Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Stop and place your hand on your heart and allow the pain to rise to the surface almost as if you are drawing the pain from your body, from your physical space with your hand. Feel the energy in your hand get hotter and hotter, more intense as you draw the pain up, and out.
Imagine a beautiful beam of light coming from your hand, holding one hand over your heart and holding your other hand upward to the heavens. As you pull the pain from your heart, from your body, allow this beautiful light from heaven to move into your other hand. Now imagine this light from heaven coursing through your veins moving into your heart to heal that open wound, that open space that has been created as the pain begins to leave your body. Read the rest of this entry »
As we wander through life we encounter many roadblocks, many stumbling blocks and many disappointments. There are many questions that arise as we walk our path. At times it feels like the entire world is against us.
This is simply an illusion that we create in our humanness. Spirit does not want you to fail in your life. Spirit does not want you to be unhappy. Spirit does not want you to live a pauper’s life. However, so many people blame God, Spirit, the Universe, or other people for the situations they are in and cannot get past.
It is time to sit down, take a look at all that has happened to you and discover two things about each situation: why did it happen and what was the lesson you learned from it? As you look at the examples of pain, suffering or disappointment in your life, what do you see?
For example, you have been with the love of your life for many years, married, children and one day you wake up and that partner has left you for another person. What could you have done to prevent this? What could you have done differently? Why were you not enough? You were in love, totally and unconditionally, and you thought they felt the same way about you. Why did they do this to you? Read the rest of this entry »
Does he miss me? I hear this all the time. In my psychic work advising on love and relationships, it breaks my heart, because I know what it feels like to ‘not be missed’. “I wish he would miss,” me is a heart-breaking statement if ever I heard one. My heart goes out to anyone who has ever wanted to be missed.
It’s sweet when someone is in love with a righteous lover who has been a good person, with few flaws and much to recommend them. Yet, sometimes that lover leaves, or a relationship explodes. But how do you keep from letting the hurt or feelings of loss drive you crazy?
First of all, it’s not healthy to let anything drive you crazy. It should go without saying that going crazy isn’t on your bucket list, right? Read the rest of this entry »
About 10 years ago, a friend of mine went to see a psychic in Cuba. It was a completely spontaneous decision made on the spot. She walked into the dusty old store and sat down. The old woman who was doing the reading handed her an old deck of Tarot cards. They were so worn that the figures on the cards were unrecognizable.
The old woman handed her the deck and said in broken English, “Hold them to your heart and place them face down when you are done.” My friend did as she was instructed.
The old lady studied the Tarot spread for a moment and said, “Heartache is making your body sick… broken….from a man that couldn’t love you. He had the broken disease and he gave it to you.” She closed her eyes and shook her head not looking up, “He left you for another.” Shaking her crooked finger back and forth she pointed at my friend, paused, and with piercing black eyes firmly said, “Leave it behind you and you will heal. Keep it in your heart and it will kill you.” Read the rest of this entry »
The aftermath of a break-up doesn’t have to be a catastrophic upheaval in one’s life. What follows are some basic suggestions that will help you process and transition through a relationship dissolution more harmoniously.
Understand the framework of the process you will be likely to undergo, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Feel your feelings. This is probably the most important thing a person can remember to do. We may fear that the pain will never end, but there really is a beginning, a middle and an end to the process of grieving.
We usually try to avoid pain, and what we avoid will surface in other ways. Also, remember that we bring people into our lives to bring up the areas in which we need to work, so after you have had a good cry, spend some quiet time reflecting on what you have learned from this experience. Read the rest of this entry »
We’ve all experienced the pain, sorrow, rejection, anger, guilt and heartbreak of losing a relationship. Whether through separation, divorce, illness or death, the feelings that these situations bring can be devastating to our person, and our world.
These feelings are real, these feelings are valid, and these feelings are completely normal. They are all part of the grieving process. It is how our mind deals with loss and enables us to heal, in order to move forward into a bigger expression of life.
One of the beautiful things about life is that we are all unique, individual expressions of the Infinite. One of the common threads that connects us is that each of us experiences the full spectrum of emotions, from pleasure to pain, and most assuredly, back again. Read the rest of this entry »
When I was around 12 years old, my parents would constantly fight. I noticed that my brothers could always block it out. They would play video games and mind their own business, but I just couldn’t ignore it.
You would always find me sitting on the stairs, or anywhere close to my parents… listening to them clash. Maybe it was because I could feel who was the person in the wrong, or that I could feel if it was going to be more than just another innocent quarrel. I just couldn’t stop myself from being immersed with the pain and anger that they felt. I could not just block it out.
Years later, mom left dad and took all of us kids out of state. I did not want to go; I was upset. But I also ‘knew’ it was for the best. I sensed it would turn out to be a bad situation if we stayed. I knew. Read the rest of this entry »
Is your partner cheating on you? Is your spouse seeing someone else? These thoughts can be life-changing in a relationship. It can create a wall that is very difficult to tear down, especially if it is not the truth of the situation. Yet, if true, it can also destroy a family.
There are several signs to watch for in every relationship that will bring the truth of the situation to you. However, you must be willing to act after knowing the truth, and not just sit there and be disrespected.
Does the cell phone get hidden when you walk into a room, after they have been fervently texting on it? Does it go in their pocket, or under a cushion? Does it go into the bathroom with them? Is it always by the bed, in a place that you could never access it? Is it password or fingerprint protected so you cannot see anything in it? Has it become a third appendage attached to the person at all times? Are they chuckling, however won’t show you what they find so amusing?