Posts Tagged ‘self-acceptance’

Early in life I looked for comfort in nature. As a rejected only child (my parents wanted six sons), I was often wandering on my own in nature’s garden. Long-term friendships did not exist, because my dad was in the military. We moved as much as seven times in nine months. Nature was my trusted playmate and my elder teacher.

My strong religious upbringing gave me cause to read a great deal, but dual faiths in one household sent me mixed messages, so I questioned everything related to the patriarchal faiths of my parents. Read the rest of this entry »

This is the biggest conundrum in life: If that person loves me, why move on from me?

I have felt many different forms of love. There are so many feelings to describe it. Yet, someone loving you may have no bearing on where the relationship is going.

Really? How can that be? He has told me he wants to marry me!

I believe that empaths have a hardwired ability to tune into that love. Women especially seem to get into dangerous relationships because they ‘feel that the person loves them’. This is not to exclude men, but I believe it’s a slightly higher percentage. Maybe it is women’s biological inclination to nurture and protect the roost that enhances their empathic skills, or the highly developed language center. Read the rest of this entry »

I have learned from fellow humans that it doesn’t always matter what someone thinks of you. I have learned in the perspective of challenges we have always  faced in our evolution as a species that despite gender, cultural, society, or moral differences that in fact perhaps we do not always need to worry too much about what some people think.  Perhaps some of it is just chatter. We must learn to listen  intelligently in order to survive, but I understand that we are entitled to our own reactions.

Whilst researching a neuroscience journal this week I was able to glean from the research that some creatures may not all have it in them to be perceptive, gentle and empathetic. Read the rest of this entry »

About once a month I get a call and the person asks, “Do I have a gift?” Or they might say, “Am I like you?” This is not an odd question. The reason that I am being asked is not only due to my gifts, but more than likely because they cannot get confirmation from significant others in their life. The amount of bias for any paranormal gifts is totally unnatural, but it exists.

I was lucky that my father was a man of deep faith and also a psychic. He accepted his gifts with a humble heart and did not hide them from me. He was always supportive of what I saw, felt, or simply knew in the unseen world. I said I was lucky, because too many times a child’s visions, feelings, and knowing is dismissed as “his or her imagination, and nothing more” when, in fact, it is a whole lot more. Read the rest of this entry »

Day after day my heart bleeds for a lot of clients who don’t know why love fails them. In truth, it isn’t love failing, but the lack thereof. When we are stuck in the present with a partner that does not respond to us, we tend to do everything we can to save the relationship. What we need to know is that love is a gift. It is God-given, and that kind of love is never wrong, it never fails.

What is important is when we hit that brick wall, when love is on the rocks and there is nowhere else to go, we have to look ahead. We must realize we are spiritual beings and we are deserving of all the blessings and benefits that come with a new partner.

Problem is, you get afraid and want to cling to the failed relationship you are in, because that is all you know, or feel or believe. There are people out there in the same position as you, and I don’t think that dating sites or websites that promise to match you to your perfect partner, will be helpful to you. Read the rest of this entry »

This is a letter to my daughter – if I had one, that is. But I don’t. So, this letter is to her, the daughter I might have had, and also to those young ladies I have known over the years who I have felt were like daughters to me.

My daughter’s name would have been Chantal-Marie, should she have been born. I suppose I could have had her, but life took its course and time slipped away. I was too busy mothering myself, I think, and I couldn’t have mothered her, in retrospect. But hindsight isn’t always 20:20 – don’t let anyone fool you.

So here goes. Strangely enough, I feel as though I were on the edge of a precipice as I write this. It is a most unexpected feeling. Read the rest of this entry »

I just finished reading an amazing book called Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell. It has also recently been made into a movie starring Tom Hanks and Halle Berry. Through the many twisting themes and plot devices utilized in this book one stood out most clearly to me, and it got me thinking about the concept of reincarnation and incompletion, and completion of our life energy.

The road of life is long and ever changing. Whatever you feel you are in right now, will change. It may not change overnight or within a month, but it will eventually change. The more we can get into this energy as opposed to being in the energy of resisting what is happening to us, the more completely our circumstances will transform for the better, with little to no effort on our part.

Rarely do we know how the outcome of circumstances will and should play out for the highest good. We must admit to ourselves that we have a biased way of wanting everything to work out, and that at times, this may not be in the best interest for all parties involved, or even ourselves, on a soul level. Read the rest of this entry »

Everyday our lives serve as a mirror for us to truly see where we need to grow, and where we need to give. Relationships provide a very personal mirror for revealing the beliefs, attitudes and points of growth within us.

When things are flowing smoothly it’s easy to see beauty and express love. When things become conflicted and full of turmoil we tend to blame others, circumstances and events for our unhappiness. During the times when things are challenging, we have the biggest opportunity to grow.

How others relate to us can be a very big mirror. When others seem hostile, angry or selfish, we want to point blame. We in turn get defensive and can easily see their faults and faulty beliefs. How often do we stop our judgments of others and ask ourselves “What do I have to learn from this about myself?” Read the rest of this entry »