Posts Tagged ‘anger’
Whether it’s ghosts, shadow people, Tall Man with a Hat, The old Hag, or pixies, we’ve all experienced mystical beings in some form or another. Some of us have had minor insignificant encounters, while some of us deal with these entities every day. And, there are those who experience very violent encounters with some of these beings. I personally, have had my fair share of the worst kinds of attacks. And, I find myself dealing with the mischievous little pixies almost daily.
If you don’t know what a pixie is, let me explain. They are little spirit beings. About the size of a dragonfly. Some suggest they are cute little fairies, such as Tinkerbell in Peter Pan by JM Barrie. Others depict them as gruesome and very disturbing to look upon. I honestly can’t say for certain, as they move so quickly I have never gotten a good look at one of them. Read the rest of this entry »
Most people who set New Year’s resolutions don’t keep them. Each year we tell ourselves that it’s time to move on, to change, and to leave negative people and influences in the past, and yet we seldom stick to our resolve. Is it possible to finally let go of things that hold us back? Yes, it is!
The first step we can take is to be fully honest about what is holding us back, and why it’s so difficult to let go. This is best done with the help of a mentor, such as a counselor or trusted friend, who will listen objectively. Until we have a true understanding of all our ‘baggage’ and our own part in it, it will never go away.
The notion of starting the year 2017 with forgiveness might set off a chain reaction of resistant thoughts, about why you can’t possibly forgive this or that person who has done you so wrong. Maybe you remember all the betrayal, mean words and deeds, the abandonment, the cheating — and your get angry and outraged all over again. I know. I’ve indulged in these thoughts myself. And in most cases, I’ve forgiven… Yeah, okay, I admit it’s not easy.
But, I also know that forgiveness is liberating! It sets you free, so you can use your senses, emotions and thoughts fully for your positive gain, and to live life to the fullest. Take out or create that vision board and focus on who you are and where you want to go. Enjoy the moment, live in the present and create your desired future, because what usually holds us back are unresolved feelings and experiences from the past. Read the rest of this entry »
In the sales and marketing field they often talk of ‘location, location, location’ (no matter how good your product or service is, how successful you are often comes down to location). Perhaps in our communication with others we should think of context, context, and context?
We have entered a period of time in the world that communication is misconstrued, even fake and has more opportunities to be interpreted as confrontational, biased, and not politically correct. On top of that put an individual’s personal style of communication – introvert, extrovert, analytical, emotional subjective and all the other styles, and the matter becomes more thorny.
Then, add even another layer, such as email and social media, which does not involve the other person being face-to-face. Now communication becomes even more complex, because body language and the human expression energetically is not a resource available to us to can pick up on the subtle options for interpretation. We will initially respond to the email from our frame of reference, and our reference alone, which is biased by our experiences. Read the rest of this entry »
Ah, forgiveness! Such a misunderstood word. Many people assume that, although it sounds noble to forgive someone, forgiveness is often impossible. They feel that certain sins are so severe that the transgressor doesn’t deserve any forgiveness at all.
Also, there is a pervasive feeling that if you forgive someone, you are somehow excusing their infractions. Do not be confused. Whether you are forgiving someone who has hurt your feelings, stolen from you or caused you bodily harm, the reasoning is the same.
You are not letting the transgressor off the hook, or turning a blind eye to the wrong that was done to you. You are not condoning said transgression or justifying it in any way. Nor are you giving the wrong-doer a free pass to re-offend, or making an exception for him or her. Read the rest of this entry »
The aftermath of a break-up doesn’t have to be a catastrophic upheaval in one’s life. What follows are some basic suggestions that will help you process and transition through a relationship dissolution more harmoniously.
Understand the framework of the process you will be likely to undergo, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Feel your feelings. This is probably the most important thing a person can remember to do. We may fear that the pain will never end, but there really is a beginning, a middle and an end to the process of grieving.
We usually try to avoid pain, and what we avoid will surface in other ways. Also, remember that we bring people into our lives to bring up the areas in which we need to work, so after you have had a good cry, spend some quiet time reflecting on what you have learned from this experience. Read the rest of this entry »
Self-forgiveness is so essential in today’s modern world. With the festive season fast approaching, however, forgiving oneself is more important than ever, so we can enjoy our time to the full and not let guilt, self-punishment and blame get in the way.
As human beings we have all glanced at our calendars and cringed at the fact that we have overlooked a loved one’s birthday, or not spent as much quality time with our family as we intended. Equally, resentment can kick in when those around us tend to forget our birthdays, or fail to notice our efforts on the professional or home front. Read the rest of this entry »
We’ve all experienced the pain, sorrow, rejection, anger, guilt and heartbreak of losing a relationship. Whether through separation, divorce, illness or death, the feelings that these situations bring can be devastating to our person, and our world.
These feelings are real, these feelings are valid, and these feelings are completely normal. They are all part of the grieving process. It is how our mind deals with loss and enables us to heal, in order to move forward into a bigger expression of life.
One of the beautiful things about life is that we are all unique, individual expressions of the Infinite. One of the common threads that connects us is that each of us experiences the full spectrum of emotions, from pleasure to pain, and most assuredly, back again. Read the rest of this entry »