Posts Tagged ‘highly sensitive person’
When I was around 12 years old, my parents would constantly fight. I noticed that my brothers could always block it out. They would play video games and mind their own business, but I just couldn’t ignore it.
You would always find me sitting on the stairs, or anywhere close to my parents… listening to them clash. Maybe it was because I could feel who was the person in the wrong, or that I could feel if it was going to be more than just another innocent quarrel. I just couldn’t stop myself from being immersed with the pain and anger that they felt. I could not just block it out.
Years later, mom left dad and took all of us kids out of state. I did not want to go; I was upset. But I also ‘knew’ it was for the best. I sensed it would turn out to be a bad situation if we stayed. I knew. Read the rest of this entry »
The word pathos comes from the Greek word ‘to feel’. Etymologically the preceding word means ‘to feel together.’ This could be a misinterpretation, as all people have very unique versions and imprints of feeling.
Every emotional state is unique. Nothing can transcend the way someone perceives a memory of color, the way one first experiences a moment, and the feeling associated to it, and the feeling it imprints into us.
To feel together would be to assume that every state is intuitively identical to all of us, and this is entirely untrue. Unique perception accounts for most of the states of feeling we have, apart from basic feelings we have that may have to do with survival states. These feelings may include grief (in order to process loss), anger (in order to transcend negative situations), or joy, to extend the best probabilities for survival. Read the rest of this entry »
Imagine for a moment that you have a radio, and instead of tuning in to a single stations, all of the stations are playing at once. That’s what life sometimes feels like to a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) – a designation coined by psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron, which indicates someone whose senses are more attuned than normal to the stimuli around them. The word “empath” is sometimes used to describe highly sensitive people, and other groups, such as those on the autism spectrum.
Aside from sealing themselves in soundproof rooms, or wrapping up in padded clothing, what can they do in a world which sometimes delivers sensory overload? It’s best for the HSP to avoid certain things and situations. Read the rest of this entry »
Of all the emotions that empaths experience, the most powerful and potentially destructive feeling is anger. Of course, anger can be destructive to everyone, but for the empath it can be especially potent. The reason for this is that empaths feel first, and react, then think later.
The more intense the emotion the deeper the connection. The initial response for empaths is either to react with equal force to the anger, which often involves a very intense and potentially catastrophic outburst, or for the introverted empath to run or flee the immediate area or person emitting that energy. Many of these highly sensitive souls will burst into tears at what appears to be inappropriate moments for no reason. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been asked what it is like to be psychic. People are curious to know what it is like to go around all day sensing the intentions, emotions, and thoughts of others. I guess it is like a trip to your neighborhood grocery store – you pick up interesting vibes from other people!
Like many of my colleagues, I have had my own struggle with this vocation. Yes, to me it is a vocation. It is calling I cannot get away from, for the life of me. Am I resentful? Growing up I was I was bullied, picked on and made of fun by the kids in my school, as I was considered to be overly sensitive. Read the rest of this entry »
I am often contacted for psychic readings about animals: missing cats, dogs present and past, sick horses and, even that brutal question as to whether it would be kinder to end an ailing animal’s suffering. Today, just such a request came in from a long-standing client, asking me to communicate with her little doggie, Patches.
She needed to know if Patches wanted to continue, or whether he preferred to be released from his physical discomfort and allowed to cross over the Rainbow Bridge. She knew he wasn’t feeling well, and yet, the veterinarians have been unable to diagnose his problem. It’s one of the most heart-wrenching requests I have been faced with in some time.
I sat quietly and envisioned Patches in my mind’s eye. He kept showing me the number 12. Before going further, I contacted Patches’ owner, and asked her the meaning of the 12. He is twelve years old, my client responded. Although the ultimate decision will be my client’s, I felt this was a subliminal message from Patches – his planned life span was to be here for 12 years. Read the rest of this entry »
If anger is one of the most difficult emotions for an empath to navigate, then the ending of a relationship is definitely the most challenging experience for an empath.
Any relationship that falls apart is tough, but if you are an empath you may well find yourself trying to navigate some very overwhelming waters. Not only will you be feeling your own pain, anger and confusion, but you will also sense your partner’s feelings. Chances are you have also been sensing that something is radically amiss for some time, before your love finally went on the rocks.
Trying to make sense of what is happening, staying centered and sorting out your feelings and emotions separate from your partner’s is a very tall order. Read the rest of this entry »
Do you deeply and intensely feel the emotions of others, easily get sick or injured, and have a natural connection to all things spiritual? There’s about a one-in-five chance that you may be an empath.
Being an empath is different from someone who merely feeling empathy for others. The difference is being someone who is able to turn off the flood of emotions, against someone who is not. What a difference! A true empath literally feels everything, and that can be overwhelming.
It’s in the empath’s nature to take care of others at their own expense, which is why empaths often get moody or difficult. They may need more solitary time or exposure to the natural world than other people. Despite all of this, they are a gift to themselves and others, and they can learn defenses against the constant tsunami of incoming emotions. Read the rest of this entry »