Posts Tagged ‘sadness’
Life is difficult at times, but it doesn’t have to be. There is one ingredient, one key element that we can all apply to make life less stressful. It can make life so much more enjoyable and fulfilling. What is it you ask? Why it is love!
“Love? Get real!” you may say, because you have had your fair share of disappointment, heartbreak, and even betrayal.
Many of my clients have had such life-challenging trials and tribulations. I always encourage them to find love in their heart, despite whatever they may have gone through. Yes, unconditional love is powerful! Let it permeate every cell of your being and direct it outwards to those who are difficult to be with. Send it to those who you otherwise can’t stand, or dread to be around. Allow the healing power of love to be the soothing balm in and around your entire being. Read the rest of this entry »
The students that committed suicide at the colleges where I taught were always the brightest stars, known for being happy, and helpful to others. People were always shocked when they chose suicide.
America worships ‘happy’ and ‘positive attitude.’ What is our aversion to the so-called ‘negative’? Why are we rejected for being a ‘downer’?
If a person is truly happy and content from the inside out, someone else’s upset mood, depression or anxiety will not affect you! People react badly to ‘negativity’ because it stirs up their own unresolved issues. It makes them feel their unresolved issues. Read the rest of this entry »
Finding true love is hard. Literally. At times it feels like you have hit a cement wall, but it happens, and it hurts. The pain of love that once was, and is now unrequited, is not something one would wish on your worst enemies.
You may have loved with the hope and possibility of your love being returned, but instead you loved someone who just didn’t feel the same way. Or, you loved someone deeply, who also loved you in return, and then for some unknown reason, they turned off the switch.
When this happens, you are hurt in ways that are unimaginable and extremely bewildering. This person loved you and you loved them. Maybe they met someone new? Maybe their love was never real? Whatever the case, you’re left in excruciating pain. Read the rest of this entry »
I have counseled so many people that are normally outgoing, loving, supportive, wonderful souls, but sometimes these souls are so giving they give themselves away. They forget to protect themselves in the process. Have you ever had this presence of an emotional vampire in your life? This can happen in a love relationship or a friendship, or with a family member.
Is their needs all that count, but yours never ever do? Love is not love, and friendship is not friendship, if you put aside yourself on a daily basis. This is what we have to remind ourselves of on a continual basis. Sure, relationships are give and take, but when they seem to take and take, and there is no giving, something is off. Read the rest of this entry »
Many years ago a friend of mine told me simply to choose happiness. I was thoroughly frustrated with that statement, as there was so much opposition in my life. Like most people, I have had struggles that lasted not only months, but decades. I faced adversity not only once or twice, but repeatedly. I also had to manage all these challenges on my own, due to traveling on my own, starting my own businesses, and surviving immense loss, among other things.
At the time my well-meaning friend had simply not experienced any of these life challenges to the same degree, thus I did not believe her. To make the choice to feel joy seemed resolutely trite, in the face of such constant, episodic misfortune!
In truth, she was not too far off in that statement. Except, it was not a conscious choice, or something of cultish free will. It was more of an attitude that came over me after repeated misfortune, which led to a toughening up, a new approach, a singular mindset, a resolute focus. Read the rest of this entry »
A crime committed against me has dominated my thoughts and actions for the past year. Just when it quiets down, and I have a brief respite, an event or something in my environment recalls it to my consciousness. Then I have to deal with it all over again, its poison renewing and growing in my mind like a malignant tumor.
In my life, there have been only two previous events that have overtaken me like this: a divorce and a serious vehicle accident. Time, mourning and forgiveness released me from those two events. Read the rest of this entry »
The fear of missing out, or FOMO, can cause a constant obsession with anything, and everything – whether it’s work, the news, or social media. And it can burn us out – physically, mentally and emotionally. It can actually compromise our adrenals, stress us out, scatter us mentally, and emotionally cause sadness, or even depression. We were not designed to live this way.
If we don’t unplug, take timeouts during our day, have an entire day of restoring ourselves, or actually take a vacation to unplug, we lose perspective of the great mystery that is life. We also sacrifice our freedom.
The most important spiritual benefit of taking time out is that our intuition becomes sharper. We don’t miss out on the messages our Guides, Angels, our Loved Ones on the other side, and the Divine may have for us. Yes, we have asked for their help, but for them it’s like t getting a busy signal on a phone line. They can’t get their message through to us. Read the rest of this entry »
I often hear my clients describe their grief as “my heart has a hole in it” or “my heart has been ripped apart.” When we grieve it does feel as if our heart will never heal. It’s like your physical body is having an actual heart attack.
What each grieving individual experiences is different. Grief has so many different forms and it is impossible to know how it will affect each individual person. We each grieve in our own way.
There is also no time-frame on grief. The length of time a person may grieve is very individual some people may start to feel a little better seven to ten weeks. For others it may be years. Read the rest of this entry »