Posts Tagged ‘sadness’
Finding true love is hard. Literally. At times it feels like you have hit a cement wall, but it happens, and it hurts. The pain of love that once was, and is now unrequited, is not something one would wish on your worst enemies.
You may have loved with the hope and possibility of your love being returned, but instead you loved someone who just didn’t feel the same way. Or, you loved someone deeply, who also loved you in return, and then for some unknown reason, they turned off the switch.
When this happens, you are hurt in ways that are unimaginable and extremely bewildering. This person loved you and you loved them. Maybe they met someone new? Maybe their love was never real? Whatever the case, you’re left in excruciating pain. Read the rest of this entry »
I have counseled so many people that are normally outgoing, loving, supportive, wonderful souls, but sometimes these souls are so giving they give themselves away. They forget to protect themselves in the process. Have you ever had this presence of an emotional vampire in your life? This can happen in a love relationship or a friendship, or with a family member.
Is their needs all that count, but yours never ever do? Love is not love, and friendship is not friendship, if you put aside yourself on a daily basis. This is what we have to remind ourselves of on a continual basis. Sure, relationships are give and take, but when they seem to take and take, and there is no giving, something is off. Read the rest of this entry »
Many years ago a friend of mine told me simply to choose happiness. I was thoroughly frustrated with that statement, as there was so much opposition in my life. Like most people, I have had struggles that lasted not only months, but decades. I faced adversity not only once or twice, but repeatedly. I also had to manage all these challenges on my own, due to traveling on my own, starting my own businesses, and surviving immense loss, among other things.
At the time my well-meaning friend had simply not experienced any of these life challenges to the same degree, thus I did not believe her. To make the choice to feel joy seemed resolutely trite, in the face of such constant, episodic misfortune!
In truth, she was not too far off in that statement. Except, it was not a conscious choice, or something of cultish free will. It was more of an attitude that came over me after repeated misfortune, which led to a toughening up, a new approach, a singular mindset, a resolute focus. Read the rest of this entry »
A crime committed against me has dominated my thoughts and actions for the past year. Just when it quiets down, and I have a brief respite, an event or something in my environment recalls it to my consciousness. Then I have to deal with it all over again, its poison renewing and growing in my mind like a malignant tumor.
In my life, there have been only two previous events that have overtaken me like this: a divorce and a serious vehicle accident. Time, mourning and forgiveness released me from those two events. Read the rest of this entry »
The fear of missing out, or FOMO, can cause a constant obsession with anything, and everything – whether it’s work, the news, or social media. And it can burn us out – physically, mentally and emotionally. It can actually compromise our adrenals, stress us out, scatter us mentally, and emotionally cause sadness, or even depression. We were not designed to live this way.
If we don’t unplug, take timeouts during our day, have an entire day of restoring ourselves, or actually take a vacation to unplug, we lose perspective of the great mystery that is life. We also sacrifice our freedom.
The most important spiritual benefit of taking time out is that our intuition becomes sharper. We don’t miss out on the messages our Guides, Angels, our Loved Ones on the other side, and the Divine may have for us. Yes, we have asked for their help, but for them it’s like t getting a busy signal on a phone line. They can’t get their message through to us. Read the rest of this entry »
I often hear my clients describe their grief as “my heart has a hole in it” or “my heart has been ripped apart.” When we grieve it does feel as if our heart will never heal. It’s like your physical body is having an actual heart attack.
What each grieving individual experiences is different. Grief has so many different forms and it is impossible to know how it will affect each individual person. We each grieve in our own way.
There is also no time-frame on grief. The length of time a person may grieve is very individual some people may start to feel a little better seven to ten weeks. For others it may be years. Read the rest of this entry »
One of the hardest things that we will ever have to do is recover from a broken heart after a relationship break-up. We don’t want to be without the person we love; it hurts to say their name, or to think about them. And sometimes it is hard to even breathe.
When a relationship fails we need to go and heal. This is a time to be around people who care about us. The worst thing that we can do is to harden our hearts, and build a wall that no one can touch. All that this will do, is stop us from growing and learning more about ourselves – to know who we are and learning how to love ourselves again.
We are not to give up on future relationships, that will not serve us in the long run. We need to be able to feel again, but it takes time. Everyone has to go through their own grieving process, because no one really knows just how much you are really hurting. With time you will get there. Read the rest of this entry »
The most recent Solstice took place on June 20th, marked with a rare Full Moon in Sagittarius. This signifies the perfect time for us to become ‘archers’ and use focus, courage, and persistence in manifesting our biggest dreams and visions for the second half of 2016.
Since March this year, we have all been struck with spells of confusion, exhaustion and scattered energy. You can thank the intense solar flares, two eclipses, and the ongoing retrograde activity in Mercury, Mars, and now Neptune, for some of your most frustrating moments. This planetary non-movement has been forcing us to slow down, prioritize and reassess our lives, to rid it of anything that isn’t helping us grow. Look at it as a blessing in disguise!
Once Mars goes direct today, on June 30th, it will release a fire of emotions and aggressive energy which are going to increase as we move closer to November. With two Full Moons in Sagittarius, back to back, we are being given the opportunity to change our world by removing the old, outdated ways of existing and replacing it with fresh, forward thinking. Read the rest of this entry »