Posts Tagged ‘psychology’
If, as many teachings suggest, there is spiritual growth in every experience, and in particular the more difficult times, then being strongly affected by another person’s negative behavior must also be one of life’s lessons.
I have been pondering this because of the increase in psychic reading calls I have been getting related to this very topic. Some of my clients have been profoundly upset lately by the negative outbursts of people in their lives, including family, friends, partners, work colleagues, or even random altercations in public places.
I love these words from the poem Desiderata: “Avoid the loud and the aggressive – they are vexations to the spirit.” How very true. However, more often than not, we are not in the position to avoid those individuals altogether, in order to escape their toxic influence. Even in a friendship turned sour, we often want to give the toxic friend the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they don’t always behave that way. We might even be in love with a negative person, hoping we can change them one day. Read the rest of this entry »
Imagine a vehicle created today that will not only be able to assess, from an inner guidance system, any damage done to it at a given time, but also have the wherewithal to be able to make all the appropriate repairs by itself. We would most likely be lined up in droves to witness this immaculate event, because more than likely we would not trust that this could be true. We would have to experience for ourselves if it truly possible.
Do you remember, as a little kid, falling and skinning your knee? What did you do at the time? Did you just have mom clean it off, allow a scab to cover it, which is your body’s natural way of saying, “Let me put this protective coating on to make sure there is no further damage.” And then all you had to do was just let your knee recover and heal by itself, with no further help from anyone or anything, because your body knows inherently what to do. Read the rest of this entry »
You’re crazy, that never happened. You’re too sensitive. You’re making things up. No one else has ever said that about me. I get along with everyone else except you. I’ve never had this problem with anyone else but you. Everyone says you’re crazy. I’m not cheating, so maybe you are… since you are accusing me. You are too sensitive.
These are just some of the things you might hear when someone is gaslighting you, when you have confronted them with their own issues or manipulations.
Gaslighting is a form of abuse that is more common in romantic relationships, but it can occur in landlord and tenant relationships, friendships, employee and employer relationships, and even in relationships with neighbors. It is basically the art of messing with someone’s mind or reality. Sometimes it is done in an obvious way, right in front of the person, and sometimes it is under the radar and you don’t you know who is gaslighting you, or even if you are actually being gaslighted. Read the rest of this entry »
Gaslighting can be a very destructive component of a toxic relationship. It basically refers to any form of ‘reality twisting’ or ‘crazy making’ that aims to confuse or manipulate the victim. Gaslighting is used to gain power and control in the relationship, by making the victim question their reality.
The phenomenon is typically found in romantic relationships, but it can occur in all kinds of social relationships, including friendships, in the workplace and with neighbors. Sometimes it is done in an obvious way, right under the victim’s nose, but mostly it is done under the radar and you don’t always know who is gaslighting you, or even that you are being gaslighted. Read the rest of this entry »
I do believe that there are bad or evil people in life. And when they cross over, they remain the same. The fleshly body of a person doesn’t determine our being. It is the spirit of a person that determines their true personality. However, I do feel that some people simply have mental problems that cause them to act evil. Once the mental disorder is cured, the true good nature of the soul comes back. Read the rest of this entry »
It is said that pain relief is the number two easiest effect that can be instilled through hypnosis (number one being cessation of habits and phobias.) The sensation of pain may also be classified as a habit.
I looked for a definition of pain to include here, and found that pain may be beyond description, as the definitions went on, and on, and on. The following adapted outtake perhaps best states where a hypnotist can intervene.
With pain, either imprinting or conditioning for transmitting, is stamped into the pain pathways, creating a memory of the pain that replaces the normal memory: thus the feeling of reoccurring pain. Read the rest of this entry »
Almost 20 years ago today, I was traveling to Sedona, Arizona, to attend a teacher training program for The Sedona Method program. Little did I know at the time that I was about to discover one of the most important keys to a happy, fulfilling life.
Soon, I found myself in a Sedona conference room filled with psychiatrists, psychologists, and doctors from around the world. I was a young mother and novice Tarot reader at the time. I didn’t feel I was at the professional level of the doctors and behavioral health specialists attending. I felt intimidated, uncomfortable, and actually wanted nothing more than to just go home.
During the first week of training, the director of the class asked me to come up to the front of the room and stand facing everyone. Oh no, I thought to myself, why in the world did I even come to this event! He asked that I demonstrate the technique he had just taught us, with a psychiatrist seated in the front row. My knees were shaking and my heart racing. But, there was no escape, so I decided to simply go for it. Although it was a daunting experience at the time, it was the best thing that ever could have happened to me. Read the rest of this entry »
So many moments are not perceived within a moment in time. We are always feeling the senses, yet we take them for granted. Of all five we can thoroughly logically not only perceive, but also re-examine and replicate, we have most definitely the sixth. Yet, little has been discussed regarding the multitudinous facets of the sixth sense.
This particular perception, which cannot be duplicated, is as unique as a person’s memory, their bias, their entire collective selves, and is not necessarily based upon the ego. It fortunately can surpass that and may not be linked to religious or spiritual aspects either. This is the unique and undiscovered sense that we cannot quantify, yet it can be classified to some extent. Read the rest of this entry »