Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Some of my most treasured moments have been the conversations I’ve had with folks from my grandparents’ generation. I especially like to ask elderly couples what their secret is to a long-lasting marriage, or relationship.
Their answers always put a smile on my face. Usually they would say that they slowly got to know each other, to see if they had the same values and decide if they were compatible.
Sadly, much has changed over the years. These days people no longer seem willing to put in the work and commitment it takes to build a strong foundation for a healthy, enduring relationship. Instead, we rush into romantic connections without thinking and seldom questioning the other person or their motives. Read the rest of this entry »
Pain is a door. It can be used as a tool to help you free yourself from pain and oppression that is stored deeply in your subconscious mind from your childhood and past experiences. The misconception is that we are to try to do everything we can to get out of feeling the pain. On the contrary, if we embrace our pain with the intention of looking at it, we can see our ego self.
The pain that has been stored for a long while, often causes the actions, reactions and trouble we find ourselves in. Pain helps make you alert if you are willing to look at it this way, if you will embrace it as a teacher. But, we usually want what we want and that usually translates into pain avoidance, which makes pain go away, only to come back another day. And the pain will continue to come back another day, until you are ready to use it as a tool to set yourself free. Read the rest of this entry »
At least once a day, sometimes more, I have this sort of conversation during a psychic reading: “I just don’t know what to do about our relationship. I love him so much. He just doesn’t seem to feel the same way. He seems distant. Does he really love me?”
Then, before I can even take my cleansing breath to answer…wait for it…comes the customary follow-up question: “Or is there another man in my future?”
So, she loves, loves, loves this man. She can’t even breathe for the amount of love she has bubbling up inside her. Yet, at the first sign of trouble, or even a little break in communication, she is already looking for the next guy to take his place in the revolving door of her love life. Read the rest of this entry »
Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.
Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.
So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »
When a customer asks for a reading about future love prospects, they will often ask how they could possibly meet this person. “How can this possibly happen”, they ask, when they really don’t go anywhere, not to mention that their internet dating attempts have been futile.
I don’t feel that there are coincidences in the way in which people meet. Our frequencies attract to us the ‘other’ who will bring us our next life lesson. At least this is my overall feeling.
This force of nature holds a magnetism unlike any other feeling, and it can throw any logical perception of another person (who is the attention of our desires) right out of the window. It’s a real pity how a toxic relationship can divert someone off course from their true spiritual purpose, which, for many of us is, to find the love of self. Read the rest of this entry »
It may be helpful to make a list of all of the negative attributes of the person your trying to get over, but when we look deeper, as psychic advisors, we often see a web of energy entanglement present between the caller and the person they are trying so hard to sever ties with. There is often so much more going on than simply the physical and emotional. Hence, the challenge to break free.
“I want to release him,” says the client, almost pleadingly. Sometimes the caller can feel as if they are just about getting over the subject of their affection, and then… wham! A message, a media post, or sudden surge of longing surfaces to claw them back into wanting the relationship at any cost. This often reminds me of popular oldies like Engelbert Humperdinck’s Please Release Me and Gladys Knight’s Midnight Train To Georgia (I‘d rather live in his world… than live without him in mine). Read the rest of this entry »
Stop and place your hand on your heart and allow the pain to rise to the surface almost as if you are drawing the pain from your body, from your physical space with your hand. Feel the energy in your hand get hotter and hotter, more intense as you draw the pain up, and out.
Imagine a beautiful beam of light coming from your hand, holding one hand over your heart and holding your other hand upward to the heavens. As you pull the pain from your heart, from your body, allow this beautiful light from heaven to move into your other hand. Now imagine this light from heaven coursing through your veins moving into your heart to heal that open wound, that open space that has been created as the pain begins to leave your body. Read the rest of this entry »
As we wander through life we encounter many roadblocks, many stumbling blocks and many disappointments. There are many questions that arise as we walk our path. At times it feels like the entire world is against us.
This is simply an illusion that we create in our humanness. Spirit does not want you to fail in your life. Spirit does not want you to be unhappy. Spirit does not want you to live a pauper’s life. However, so many people blame God, Spirit, the Universe, or other people for the situations they are in and cannot get past.
It is time to sit down, take a look at all that has happened to you and discover two things about each situation: why did it happen and what was the lesson you learned from it? As you look at the examples of pain, suffering or disappointment in your life, what do you see?
For example, you have been with the love of your life for many years, married, children and one day you wake up and that partner has left you for another person. What could you have done to prevent this? What could you have done differently? Why were you not enough? You were in love, totally and unconditionally, and you thought they felt the same way about you. Why did they do this to you? Read the rest of this entry »