Everything Happens For A Reason

As we wander through life we encounter many roadblocks, many stumbling blocks and many disappointments. There are many questions that arise as we walk our path. At times it feels like the entire world is against us.

This is simply an illusion that we create in our humanness.  Spirit does not want you to fail in your life. Spirit does not want you to be unhappy. Spirit does not want you to live a pauper’s life. However, so many people blame God, Spirit, the Universe, or other people for the situations they are in and cannot get past.

It is time to sit down, take a look at all that has happened to you and discover two things about each situation: why did it happen and what was the lesson you learned from it? As you look at the examples of pain, suffering or disappointment in your life, what do you see?

For example, you have been with the love of your life for many years, married, children and one day you wake up and that partner has left you for another person. What could you have done to prevent this? What could you have done differently? Why were you not enough? You were in love, totally and unconditionally, and you thought they felt the same way about you. Why did they do this to you?

Why do we mortals wonder if it is through ‘human chaos’ or through ‘divine perfection’ when the world guides us to some magical event? In either case, is not the result the same? Is the result not ‘divine perfection? ~ Roman Payne

In almost all cases where this happens, there is nothing you could have done to prevent this. It was not you who walked out of the marriage, it was your partner and all people have free will and free choice. This was not your decision to make.

You cannot make the choices for another person as they have their own life path. You may be hurt along the way, however you are not in charge of another person’s actions. Asking what you could have done differently does not matter, as you cannot change the past or what happened, so you need to let it go at this point.

Thinking you were not good enough is a self-esteem issue.  Women, more so than men, go to this place when a partner leaves. When our power is given away to another, we lose our self-esteem. Take back your power and be in charge of your own sense of self-esteem. Know that it comes from within you first not from another person.

Why did they do this to you? This is a huge question with a simple answer: they did not do this to you, they did it for themselves.  There are always two sides to this answer. Their path changed or was pre-ordained by their actions. However, even though you may not see it at the moment, this action has in many cases taken place in order to free you and allow you to grow to a higher level. There is a bigger blessing coming to you and if you had stayed with this person, your growth would have been stunted and your blessing postponed.

This type of event in many cases serves to remove someone from your life that was going to hold you back from achieving your highest good. You may not see it at the time it happens, however when you get a year or two down the road, and look back, it will be as clear as can be! When you can release the person that does this without anger, resentment, or thoughts of revenge, and you can let your emotional attachment go, you will see the truth of where you are going, how you are growing and what wonderful new adventure is in store for you.

Mankind accepts good fortune as his due, but when bad occurs, he thinks it was aimed at him, done to him, a hex, a curse, a punishment by his deity for some transgression, as though his god were a petty storekeeper, counting up the day’s receipts ~ Sheri S. Tepper

Let’s consider another example. You have applied for the perfect job. You believed that you were the best candidate based on your knowledge, what they were seeking, your experience and your skills. You did everything you could to manifest this job and to be chosen as the perfect addition to the company. The interview was perfect; you had an immediate connection with the interviewer. You answered all the questions with confidence and ease. You knew that you had this job in the bag. You were already envisioning your office and how you were going to spend that first pay check.

A week goes by, two weeks, three weeks and nothing. Then, you hear that someone else was hired. They were less qualified and less personable. You ask, “Why did this person get hired and not me?” You are angry, hurt and knocked for a loop. You don’t understand, but eventually you move forward. A couple of years later, you are still working for the same company however you hear that the company that did not choose you closed their doors … because they went bankrupt.

Can you see how spirit prevented you from getting that ‘perfect job,’ as spirit knew the doors would be closing and you would be left out in the cold. Spirit did not want you to have to worry about losing your house, as the company closed so suddenly.  Spirit will intervene on situations that are not for your highest good. You may be angry at the time, however as time passes and things happen, you look back and see that spirit loved you enough to help you move forward.

There is always a reason for the negative events that occur in our life, whether we attract them with our thoughts, words and actions, or whether it is to save us from a greater pain, or whether it is to allow us to access a higher level of spiritual ascension. Look again at some of the events of your life that did not meld with what you wanted at the time. How did they change you? What good came from them? How have you moved forward for the better, or are you still hanging onto the anger and bitterness?

When something ‘unwanted’ happens to you in life, always know that Spirit is watching over you. Spirit is holding your hand and helping to pull the detrimental parts of your life out of the way, so the new and improved can come in. It doesn’t happen on your timeline, it happens on Spirit’s timeline and that’s okay. When you are ready, in Spirit’s eyes, you will have all that you want to have, be or do in your life. Trust, believe and succeed. You are worth it.