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The Soulmate Challenge
A soulmate is someone with whom we share a deep spiritual connection and special bond. Connecting with a soulmate is usually an intensely emotional experience.
Typically, we connect with more than one soulmate in a lifetime, because we have a soul contract or agreement with them. Typically, we will have shared many lifetimes of varied journeys, lessons and experiences together with them. Soulmate connections can be found in any type of relationship: romantic, family, friendship, business, or professional.
There is often an instant ‘draw’ and familiarity when you connect with a soulmate, like you’ve met before; there is an instant, easy connection.
In the moments of our deepest experience and connection with a soulmate, we connect with The Beloved or The Divine, which we tend to mistakenly attribute to the relationship. Then we are ‘hooked, ‘thinking the only way we can feel happy, or be complete, is to be with that other person.
It is here that the problems begin for some of us. The ‘ego self’ takes over by seeking that connection over and over from another.
This is crux of the ‘soulmate challenge,’ as the source of connection with The Beloved or The Divine always comes from within (not from another person) and the soulmate relationship is merely reflecting that inner connection back to you. The most challenging and growth-oriented soulmate connections is often the romantic partnership.
Therefore, a true soulmate relationship will always bring opportunity for personal and spiritual growth and will push you towards self-reflection and finding inner wisdom. The soulmate relationship provides us a mirror of who we truly are, helping us to recognize and heal our deepest wounds.
Grandma Two Cookies
I never had the intention to further develop my psychic abilities. Specifically, I did not want to be a medium. But I’ve been scoffed at by my mentor and told to just ‘suck it up,’ as it really doesn’t matter what I want… if they want me to be medium, then I will simply have to relay the messages I receive. My guides also instructed me to properly listen to what spirit has to say, and to trust their requests. I used to get the messages loud and clear, but I was still sometimes reluctant to deliver it.
I have several friends on social media who I went to school with. There is a woman on my friends list who I remember from junior high was as a sweet, kind and quiet teenager. She recently attended her daughter’s wedding in Hawaii. I loved the wedding venue so much that I even downloaded one of the pictures to use as a desktop wallpaper.
A couple of days later, I received an unusual request from spirit to reach out and ask her about her ‘grandmother’s cookie recipe’? So, I did exactly that by sending her a private message. But she had no idea what I was talking about and assumed I was actually wanting a recipe. She even referred me to a couple of websites where I might find what I was looking for.
A week later the ‘push’ was there again, so once again I pulled up the private messaging window. And here’s how the conversation went:
“I started ‘talking to dead people’ about 6 years ago, and I don’t like it anymore now than I did back when it started, but my mentor says it doesn’t matter what I want, I have to deliver the messages. So, this is why I am reaching out to you today. I know that there is no part of your life that is any of my business and that you’re a very private person. I respect that. That being said…just yes or no… is there some drama, trauma or major illness going on in your family right now?
Oh, you are kind to ask! Nothing really major, but I do have days I feel I’m living a soap opera! Lol. Continue reading
Shine Your Heart Light This Holiday Season
Times have been tough this year. The alignment of the stars have not been overly kind to most of us. Public health crises, economy, politics, mayhem. And in this atmosphere relationships are even tougher than ever to navigate, especially with Venus and Pluto aligning in Scorpio.
My beloved dad, who passed twelve years ago, often said, “It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.” Situations or people may appear hopeless and dark in these times, but it is important to remember that even the smallest flicker of just one tiny candle can shine a light for others to hold on to. Astrologer Pam Gregory, reminds us to breath into our heart centers, to raise our vibrations. In doing so, each one of us can be that tiny candle, flickering in the dark.
The holidays will bring families together. But holidays can either be celebratory occasion of merriment and cheer… or a war zone of toxic viewpoints and unwelcome meddling. It can often be an unresolved issues ‘free-for-all.’ A nosy sibling might tell you what they think, while you did not ask their opinion! Or, Uncle Bob may dip a little too frequently into the spiked eggnog, drowning all the fa-la-la in his wake.
It occurs to me now that the happy Bing Crosby tune Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate The Positive I heard on the radio earlier was no accident.
You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between
You’ve got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum
Have faith or pandemonium
Liable to walk upon the scene
The Life Calling Of The Death Doula
The first time I heard of a doula, I had no idea what it meant. I soon discovered that it is a person trained to provide guidance, emotional support, and physical comfort to a mother before, during, and after childbirth.
But little did I know at the time that a doula can also be someone who is of service to dying. So, a doula may assist us coming into the physical world, as well as leave the physical world. What a wonderful profession to be called to assist in the miracles of birth and death.
As a psychic medium, talking to loved ones who have crossed over, I have come to understand that some people definitely prefer to be alone at the time of death. My own dad was such a person. He made it clear to us this was his dying wish.
