Posts Tagged ‘self-help’
Friends, as opposed to acquaintances or associates, are a rare find. We are typically a society of users and takers, where social networking has erroneously become synonymous with friendship. In fact, friendship and networking has very little in common.
As children of the Information Age, we have become acculturated to disconnection as a norm, merely using each other and calling it friendship when it is mutually beneficial, and calling it a variety of unsavory names when it is not mutually beneficial. Friendship for business and networking is quite different from true friendship. Read the rest of this entry »
Have you ever heard of the term ‘monkey mind?’ It originates from ancient Chinese and Japanese Buddhist teachings. We all experience it from time to time. In contrast to thinking clearly, monkey mind feels restless, unsettled, unfocused and uncontrollable. We think too much about the next text message, passing an exam, being able to pay next month’s bills, and whatever else lies in our fear centers.
This state of mind can take over if not managed, resulting in high anxiety. We lose our ability to think or to connect with what lies beneath these runaway thoughts. Our thoughts adopt a distorted sense of reality; we act on them only to find that the other person has no idea what we are talking about. Read the rest of this entry »
Repressed memories are the hallmarks of deep-seated trauma and hurt. Recently a close friend shared her experiences with what she could only label as ‘repressed memory.’
For years she had a recurring vision that left her with more questions than answers. There were physical symptoms that went hand-in-hand with those visions, for she could hear the pounding of the blood rushing through her ears and she could smell the inside of the building she ran into. She also remembered the thoughts that were racing through her head, “I can never tell anyone about this…” She had no idea what it was she was withholding from herself and others. Read the rest of this entry »
Many industrialized nations place a great deal of emphasis on being special and getting noticed. These days you can become a celebrated just for existing in the public eye, such as Paris Hilton and the Kardashian family.
Many people would never admit they have this desire or need; many do not notice how ingrained this is in the culture of our society. Yet, many people get psychic and spiritual readings, because they want to be told about their Mission, Purpose or Special Gifts. Many people I work with also have an unbelievable plethora of undefined and persistent physical and psychological ailments that disappear when the person gets busy, or starts being of real service to others.
This leads me to wonder if an egocentric existence, promoted by the mainstream media and bought by the consumer, isn’t one of our primary ailments. Is it not making many of us prime targets for inflated self-importance and grandiosity? Read the rest of this entry »
I recently found myself experiencing the most intense, hectic dreams and unusual symptoms. I became very concerned about what was going on. Physically, I was feeling awful, although I had no underlying health condition. I was experiencing headaches, and literally felt as if I had been beaten up. Any kind of concentration eluded me, but I did manage to do a reading for myself.
I don’t generally read for myself, for fear of reading too much into a situation. However, this reading revealed to me that I had been under psychic attack for several days!
It didn’t really matter to me from where such an attack might be coming from. It was also not important to me that such negativity ultimately will return to the sender with a vengeance. I just wanted to clear it. My only concern was to immediately restore powerful psychic protection around me, and to be sure that I never again forget to maintain regular psychic protection for myself. Read the rest of this entry »
It is okay to say no. As a matter of fact, it is imperative to learn to say no, and stick with it. We observe that many of you try to be all things to all people. You run yourselves ragged, physically and emotionally, trying to please other people.
You put others ahead of yourselves and then become frustrated and angry when you have no time left for your own personal lives. This is exhausting, stressful and becomes completely unrealistic over time.
The challenge in setting healthy personal boundaries often arises when it becomes difficult to prioritize your own needs and desires against the expectations of others. Since when do these people rule your roost? Since when are their expectations more valid or important than your own peace of mind, ideas or schedules? Why do you give them such power over your dreams, goals, ambitions and life? Read the rest of this entry »
In truth, no one can really help anyone else. We can share our experience, strength and hope. And all the great self-help tools are just that – tools. Tools don’t use themselves… people use tools.
Motivational speeches and mutual encouragement can indeed be helpful. There is obviously a reason why the motivational speaking field is a billion dollar industry. However, it can become a kind of drug. Motivation ultimately needs to come from a Higher Source and an internal source. Otherwise we risk becoming a mere slave to someone else making us feel good.
Additionally, motivation is not always the necessary ingredient. Sometimes we simply need some self-discipline – which is currently not a popular trend in our society. Read the rest of this entry »