What Is A Soulmate?

A popular question psychics are often asked is about finding one’s soulmate. During readings many clients want to know if someone is their soulmate, or when they will meet their soulmate. Some also believe they married their soulmate, until their spouse left them for someone else. How could that happen?

From a spiritual perspective, a soulmate is simply a person that you have a past life connection with. That person may have been your husband, wife, child, parent, friend or even foe in a previous life. When you cross paths in this lifetime, there is an immediate connection, as if you have known them all your life.

Our soulmates seldom appeal to our personality—our ego. That’s why they are called soulmates rather than egomates ~ Carolyn Miller

A soulmate is not necessarily meant to be your life partner in this lifetime. Your paths will cross with many soulmates if you truly open your intuition and your eyes, as you go about your life. That friend that showed up in your life that felt more like a sister or brother can be another soulmate.

The person that happens to be married to someone else, however you just know they were meant for you, can also be a soulmate.  As you watch their marriage, you dream of a life you can have together, you make excuses for why that person is still with the spouse they married and can’t leave to be with you. You wait impatiently, sometimes for years, to find that there was never any intention for this person to be with you allowing years of your life to pass you by that you can never recover.

The truth is, you must realize that not every soulmate is meant to be your life partner. Some people come into this life with a pre-determined partnership, set out by Source that has nothing to do with a soulmate. It has to do with changing and growing on your path. Some soulmates are here for karmic purposes and to help you learn specific life lessons.

My current husband and I are soul partners from previous lives. However when we first met when I was a teenager, we did not stay together. We both went in different directions, different spouses, as there were lessons that needed to be learned from each different person and experience. We stayed friends throughout the course of our lives, however did not truly come together until I was in my late 40s and he in his 50s.

Could we have stayed together when we were young? Of course, we could have. However, Universe (God) has a unique path that we are to live and I have to travel my path as he did his. And I know now that had we stayed together when we first met and dated, that I would have missed out on the many growth cycles that my life had to take. Some were painful; however they were necessary for me to advance in my spirituality. I truly do not believe we would have held onto a marriage at that age, even if I felt different at the time.

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

Each of us has several soulmates in our lifetime. Each serves a purpose. However not everyone is meant to be your life partner.  Every soulmate is here for a specific purpose. Some are here to cause you pain in order to force you to grow, some are here to make you laugh in order to lift your spirit, and some are meant to be with you as a life partner… when the time is right. It is not about when you determine the time to be right, it is about when Universe determines the time to be right.

The next time you are focused on a person, absolutely sure that he or she is the only one for you and they are not feeling the same way at the time, let them go. Release them and change your focus to living your life. If they were truly meant to be in your life, in a partnership capacity, your paths will cross again when the time is right.

Do not create the lies of the mind to make it okay. Go deep, go inside your soul, and listen to your gut (not your heart), to your true intuition, and ask for the truth of the situation.  You will get the answer. Do not change it to suit you. Take your ego out of the equation and do this with clearness of mind. You are to listen and receive the truth from your guides and angels who speak to you – through your gut.