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Forgive Yourself And Be Free!

Click this picture for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comSelf-forgiveness is so essential in today’s modern world. With the festive season fast approaching, however, forgiving oneself is more important than ever, so we can enjoy our time to the full and not let guilt, self-punishment and blame get in the way.

As human beings we have all glanced at our calendars and cringed at the fact that we have overlooked a loved one’s birthday, or not spent as much quality time with our family as we intended.  Equally, resentment can kick in when those around us tend to forget our birthdays, or fail to notice our efforts on the professional or home front.

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward ~ Steve Maraboli

While it is human nature to feel these feelings now and again, such ways of thinking are not conducive to either our physical or emotional well-being. Furthermore, they can harm our relationships big time. The reason for this that resentment and guilt are catalysts for defensiveness and blame, both of which prevent the effective kind of communication that undoubtedly contributes to a loving relationship.

How then, I can almost hear you say, do we break the vicious circle of blame, self-punishment and guilt? Forgiveness is the simple answer to that, but not only where other people are concerned, but certainly yourself also.

Have you ever been fortunate enough to find yourself in the presence of someone who has made peace with their past, and themselves as a result? If so, did you not find that person amazingly relaxing to be around, which must have contributed to your sense of calm? Such solution-seeking individuals have come to realize that the right way ahead in the midst of an argument, misunderstanding or oversight (or whatever the situation may be) is not to dish out or accept blame. Instead, they endeavor to seek the best solution for all concerned, so everyone remains focused on a positive end-result. The knock on effect of this is that any previous wrong doings and unspoken apologies can be aired with more relative ease. This, in turn, means that any emotions that may have otherwise become stuck are allowed to flow freely, instead of accumulating into a volcanic force due to explode at some time in the future!

To summarize, by allowing yourself and others forgiveness, surely love will flow more copiously in your life and the lives of those lucky people who are fortunate enough to be part of it.

There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love ~ Bryant H. McGill

Path To Forgiveness Exercise

1. Settle yourself in a calm place that you find particularly special. Burn your favorite incense or play some calming music to soothe your mood.

2. Take some deep, calming breaths, while holding a piece of crystal such as Luvulite, Peridot, Okenite or Chrysoprase.  Should you wish to choose an essence to assist with the development of compassion instead, the best ones to go for would be White Violet, Judas Tree, Grape or Peony.

3. Consider the difficult situation and take note of where you feel angry, resentful or guilty the most.

4. Remind yourself that the only individual we can change is actually ourselves and having done so, try to recognize the role you may have played in this particular set of circumstances.  For example, maybe your boss, husband, girlfriend or relative tend to frequently send you on a guilt trip. If so, then consider what you may be doing to spark this and most importantly, what to do in the future so as not to initiate this particular set of circumstances arising again.

5. Forgive both yourself and the other party for the relative roles you have played up to press. With hand on heart, visualize as strongly as you can any negative emotions dissipating into the atmosphere.

6. Affirm to yourself that you are letting go of all toxicity attached to the situation, your heart is now free of any bitterness and anger and you are, more than ever, open to learning.

7. Finally, you may wish to call upon Archangel Raphael for assistance in guiding you onto a higher path of spiritual evolution.

Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them ~ Sara Paddison

Now doesn’t that feel good?

On a final note, you may have done a lot of work on forgiving yourself and another party. However, what if that other party is not open to forgiving you? The answer to that, teaches spirit, is to no longer have any ownership to the guilt and the above-mentioned exercise should help you in this respect.

Furthermore, should the other person not be willing to forgive, while you are, then that becomes their problem to deal with and is no longer yours. Providing you have done your part in the forgiveness process, that is all that can be asked of you, and in doing so you will find you can let go of the past and embrace a guilt free future as a result!

About The Author: Lucinda

Lucinda is a highly trained Intuitive and Empath, living in a beautiful village in North Yorkshire, England. She possesses the rare gift of understanding a client's personal pain and has been through many challenges, herself, which has only made her stronger! It is both her calling and her happiness to help those in need. And whenever she needs a little help herself, her Guides are always there to assist in her development and provide clear interpretations for her clients. Prediction has always been a great tool she could count on to accurately foretell events, but Lucinda also draws on her expertise with Dream Interpretation, Numerology, Angel Cards, Law of Attraction and Life Coaching to provide full and detailed solutions to any problem. A member of AMORC and Beyond Freedom Evolution, she provides inspiration, education and personal support for spiritual development. If you'd like answers or want to attract your desires, you can find Lucinda at

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