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Why Empaths Fall Victim To Narcissists

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWhy are narcissists and empaths often drawn to one another? This is a phenomena many of us empaths fall victim to. Which, at first, may seem odd, since empaths and narcissists are polar opposites! But, maybe that is the key? Opposites attract.

But, what’s more profound, is that the narcissist preys upon the empath’s dedication to healing those who are emotionally wounded or scarred. By nature empaths are deeply caring, compassionate people. The empath’s purpose in life is to support healing in others, yet due to their intense sensitivity, empaths often struggle to create healthy boundaries for themselves, giving in to martyrdom, victimhood, co-dependency, and chronic self-sacrifice.

An empath will do anything in their power to help or heal another. And, will not easily give up or walk away. This makes them prime targets for the narcissist.

There are different types of narcissists. But, for this article, I will discuss the most common. And, that is the Amorous Narcissist. They tend to measure their self-worth and grandiosity by how many sexual conquests they have conquered. This type of person is known for using their charm to ensnare others with attention, flattery and gifts. But, they dispose of their target once they become bored or when their needs have been served. The target typically won’t so much as get an explanation, much less a goodbye.

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The Spiritual Teacher As The Enemy

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIn psychology, therapists are trained to handle what is known as transference behavior in some of their clients or patients. Spiritual healers, readers, and teachers generally do not have much knowledge or skill in this regard, which can be detrimental for both the practitioner and those who come to them for services.

What is transference? When people go to spiritual professionals, they are often hurt and in psychological, emotional or spiritual pain, which sometimes also manifests as physical pain. People mainly are ‘hurt’ by other people in their lives, with whom they have emotional connections. When emotional connections are damaged (real or imagined) people feel hurt, betrayed, abandoned or experience various other emotions. When seeking healing or guidance (in whatever modality) those feelings of hurt are often transferred to the healer, teacher or other ‘authority figures.’

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When The Empath Becomes An Energy Sponge

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI just completed a psychic reading for a long-standing client who is a successful teacher,  as well as an empath and psychic in her own right. Despite being highly intuitive and, under normal circumstances, able to make good decisions based on her gut feeling, she was feeling totally at a loss, and in limbo concerning her current circumstances.

She asked me for guidance as to what could be happening to her, because even though her situation is not dire, she described herself as feeling like “a sponge that cannot not absorb any more.” She was feeling no sense of creativity or inspiration, nor any initiative to get the ball rolling for a future move for herself and her family. The Tarot’s Hangman card defines how she felt, as if she was just dangling and not getting anywhere fast.

Both she and her husband had made a big geographical move a few years ago, with the well-being of their children in mind. She was beating herself up, because she also felt responsible for every circumstance her family was experiencing, including her 17 year old daughter, who hasn’t quite yet identified her future career niche. Of course, the additional negative energy of guilt was holding her even more in limbo. To top it all, the schooling of her children and work of her husband requires that she lives and teaches remotely, with a several hours commute away from them, so they can only come together as a family once a fortnight. More guilt! Continue reading

The Wounded Inner Child

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comA wounded inner child will wreak havoc in your life, control your emotional reactions, and flavor all of your life situations and choices. In the extreme, every abuser, pedophile, sadist, emotional abuser has also been abused, but more importantly, remain unhealed. The damages from their own past remain unexamined and is usually still alive in the unconsciousness, and therefore unhealed.

The magical, spiritual, loving, hopeful, optimistic, healed or never wounded inner child does the same: runs your life, controls your heart chakra, and therefore your emotional reactions, and makes healthy choices that support you as an adult.

Simply knowing about the state of your inner child, or making blithe comments about your inner child, does not imply a healing. Simply saying that you have learned some information is a bit like ‘monkey see, monkey do.’ It is a start, but information is not knowledge. Information applied, worked with, integrated into your learning styles, and into your life experiences, becomes knowledge.

Knowing you love someone is different than loving them. People who regularly abuse their spouse psychically, will fall on their knees proclaiming their love, even as their victim lays there waiting for the ambulance. And in their great sorrow, they actually mean what they say. And yet they will do it again, and again, and again. The information is in their head. They did a bad thing, they love their spouse, however because there is no knowledge, there is no healing. Their behavior will continue, until perhaps imprisonment, or some other extreme circumstance occurs. Continue reading

Becoming A Medium And Healer

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWould you like to be a medium and healer? There are many sources to learn from and to help understand what mediumship and healing consist of.

All seekers should start and continue daily with self-evaluation. Where are you now? At this point in your life, what spiritual experiences have you gathered. So many things have made you who you are.

How you react to those around you, emotionally as well as mentally, creates the world you live in. What are your thoughts. What are your beliefs. How do you carry your beliefs as you walk your spiritual path. Where are you spiritually?

It’s my belief that the purpose of life is to gain knowledge for one’s own use in eternity, and to accomplish this through serving humanity in one way or another here on the earth plane. We must look inside ourselves and find peace and love of self, because through self-love we find compassion for humanity and we find the desire to reach out to others with our own energies and own desires to create a better world. Are you thankful for life? Continue reading

Jealousy Steals Your Serenity

Get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comDoing a psychic reading can sometimes trigger unpleasant memories or negative emotions for the psychic professional. But, as unpleasant as our own experiences may have been, they do help us to identify with those individuals who approach us for counsel.

One situation which has cropped up lately relates to jealous friends or family members. More often than not, my client doesn’t have the foggiest idea as to why the jealousy is there at all, especially when they feel they’ve put every effort into sustaining the relationship in question. All friendships and relationships take work, but when we feel that, in return we are getting back bad vibes, or any kind of negativity, it doesn’t feel fair. Continue reading

Mysticism And Human Imperfection

Get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comPerfection. When we are a ball of light on the Other Side, there is only one kind of perfection. But here on Earth, fluidity of movement, acceptance, surrender, flowing into change… this is perfection. Earth perfection is the ability to fully embrace, love, laugh at, and survive the roller-coaster ride we chose before we came here.

Many healers and therapists sell themselves, in part, by projecting a public image… and sadly, many of their followers are mostly attracted to only that image. Why is that? Perhaps the idea of having an ‘ideal’ allows people to kind of let themselves off the hook, by declaring, “Well, I can never be perfect like her!” Or maybe we just like the idea that somehow our idea of perfection really does exist. Continue reading

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