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What Comes First: Friendship Or Romance?
Is it really necessary to build a solid foundation of friendship when you already have a gut feeling that the person you just met might be “the one”?
This is a question I sometimes get from clients seeking a love or relationship reading. They want to know whether they should focus on building a friendship first if they feel that their relationship has the potential to lead to a long-term commitment or marriage.
The answer can vary depending on the people involved and the unique dynamics of their relationship.
While there’s no one-size-fits-all answer, building a friendship can provide a stable foundation for the deeper layers of a romantic relationship. Friendship helps create a space where mutual respect, understanding, and shared values can flourish – qualities that are crucial to a lasting partnership.
I find many folks jump into a relationship with both feet, convinced they’ve found their true soulmate, only to be disappointed later.
Developing a strong friendship with your partner can be incredibly beneficial. It allows you to get to know each other on a deeper level without the pressure or distractions that often come with romantic and physical intimacy. In a friendship, you’re more likely to feel comfortable being your authentic self. This authenticity can lead to a stronger emotional connection, which can then become the foundation for a more serious romantic connection.
Is Your Texting Pushing Him Away?
A new client recently contacted me about a promising romantic relationship. The first thing that became clear as I began to read for her was that she had a long history of dating men who seemed like potential long-term partners, but then suddenly disappeared or broke up with her after only a few months.
It quickly also became clear to me that texting was a significant factor in her dating problems. Misunderstandings due to texting have damaged the romantic, family, and friendship relationships of many people I have worked with as a psychic professional. This client was no exception.
As I read the energy around her situation, I sensed that she had a tendency to push men away by unnecessarily panicking when she did not feel completely in control. Guys can sense panic and controlling tendencies and for most men this is usually a big turnoff.
This kind of negative energy is also stressful and doesn’t improve the outcome of an uncertain situation. Excessive obsession, panic, and worry will not bring someone closer to you; in fact, it can push a potential long-term relationship away forever.
I then had to tell her that while I did see the potential for a long-term relationship in their connection, I didn’t currently see a long-term future for them if she continued with all the texting she was doing. I told her to take a step back, breathe, stop worrying so much, and definitely not try to resolve things through texting any more.
Do You Have A Past Life Connection?
Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection that you couldn’t quite explain? Like you’ve known them forever, even though you just met? It’s that uncanny feeling of familiarity that makes you wonder if there’s more to your connection.
Sometimes, you might even experience déjà vu, feeling like you’ve been with this person before in another time or place. Maybe you even have some mental flashes of moments together in a different time and place, making you realize there’s a deeper reason for your bond.
These intense feelings and responses often come from cellular energy imprints and soul memories from our past lives. When you encounter someone you feel this way about, it’s usually because there’s some unfinished karmic business or soul growth that needs to happen, which is why you’ve crossed paths with them again in this lifetime.
Certain souls meet repeatedly across different lifetimes to resolve unresolved issues or karmic debts. There’s work to be done, lessons to be learned, and sometimes it takes more than one lifetime to get it all sorted out.
But not all these encounters are rosy. They can come with relationship challenges, tension, and conflict. For instance, a betrayal in a past life might manifest as trust issues in the present. It’s a journey that can be tough, but also deeply meaningful and very healing.
Release Your Attachment To Attract ‘Zen Love’
I have talked to so many people over the years who desperately want someone special to come into their lives, but it never seems to happen for them. They wonder why they can’t connect with anyone, why they never seem to find true and lasting love.
When I do readings for them, Spirit often reveals that the root of the problem is that they either want it too much, or they turn themselves and the other person they are trying to attract into “polar magnets,” pushing each other away instead of being attracted to each other.
In order to attract what you want into your life, you have to let go of any attachment to the outcome, stay clear of any negative emotions, self-sabotage, and limiting beliefs, and essentially allow it to come to you without any obsession or force. I call this attracting “Zen love.
Zen love is finding someone when you are not really looking. It’s when you want it, but you don’t want it so desperately that it just doesn’t happen. I equate it to thinking about someone and then letting go of the thought. It is usually when you let go that they suddenly call you on the phone.
You put out the intention to meet someone special and then you let it go. That is being “in Zen. Not forcing it. Going on with your life and staying positive and just having that inner knowing that everything is going to be okay. That inner knowing without any added force allows good things to come to you.
Meanwhile, if you really want someone special to come into your life, instead of constantly dwelling on it or stressing about it, be proactive and put that wasted energy to better use. Get out more, live wholeheartedly, go places and do things.
Recognizing When A Relationship Is Over
Every relationship serves a purpose and has its own timeline. When a relationship has served its purpose and is no longer contributing positively to our personal growth, happiness and soul evolution, acknowledging that it’s over opens a door to new possibilities and opportunities for healing, growth and expansion.
But while recognizing that a relationship is over is crucial for our personal well-being and spiritual growth, it is also very difficult for many people to face the truth when they see the writing on the wall. I find this to be a common problem that comes up in many psychic readings.
Staying in a relationship that has run its course is often detrimental to one’s health and well-being. It leads to stress, anxiety, loss of self-confidence, and a sense of being stuck or unfulfilled. Recognizing when it’s time to let go allows us to prioritize our own joy, happiness, and well-being.
Recognizing the end of a relationship is a lesson in acceptance and surrender. It encourages us to trust the universal flow, embrace change, and set new and better intentions to manifest our highest good. It is also an opportunity for deeper self-reflection and karmic growth.
When it comes to recognizing that a relationship is over, it’s important to listen to your intuition and inner guidance. The universe and our higher selves always give us subtle hints or nudges to show us when it’s time to let go and move forward on our personal and spiritual path.
Recognizing the signs that a relationship is over takes courage, self-awareness, and a willingness to prioritize personal well-being and growth. It’s a transformative process that ultimately fosters greater self-love, resilience, and spiritual evolution.
Signs Of A Spiritual Love Connection
Have you ever felt an inexplicable love bond with someone that goes beyond the realm of ordinary connection? The signs of a spiritual love connection are unique and often transcend the conventional understanding of relationships.
A spiritual love connection is a life-changing experience because it goes beyond the superficial aspects of an ordinary romantic relationship and delves into the deeper spiritual connection between people.
A spiritual love connection is a deep, unexplainable bond between two souls that transcends the usual aspects of a romantic relationship. It involves an innate understanding of each other’s innermost thoughts, feelings and desires, creating a sense of harmony and spiritual alignment. This connection is often felt on a profound level that resonates with the core essence of both individuals.
Recognizing and acknowledging a spiritual love connection is important if you are seeking an authentic, meaningful, and lasting relationship that also supports your spiritual values and soul purpose. It allows you to prioritize genuine connections based on soul resonance, mutual understanding, and shared values over superficial attractions. It is crucial not only for the success and longevity of the relationship, but also for your own growth and fulfillment.
Spiritual Techniques For Emotional Closure
Spirit has taught me, from a very young age, that gaining closure with a person (where necessary of course) is imperative so that we can move on with our lives in a positive way.
After all, we cannot possibly embrace our future wholeheartedly without having effectively dealt with our past. There are three types of closure:
1. Natural closure that comes with the passage of time.
2. Direct closure that we may have with the person or persons involved and where love is concerned.
3. Third party closure when we meet someone else.
All well and good, you may be thinking, but it takes time to get that natural closure. Maybe your ex (or whoever) won’t give you direct closure and you don’t want to have to wait until you meet someone else in order to get it! But you do need a degree of closure now.
Well, spirit recognizes this and offers the two following solutions which may be of benefit to all those who need to gain closure on someone and find forgiveness, and start afresh in the shortest possible time: