning — just enough to mirror back what she most longed to believe about herself. That she was worthy. That she was seen. That she was loved. But what unfolded was far from love.
The charm that once made her feel chosen gradually twisted into control, criticism, and a subtle erosion of her spirit. What looked like affection became possessiveness. What felt like closeness became confinement.
She had once been a vibrant, creative soul bursting with ideas and dreams.
But as time passed, she began to disappear. “I used to feel like a magical flame,” she confessed. “Now, I’m no more than a tiny heap of ashes under his tyranny.” Her sparkle had dulled. Her job unraveled. Her friendships faded.
But then she called me on Psychic Access and the runes reminded her that the embers of her true self and soul essence were still burning.
Miracles Happen When We Release Attachment
We tend to hold on to things and people that no longer serve us. Fear keeps us attached, as does the comfort of the familiar.
The unknown can feel unsettling, even when we know deep down that letting go is the best way forward. Our attachments, whether to relationships, material possessions or past experiences, often come from emotional bonds that make letting go feel impossible.
Some people cling to relationships, even when they have been treated badly, because they do not believe they are worthy of anything better. Their self-worth is so wrapped up in the presence of the other person that the thought of leaving feels like losing a part of themselves.
Others cling to material possessions not because they need them, but because these things give them a false sense of security or define their identity in some way. The more we hold on to something, the more our energy becomes wrapped around it, creating an invisible barrier that prevents new blessings from entering our lives.
This was a hard lesson for me to learn and overcome. Years ago, I put my father’s house on the market. It had been on the market for over a year and not a single offer had come in. At first I couldn’t understand why. The house was structurally sound, in a good location and fairly priced. But despite my best efforts, no buyers came forward.
Later I realised that my own energy of resistance was preventing the sale. I was not emotionally or spiritually ready to let go. My attachment – rooted in resentment, anger and unresolved emotions – created an energetic blockage that kept potential buyers away.
How Thought Forms Can Influence Your Psychic Reading
One of the most overlooked factors that can influence a psychic reading is the presence of thought forms — energetic constructs shaped by the power of thought and feeling.
These mental and emotional influences can subtly alter the information received in a reading, sometimes distorting messages or amplifying certain aspects of the client’s energy field.
Understanding thought forms and their role in psychic perception is therefore essential for both psychics and clients seeking clarity and accuracy.
But what exactly are “thought forms?” Thought forms are energetic structures created by focused intention, intense emotion, and repetitive or obsessive thinking. These energy patterns exist within our personal energy field and subtly shape our daily experiences and interactions with others.
The modern understanding of thought forms has deep roots in various esoteric and mystical traditions as the metaphysical principle that “thoughts are things” — meaning that mental energy has a tangible presence in our daily existence and a direct influence on reality.
This concept can be traced back to various ancient spiritual traditions, including Hinduism and Buddhism, where the mind is believed to shape one’s karmic path and manifest life experiences. It is even found in biblical teachings, such as the Sermon on the Mount, where Jesus spoke about the importance of inner thoughts and attitudes, not just outward actions. For example, Jesus taught that harboring anger or lustful thoughts are morally equivalent to committing murder or adultery (Matthew 5:21-28).
Letting Go Of What No Longer Serves You
Letting go is never simple or easy, but it’s often necessary for our health, happiness, and spiritual growth. It’s a powerful act that frees our soul and honors our true essence.
Letting go is about releasing what no longer serves us to create space for more joy, peace, abundance, and meaningful experiences to flow our way. It’s not about loss or sacrifice – it’s about making room for something better.
By letting go, we deepen our connection to our Higher Self, Spirit, and the Divine. We release the burdens that limit us, allowing us to step into our best life.
It’s a conscious choice to stay stuck or move forward. This means choosing to let go of negative thoughts, emotions, desires, habits, beliefs, or material things that hold us back. When we release these attachments, we open the door to new blessings, miracles, and personal growth.
Choosing to let go and taking the first steps can sometimes feel daunting. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, but trust that each step you take to release the old and welcome the new brings you closer to peace, joy and lasting fulfillment.
As we release old patterns, we often feel lighter, more energized, and at peace. This newfound freedom allows us to explore new possibilities, pursue our passions, and live authentically. It’s not about forgetting – it’s about freeing ourselves from what holds us back and stepping into the full light of our true potential.
Guiding Earthbound Souls To The Light
Early one morning I received a message from one of my clients saying that her close friend had been shot and killed before dawn that day. She wanted to know if I could try to communicate with her friend.
I suspected that it was far too early for spirit contact of any kind, but I promised to see what I could do.
Later in the day I tried to make the connection as promised. I immediately sensed that I was dealing with a soul who was stuck in this world, not quite sure where she was or what had happened after such a sudden death.
I informed my client that we needed to help her friend find her way to the other side, to the light. I asked her to assist me remotely in guiding her friend as it would help to have someone familiar present.
Her friend was still earthbound and our guidance and prayers would help her, even if she chose to stay close to her loved ones for the time being and make her presence known until they could find some peace with her sad and sudden passing.
I began our session with a calm, focused meditation, visualizing a warm, radiant light that would guide her friend. As we sent our thoughts and prayers, I felt a subtle shift in the energy around us. It was as if the room had brightened, filled with a calm, comforting presence.
My client shared some of her fondest memories of her friend, speaking with love and gratitude. This act seemed to create a powerful bridge of light, a connection that her friend’s spirit could use to find her way.
Release Your Attachment To Attract ‘Zen Love’
I have talked to so many people over the years who desperately want someone special to come into their lives, but it never seems to happen for them. They wonder why they can’t connect with anyone, why they never seem to find true and lasting love.
When I do readings for them, Spirit often reveals that the root of the problem is that they either want it too much, or they turn themselves and the other person they are trying to attract into “polar magnets,” pushing each other away instead of being attracted to each other.
In order to attract what you want into your life, you have to let go of any attachment to the outcome, stay clear of any negative emotions, self-sabotage, and limiting beliefs, and essentially allow it to come to you without any obsession or force. I call this attracting “Zen love.
Zen love is finding someone when you are not really looking. It’s when you want it, but you don’t want it so desperately that it just doesn’t happen. I equate it to thinking about someone and then letting go of the thought. It is usually when you let go that they suddenly call you on the phone.
You put out the intention to meet someone special and then you let it go. That is being “in Zen. Not forcing it. Going on with your life and staying positive and just having that inner knowing that everything is going to be okay. That inner knowing without any added force allows good things to come to you.
Meanwhile, if you really want someone special to come into your life, instead of constantly dwelling on it or stressing about it, be proactive and put that wasted energy to better use. Get out more, live wholeheartedly, go places and do things.