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Cultivating A Thriving Garden Of The Mind
Your mind is like a fertile garden, constantly nurturing and cultivating the seeds of thought you plant each day. Every waking moment your ideas, beliefs, and perceptions take hold and gradually grow into the mental landscape that ultimately shapes your reality.
If you could take a walk through your “mind garden,” what would you find? Would you see sturdy, thriving trees of faith, hope, and positivity, their roots deeply nourishing the soil of your thoughts? Perhaps vibrant, radiant flowers of joy, abundance and well-being brightening the landscape?
Or would you find brittle branches of lost dreams and dry, withered remnants of unfulfilled hopes? Perhaps the creeping weeds of negativity and doubt smothering your true potential, casting shadows over your hopes and ideals?
I actually do this visualization sometimes as part of my morning meditation practice. I imagine walking through my inner garden, tending to my thoughts and beliefs, nurturing them with faith and positivity, fertilizing those that are flourishing, and pulling out the weeds of doubt, fear, or negativity that had somehow taken root and are no longer serving my highest good.
I also ask for divine guidance, calling on God, my guides and loved ones in spirit to help me recognize innate talents and growth opportunities that I might have overlooked or neglected. Perhaps there are hidden seeds within me that still need to be planted or nurtured. With intention, I also visualize planting new seeds of goodness, self-empowerment, and spiritual expansion.
Move Forward With Faith, Not Fear!
“Should I be wary or worried about anything in my future?” is a question I often get when I do psychic readings.
This question reflects a pervasive sense of anxiety that seems to be spreading in recent years, driven not only by personal concerns in a fast-paced world, but also by our constant exposure to negativity in the media and on social platforms. We are inundated these days with information that promotes a fearful outlook on life.
Another source of anxiety I have found with some of my first-time clients over the years is the disturbing “readings” they have had with unethical charlatans. These clients then call me and my colleagues at PsychicAccess.com carrying the weight of dire warnings or ominous predictions they have received elsewhere.
Some of these people really struggle to find hope or peace. They often need reassurance that their lives are not destined for suffering or disaster, and many of them also don’t realize that they have the personal power to choose their path with their intentions, beliefs and actions.
I recall a particularly extreme case of a young woman and her mother who contacted me for a reading shortly after suffering a tragic loss. Their loved one, the young woman’s father, had ended his own life just two weeks earlier. Their healing journey was complicated by a disturbing message they had received from a “spirit medium” who claimed to have communicated with the deceased.
The Spiritual Power Of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful therapeutic tool for those who view spirituality as a journey of personal growth, karmic healing, and soul evolution. NLP’s focus on reframing beliefs, improving communication, and cultivating self-awareness resonates deeply with modern spiritual aspirations.
Rather than seeing NLP as simply a set of psychological techniques, many spiritually-minded people use it as a means of transforming inner blockages, clearing old patterns, and creating a life that serves their highest good. With NLP, personal growth becomes a conscious journey in which the mind, heart and spirit work together in harmony.
At its core, NLP emphasizes the power of our beliefs and the language we use – two aspects that are also relevant to spirituality. Many spiritual seekers strive to release limiting beliefs and align with their true self and divine potential, and NLP offers practical tools to make this personal transformation possible.
By teaching you how to identify and reprogram subconscious thoughts, NLP empowers you to change habitual responses, tap into your creative potential, and live with greater intention. This approach resonates with those of us on a spiritual path because it addresses one of the central concepts in several spiritual teachings and esoteric traditions: the belief that our inner world shapes our outer reality, and that by changing our mindset we can transform our life experiences.
When applied with a spiritual perspective, NLP becomes a means of aligning with one’s higher purpose, healing karmic wounds, and fostering self-love. By understanding how thoughts, emotions, and language interact to shape reality, those on a path of spiritual growth can use NLP to accelerate their journey and transform both their inner landscape and outer reality.
Forgiveness Is Choosing To Take Back Your Power
Ah, forgiveness! Such a misunderstood concept. For many people, forgiveness, as noble as it may sound, is very difficult, even impossible.
Sometimes certain wrongs are so grave to us that the offender doesn’t deserve forgiveness in our eyes. There is also a misconception that forgiving someone is tantamount to excusing or justifying their terrible actions. But forgiveness is not about absolving someone of responsibility. Instead, it is a powerful, personal act of release and healing.
When we forgive someone, whether they’ve hurt us emotionally, betrayed our trust, or even caused us physical harm, we’re not letting them off the hook.
