self-help
Are You Holding On To The Wrong Person?
Many of the questions that callers ask me during readings have one thing in common: how another person is affecting the their health, happiness, and peace of mind.
Despite the differences in the details, the underlying story is often the same: the person’s inner light is dimmed because they have been giving too much power to another person’s choices, moods, or shortcomings.
Many people seem to be in the wrong relationships. They hold on, waiting for things to change and hoping for the best. They postpone plans, silence their own needs and preferences, and test the limits of their patience, believing that a breakthrough will come tomorrow.
However, that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. A change driven by the need to please someone else rarely survives the stress of real life. As soon as complications arise, old habits resurface. People can only change for themselves.
Spirit’s guidance on this is always very clear: hanging onto the wrong person — whether a friend, family member, spouse, partner, lover, or boss — prevents us from experiencing the best life has to offer.
When we’re busy monitoring someone else’s actions, we have less capacity for our own personal and spiritual growth. This prevents the amazing blessings waiting for us from coming in, not because the universe is ‘stingy,’ but because our time and attention are fully booked.
Spirit’s Three-Step Remedy For The Scattered Mind
I love to meditate. It’s my sacred coffee break with the cosmos — the moment when I trade phone pings and to-do lists for the whispers of spirit and the soothing hum of the universe.
Before every session, I set an intention. Usually it is a question I’d like spirit to answer. I think of it as sending a “text message” to the divine and waiting, phone in hand, for the soft chime of truth.
Today’s intention led me straight to the heart of a puzzle that troubles many parents, teachers, and sensitive individuals: Why does Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) seem to be skyrocketing in society?
In classrooms, offices, and even yoga studios, more of us are struggling with scattered focus and mental fatigue. Studies now suggest that our screen-filled, high-pressure lives may be pushing hidden attention problems into a full-blown pandemic.
I felt compelled to ask, “Is there more to the story than brain chemistry and prescription medication?”
After a longer than usual session, I emerged with a couple of journal pages full of insights that felt refreshingly simple, yet profoundly wise.
The first thing I saw in my meditation was a vision of life in the pre-internet age before we had smartphones.
I saw in my mind’s eye neighbors chatting on porches, children riding their bikes in the street until dinnertime, and evenings lit by conversation instead of blue screens. The pace was slower, and people’s nervous systems were calmer.
Navigating The Sacred Journey Of Grief
As a psychic medium, I have spent decades bearing witness to the immense and complex journey of grief.
Over the years, I’ve learned that grief has many faces and forms. It is not only about death and dying. It can arise from various types of loss, such as the loss of a pet, the end of a relationship, a change in life path, the loss of a job, or moving away from a beloved home.
My clients often tell me, “My heart has a hole in it,” or “It feels like my heart has been torn apart.”
These aren’t just metaphors. Grief can feel so intense that it seems like a physical injury — like a ‘heart attack’ of the soul. Grief reverberates through our heart, mind, body, and spirit, leaving no part of us untouched.
One of the most important truths I’ve learned is that grief is deeply personal. No two people experience it in the same way. There is no “normal” way to grieve or a fixed timeline.
Some people begin to feel a little lighter after a few weeks or months, while for others, the sorrow lingers for years or even decades. And that’s okay.
Grieving means you loved deeply, cared sincerely, and connected profoundly. It is not just about saying goodbye, but also about building a new relationship with their absence — one that carries forward the love in a different way.
Transform Your Love Life With Color Magic
Color magic is a powerful and accessible form of energy work to improve relationships and align your romantic life with your deepest intentions.
While it is often associated with color therapy, a practice that uses the vibrational frequencies of different colors for healing, color magic takes it a step further. It allows you to manifest your wishes and desires with intentional purpose, vibrational alignment, and energetic attraction.
When it comes to love and relationships, color energy work can be your intuitive ally. Whether you’re longing to meet your soulmate, hoping to reignite the spark in a long-term relationship, or seeking emotional healing after a breakup, the energies of color can empower you.
Each hue carries its own vibration, acting like an energetic tuning fork that aligns your internal frequency with your heart’s desires.
Color surrounds us everywhere: in the clothes we wear, the food we eat, and the spaces we inhabit. With increased awareness, we can begin to use color intentionally to attract, heal, and transform our romantic lives.
