Never Confide In The ‘Empathy Impaired’

I recently did a reading for a client who asked me a question that I had never been asked before. Even though it was my first time working with her, her question made me ask myself the same question about my own life.

Her question was simple: Who can I confide in? Who can I trust? We then worked through her short list of significant people in her life and I shared what I felt about each of them with the guidance of spirit.

I immediately felt that two particular people were not the kind of people you would want to trust completely, much less confide in.

The first clear indicator was inconsistency in their words and actions. If someone frequently says one thing and does another, it suggests a lack of reliability and sincerity.

Another red flag that immediately came up was gossiping or speaking negatively about others behind their backs, as this behavior demonstrates a lack of confidentiality and respect.

But I always want to make sure that what I am psychically sensing is accurate before I reveal this kind of information. So, I asked her for her date of birth, along with the first names and dates of some of the people she wasn’t so sure about. Sure enough, she confirmed what I had initially seen.

Psychics and mediums often use “soul identity details” such as birth dates, photos, names, or even personal items like clothing or jewelry to enhance the connection with a particular person’s energy or spirit. I think of it as looking into someone’s “soul footprints.” This enhances the psychic connection process in several ways:

False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the instant we cross into the shade ~ Christian Nestell Bovee

Energy Connection: Birth dates and names are unique identifiers that can help psychics or mediums tune into the energy of a particular individual, both living and deceased. Each person carries a unique energy signature or soul identity, and these details act as a kind of psychic “anchor” or “connection point” to facilitate the reading of that person.

Focal Point: Photos and names provide a focal point for the psychic to connect with a specific person. This focus helps channel information that is relevant to you about that person, such as their personality traits, intentions, motivations, and role in your life.

Validation: Seeing a photograph or hearing a name also provides validation to the psychic or medium that they are connecting with the right person. It serves as confirmation that the information they are receiving is true.

Personalization: Using this identifying information helps to personalize the reading or session. The psychic or medium can tailor the information they receive to be more specific and relevant to your relationship with that person, eliminating confusion about who the person in question is, whether living or deceased.

So, when psychics and mediums tap into people’s akashic records in the universal consciousness or spirit realm, clarifying personal details such as birth dates, photographs, or first names serve as metaphysical identifiers to facilitate a stronger, more focused connection with the person you are inquiring about. They enhance the ability of the reader or channeler to interpret and convey meaningful, accurate information about your relationship with that person.

Empowered by this, I was able to check and further analyze the energies of the two people in my client’s life that I was most concerned about. I found that they did indeed have a tendency to gossip and backstab, to betray her secrets, to keep her around only to take advantage of her, and to show her little empathy. They were also overly manipulative and controlling in their interactions with her, using the personal information she shared with them in confidence for their own benefit. Yes, their “soul prints” confirmed my initial intuitive assessment.

True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have true friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing ~ Baltasar Gracian

She was relieved to know this because she had recently stopped sharing personal information with them because she had suspected this all along. The reading finally confirmed that they really didn’t care about her and she learned the valuable life lesson that “less is more.” It’s better to have one good friend you can trust than many insincere, fake friends.

After my time with her, I sat down and thought about my own life and how I have opened up to a few people as time allows in my life. I am very busy, but I still have time to talk to people once in a blue moon, and I will sometimes open up about challenges in my life. Yes, we all face challenges with the people in our lives – even psychics! We all have to deal at some point with family members who may not be on the same frequency, or we may have friends or co-workers who do things that really disconnect them from the Divine Spark, and so on.

I have opened up a few times in the past to people who I later realized were empathically dysfunctional and did not care. I wanted to believe that maybe they care because they are family, or maybe because I am so emotionally and spiritually connected that I should not be afraid to let my personal issues be authentically known. Why, it’s good to get it out and ask for support, right?

Just recently, I opened up again to someone I thought had my best interests at heart, but there was never a response like: “I am so sorry for what you are going through” or “I am so sorry that you have to be around this”. Nothing! Not a word of empathy or understanding. As I was sharing with this person, I suddenly stopped and “listened” and there was nothing but “dead air” on a spiritual level. I couldn’t believe it! I took the phone away from my ear for a moment and looked at it, thinking maybe the phone was disconnected? But sure enough, our call was still connected.

To be fair, putting myself in the other person’s shoes, she has been through a lot. Perhaps there comes a time when someone has experienced so much loss, pain or trauma in their own life that they become detached and empathically impaired. Upon further reflection, I decided to continue to pray for her personal healing and spiritual well-being. But I will never confide in this person again.

An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind ~ Buddha

I have always been a proactive person and I feel called to help those who are struggling. Spirit, God, Source, the Divine is always with me, but sometimes I need a little human support to stay strong and motivated. But there are people who just don’t want that kind of responsibility. They see it as a burden or an imposition and would rather turn a blind eye.

It is vital for spiritual people, sensitives and empaths to surround themselves with people who are open to sincere sharing and caring, while staying away from the “empathy impaired” or “compassion challenged.” This includes dysfunctional family members and toxic coworkers.

If you need real support, think of those who truly care and are willing to offer you something…anything in the way of words of comfort, compassion, or understanding. Pay attention to their actions and deeds, not just their words. Trust is earned through consistent actions and integrity. Friendship should never be one-sided and, for some of us, our true families are chosen, not inherited.

I am grateful for this thoughtful client because she helped me realize something important that I hadn’t taken the time to think about. She helped me realize that we are all connected, and when someone does not care and lacks empathy and compassion, it is actually a sign of their own disconnection from Spirit, God, Source, the Divine – the very thing that keeps us elevated and our souls evolving.