Several people kept vigil at his bedside for three weeks, but the moment we all were away to change clothes or eat, was his opportunity to ‘check out.’ As in life so be it in death, my dad was a very private person.
His hospice room was right across from the elevator. When my mother and I stepped off the elevator, I heard my dad take his last breath and I sensed and felt his spirit exit the building. But I also know he was not ‘alone,’ because his loved ones, guides and angels came to greet him.
So, how does an end-of-life doula help with this process? A doula is there to help the family as much as the person passing. It is my belief that it is a deep honor to be present at a birth or a death. I have had the privilege to be present at all three of my granddaughter’s births. I have also been present at several deaths.
Both are times when emotions are running very high. At a birth everyone is anxious until they hear baby’s first cry. They are on edge waiting to hear baby and mother are both fine. A doula can help explain what is going on and answer questions about the birth process.
Many Lifetimes Together As Soulmates
I have a very special friend I sometimes secretly refer to as Mr. Impossible, or Mr. Can’t Make Up His Mind, and a few other names I best keep to myself.
I started dating him when I was 27, which means I’ve known him for more than half my life. We stopped dating when I remarried at 33, but we maintained our friendship, and even dated briefly again after my divorce.
His only marriage was messy and the divorce brutal. As a result he decided to never again commit to anyone. In fact, just recently he bought myself another Harley-Davidson motorcycle because he was “feeling a little lonely.”
He is the only person, besides my husband, I would consider calling at 3:00 am to bail me out of jail. He is not only my best friend, but we are also soulmates – in the truest sense of the word. The connection we have was immediate, intense and absolute from the first moment we met.
We also share many interests and beliefs. For example, we are both fascinated with prehistory: dinosaurs, cave paintings, artifacts, and lucky to live in a state that has one of the largest dinosaur dig displays and museums in the country.
He has also acknowledged to me that he feels we were supposed to be together in this lifetime. He has also confided that if he were to ever get married again, it would be to me – but he doesn’t want that kind of commitment anymore. His decisions have affected my destiny, and as long as he knows that, I’m okay with it.
We always sense when the other is in crisis and we can talk over almost any issue or personal challenge. For example, I picked up the phone one day, without thinking, and intuitively started dialing his number, when it dawned on me that it was not the best time to call as he was still at work. So, I hung up.
What Happens When We Cross Over?
As a psychic medium I am sometimes asked what it it is like when we cross over. In my experience doing thousands of readings over the years, people seem to have very similar death experiences.
The dying person often sees their own body below them, as if they are floating above it. They can often hear medical personnel trying to save them. There is a complete detachment from their body.
They can also see their loved ones in the room. So, even if you’re loved one is in a coma, or appears to not know you are there, please know that they do. They see the flowers you bring and see you holding their hand. It comforts them. They will feel the love you are giving them.
I have also had cases of them hearing what people were saying about them who while they were in a different location, even another country. Our energy is like air. It can move through anything and can be in several places at once. We are pure consciousness.
After the out-of-body experience, there is often a tunnel that they move through with a bright light at the end. This light is incredibly appealing. People feel compelled and pulled toward this light. They often also feel others present with them. Loved ones, ancestors, guides, angels, God. Their feelings of love, calm, peace and bliss is overwhelming and indescribable.
Once through the tunnel, they are greeted and welcomed by loved ones and guides. Even animals that have crossed will often be there. So, know that you will be reunited with your beloved pet!
We Choose How We Wish To Cross Over
Death and crossing over is a unique process for each individual. At the time of passing, the soul may leave the body in a variety of ways. Sometimes the soul will even leave before the body fully ‘shuts down,’ eager to transition to the bliss, peace and harmony that awaits on the other side. And sometimes the human ego is not ready to embrace the transition and resists the departure. When we do not want to leave our physical body, we cause ourselves more anxiety and frustration and simply make it harder for our soul to pass into spirit. But there is no reason to resist or fear our passing. I know this for personal experience.
Some of us will also choose to pass quietly into spirit, when our loved ones are not around. My husband chose to pass this way, as I was not in the room when he secretly went. He wanted to spare me the trauma of that decisive moment and did not want me to suffer his loss any more than I needed to.
So, he went quietly to God, and I know that he is in the most beautiful place now that one could ever imagine. I know this because I have seen it myself in a near-death experience, but it wasn’t my time to go back then, and therefore I chose to come back.
But what I saw, I will never forget. Imagine a perfectly beautiful spring day, the sun shining so warmly on the most beautiful flowers that you have ever seen. We also return to spirit in a younger state, with no more aches and pains, and we always return home at the age we feel the best. Seeing my departed loved ones again was so amazing and surreal, but as much as I wanted to stay with them, I knew I had to come back to my loved ones here.