Infuse your daily life with color vibrations that powerfully align with your desires: rose quartz pink for unconditional love, emerald green for heart healing, and lush purple for passion and depth. These choices go beyond fashion or aesthetics — they are acts of conscious, deliberate creation.
Color magic is a subtle yet potent tool in your metaphysical toolkit. It bridges the physical and energetic realms, enabling you to co-create with the universe in a beautiful, spiritually empowering ways. Ultimately, love is energy. So is color. When you bring them together mindfully and with an open heart, you become a magnet for connection, transformation, and the deep, soul-level love you’ve been yearning for.
What To Expect From Your First Psychic Reading
Getting a psychic reading for the first time is exciting, but also a bit intimidating, or even nerve-wracking. You may experience a mix of emotions: intrigue, excitement, nervousness, and even skepticism. That’s all completely normal!
If you’re unsure about what to expect, how to prepare, or which questions to ask, we’ve got your back. At Psychic Access, we understand the range of emotions that accompany your first session.
That’s why we’ve created this guide to help you feel more prepared, empowered, and open to the insights that await you. Your first reading is a deeply personal experience, and we’re here to ensure that it is also empowering, enlightening, and transformative.
The first step to having a powerful reading is knowing why you’re seeking one. What is your goal or intention? Why are you seeking a reading?
Are you seeking clarity about a relationship or your love life? Do you need insight on your career or business, or finances? Do you want spiritual guidance with your path or purpose. Or are you simply curious?
A reading with an expert psychic or medium can be a powerful, life-changing experience. Defining your intention sets the energetic tone of your session and lays the foundation for meaningful guidance.
Take a moment to center yourself and ask, “What do I hope to gain from this reading?” Having a clear purpose allows spirit to align the reading with your highest good.
When Walking Away Is A Sacred Act of Love
One of the most life-changing truths we come to face on the spiritual path is this: not everyone is meant to walk with us all the way.
As we awaken and align more closely with our authentic self, some relationships begin to fall away. While it’s natural to resist this because endings hurt and change can feel like loss, there is a quiet, sacred truth beneath it all: Letting go is often an act of love.
As your soul expands, you begin to see your relationships differently. They are no longer just emotional bonds or physical connections; they reveal themselves as soul contracts—agreements made on a spiritual level before you ever met people in the physical realm.
Some people come into your life to uplift you, to love you, and to walk beside you for the long haul. Others arrive to teach you about boundaries, self-worth, and discernment. Once their role is complete, the relationship may start to feel heavy, strained, or even harmful. This isn’t failure; it’s a sign that the contract has been fulfilled.
Yet, this part of the journey is rarely discussed. In spiritual circles, we often hear messages about unconditional love, compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance. These are indeed sacred spiritual principles. But we rarely hear the equally sacred teaching that sometimes the most loving thing you can do is walk away!
Letting go of a toxic or misaligned relationship is not abandonment or selfishness. It’s not also not a sign of weakness, cowardice, or a lack of spiritual depth. In fact, it often requires more courage and clarity than staying.
Embracing The Shadow Within
When I first began to intentionally and consciously walk a spiritual path, I remember doing so because it just felt so right. Every step I took toward ‘enlightenment’ in this lifetime seemed to bring more brightness into my life, and so many more blessings.
In those early days I was really rolling! I was expecting this to be an easy ride – all joy and light and love. It was wonderful.
What I hadn’t expected was the inevitable emergence of my shadow through as a result of all my spiritual work. And it was not something I was going to be comfortable with – admitting I had places of darkness within me, unloved aspects of myself, disowned pieces of my soul which had been abandoned and in such pain.
Through a series of, what seemed like, unfortunate events, I was given opportunities to face my shadow side. Challenges in relationships with friends and loved ones arose. I couldn’t understand it at first, and felt very alone and misunderstood. I was shifting the blame for this onto the people around me, instead of going inward.
Going inward, into the light, was totally okay, but going inward into the darkness was terrifying. My ego-self raised every defense to keep me from going there. Eventually, I could avoid it no longer.
My life at this point had endured tremendous change in the course of only a few years- so much so, that the entire landscape of my existence and the people in it were now different. While many of the changes were positive, the magnitude of the differences between my ‘old life’ and my ‘new life’ forced me into robust self-reflection.