We are not condoning their actions or giving them permission to repeat those offenses. Rather, we are choosing to free ourselves from the weight of resentment, pain, and bitterness that binds us to them and their past actions.
Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. It allows us to move forward without the burden of past grievances and with an open heart, free of resentment.
By forgiving, we determine for ourselves that the transgressor’s actions and the memory of their misdeeds will no longer hold us hostage or march with us into the future.
While we may not be responsible for what happened to us in the past, we are responsible for how we choose to carry the memory of it into the future. This is the power of forgiveness: it gives us the strength to embrace our present reality with clarity, compassion, and freedom. It also transforms our future, for it is ultimately a karmic choice that will shape our destiny in ways we will only understand much later in this life and beyond.
Begin By Loving Yourself Unconditionally
The first person each of us learns to love is ourselves. And that’s exactly how it should be, although many of us seem to forget this fundamental truth as we navigate the complexities of life.
But if we don’t cultivate self-love, how can we expect to show genuine love and care for anyone else?
In our society, love is often misunderstood as an abstract “thing” that we either have or don’t have. This view is fundamentally flawed. Love is not just a passive state or a fleeting emotion; it’s an active, conscious choice. We must make self-love an integral part of our daily thoughts and actions.
Unfortunately, our culture is often harsh, judgmental, and narrow-minded. This societal backdrop can deeply affect our self-perception, making it easy to forget how to love ourselves. Many people experience moments of self-doubt or feel less than perfect.
This self-criticism can snowball and lead us to constantly put ourselves down. But this doesn’t have to be our reality. The foundation of all healthy relationships – romantic or otherwise – is unconditional self-love.
So how do we cultivate this essential self-love? It begins with simple affirmations. Remember that you are you – and that’s more than enough. Create a mantra that resonates with you and repeat it regularly. When you’re comfortable, try speaking directly to your reflection in the mirror. It may feel awkward at first, but it’s a powerful way to reinforce positive self-esteem.
Become A Magnet For Joy And Happiness
Have you ever experienced such an intense level of joy after receiving wonderful news or a successful outcome that not even the most negative person could dampen your mood or ruin your day?
Well, that’s the kind of energy you need to send out into the universe if you want to become a magnet for love, happiness and fulfillment.
Many people are constantly stuck in a cycle of negativity. They see the worst in every situation and project their pessimism onto everyone and everything around them.
As a psychic counselor, I’ve worked with many clients over the years who have fallen victim to the negativity of such naysayers and energy thieves – people who try to drag others down to their level to alleviate their own discomfort.
In these scenarios, I then guide my clients on how to better protect themselves energetically and maintain balance spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and in the worst cases, even physically.
They do this by creating an invisible shield that deflects the negativity. This shield sends the negative energy right back at the ‘happiness trolls,’ neutralizing their psychic attacks and preventing their pessimistic, toxic energy from affecting you.
Your life will take a major turn for the better when you realize that some people are not even aware of how their negativity affects others. Often these people have had very difficult lives or traumatic childhoods filled with anger and conflict. They are often carriers of serious levels of unresolved karmic debt, which they typically make no effort to address due to their lack of self-awareness and spiritual awareness. You cannot expect someone to break free of these karmic patterns and ancestral legacies if they are not aware that they even exist.
The Choice To Stay In Your Peace And Joy
The other day I was sitting in a park surrounded by people. Some were sitting in chairs, looking up at the trees, seemingly in a state of pure relaxation, with no thoughts in their minds, just taking in the nature and sounds around them.
I felt a deep sense of peace and tranquillity, having just meditated before coming to the park. I had spread a blanket under my favourite oak tree with a book in my hand.
I looked around and saw a young family. The children were playing, throwing a ball back and forth, while the father was absorbed in his mobile phone. The mother was busy preparing a picnic, setting the table with a beautiful tablecloth. Eventually they settled down.
On the other side of the park was a lovely play area where families watched their children playing, climbing and jumping.
In the middle of the park, a group of young people were playing volleyball, being quite loud and using foul language. Their behaviour attracted everyone’s attention. The family preparing for the picnic decided to leave, put everything in their cars and drove off. Others sitting in deckchairs and some children in the play area also left.
The noisy volleyball group eventually attracted the attention of a police patrol. I overheard one of the officers reminding them of the ban on alcohol in public parks and urging them to be respectful of others, especially with small children around. Despite the warnings, they remained loud and disrespectful until they finally left.