Posts Tagged ‘suffering’
In March of 2003, I was at the end of my rope and suicide was no longer something that only happened to other people. I had just ended another failed marriage. My husband had left me and later I found out he had been seeing another woman for many months before he left and everyone, except me, knew about it. My life was left in a state of shame. I had no self-esteem whatsoever, and I was confused and hurt. I was also afraid to show my face, as I thought everyone was laughing at how stupid I was not to know what they all knew. I felt I had no friends, as a true friend would have told me what was going on. I also realized I had been dependent on a toxic person. Read the rest of this entry »
Does he miss me? I hear this all the time. In my psychic work advising on love and relationships, it breaks my heart, because I know what it feels like to ‘not be missed’. “I wish he would miss,” me is a heart-breaking statement if ever I heard one. My heart goes out to anyone who has ever wanted to be missed.
It’s sweet when someone is in love with a righteous lover who has been a good person, with few flaws and much to recommend them. Yet, sometimes that lover leaves, or a relationship explodes. But how do you keep from letting the hurt or feelings of loss drive you crazy?
First of all, it’s not healthy to let anything drive you crazy. It should go without saying that going crazy isn’t on your bucket list, right? Read the rest of this entry »
Women by nature tend to be very giving. We love to love, and give, and nurture. We simply don’t know when to stop sometimes, and too often end up on an emotional limb by ourselves, wondering what happened. How did I get here?
The ‘smart woman’s heart’ is a concept I’ve been working on to try and ensure women stay on the right path when it comes to giving their precious heart away. It is my way to ease the pain that some of my clients go through when ending a relationship, or when they are unsure about where they stand in the relationship.
The goal of the smart woman’s heart is for her not to go so far out on that emotional limb. For her not to have to wonder where she stands. For her heart not to be broken, but to be free to love fully. Read the rest of this entry »
“They don’t listen to anything I say,” are words we often hear. People long to be acknowledged, and from my experience this is something people in many parts of the world are missing, as we all rush from place to place. The inhabitants of a modern day home tend to become like passing ships in the night to their loved ones, and hardly communicate with one another.
Really listening to another goes straight to the heart. It opens the empath and the medical intuitive’s eyes to that which any X-ray or computerized tomography (CT) scan cannot. Active listening is the most powerful catalyst for change in any healing therapy. Read the rest of this entry »
What is faith? That’s a really good question! I was raised an atheist and was taught life and all that happened was solely the result of my own efforts – meaning all failure was my fault and all success came from my efforts.
Whew! This is at the heart of American culture. Just do it. No fear.
Even the New Agers believe if it happened to you it is because you were thinking it. The ultimate guilt trip. This means, I can have no bad thoughts or they will manifest like the devil itself… and it will be all my fault.
I know for a fact the New Agers are wrong, because with the amount of pain and tough issues I have had to process so far in my life, I should have been able to blow up the world by now. Read the rest of this entry »
Most people who set New Year’s resolutions don’t keep them. Each year we tell ourselves that it’s time to move on, to change, and to leave negative people and influences in the past, and yet we seldom stick to our resolve. Is it possible to finally let go of things that hold us back? Yes, it is!
The first step we can take is to be fully honest about what is holding us back, and why it’s so difficult to let go. This is best done with the help of a mentor, such as a counselor or trusted friend, who will listen objectively. Until we have a true understanding of all our ‘baggage’ and our own part in it, it will never go away.
The notion of starting the year 2017 with forgiveness might set off a chain reaction of resistant thoughts, about why you can’t possibly forgive this or that person who has done you so wrong. Maybe you remember all the betrayal, mean words and deeds, the abandonment, the cheating — and your get angry and outraged all over again. I know. I’ve indulged in these thoughts myself. And in most cases, I’ve forgiven… Yeah, okay, I admit it’s not easy.
But, I also know that forgiveness is liberating! It sets you free, so you can use your senses, emotions and thoughts fully for your positive gain, and to live life to the fullest. Take out or create that vision board and focus on who you are and where you want to go. Enjoy the moment, live in the present and create your desired future, because what usually holds us back are unresolved feelings and experiences from the past. Read the rest of this entry »
About 10 years ago, a friend of mine went to see a psychic in Cuba. It was a completely spontaneous decision made on the spot. She walked into the dusty old store and sat down. The old woman who was doing the reading handed her an old deck of Tarot cards. They were so worn that the figures on the cards were unrecognizable.
The old woman handed her the deck and said in broken English, “Hold them to your heart and place them face down when you are done.” My friend did as she was instructed.
The old lady studied the Tarot spread for a moment and said, “Heartache is making your body sick… broken….from a man that couldn’t love you. He had the broken disease and he gave it to you.” She closed her eyes and shook her head not looking up, “He left you for another.” Shaking her crooked finger back and forth she pointed at my friend, paused, and with piercing black eyes firmly said, “Leave it behind you and you will heal. Keep it in your heart and it will kill you.” Read the rest of this entry »