Energy Vampires And Psychic Bullies

Is someone or something draining your energy? Most of the time it’s someone whom you are either trying to please, or get approval from, or someone you’re trying to help. You may begin to notice that something changes in your energy field each time you are around this person, or that you feel an imbalance of some sort afterwards. When I say being around a person, this can mean exposure to them through meeting in person, texting, talking over the phone, and even energetically, or psychically.

Energy bullies and psychic vampires are very good sucking the life force right out of you. Unfortunately, you may not notice this is happening, until after the fact. However, once you realize what has happened, identifying it is the first step to proactive healing, regeneration, and protection from allowing it to happen again.

Let’s have a closer look at what is actually taking place during an energy drain. Suppose you have a friend who is always complaining about her life, or often has a negative outlook on every situation she is involved in. This could also be a family member you meet for coffee, or whom you chat with over the phone regularly. And dealing with this person leaves you always energetically drained, deflated or emotionally unsettled.

I’d like to preface this with the fact that we all have times where we need to vent, or reach out for help when we are struggling with something. On the other hand, we also have moments where we need to be the voice of reason for someone else, or have an open mind and heart to listen and truly be there for the people we love and care about. Listening is so important in relationships, but if only one person is talking and one person is listening, over and over again, it is a drain on the listener.

Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters ~ John Mark Green

As you focus more closely on what is actually happening during an energy drain, you can see what you, yourself may be doing to attract this.

For example, are you afraid of what might happen if you do not appease this person? Do you fear alienating them by choosing to respect your own boundaries of well-being? There are a whole host of reasons why you may fear not to be liked by this person and this creates worry and stress, which can lead to an energetic drain of itself.

Look deeper within yourself. Once you have identified what it is that you’re afraid will happen, ask yourself if you’d rather be bound by that fear of something that has not actually happened, or would you rather be free? Much of the time you can imagine the worst and conjure up fears that only promote more energy going out to this person.

Furthermore, are you a problem solver? If so, and you can’t resolve this person’s problems, maybe their situations are not to be problem-solved by you, but rather by themselves. My teacher once said to me, “Be careful how much suffering you take away from someone, you could be robbing them of their own awakening.”

Maybe your friend or family member needs to take a look at themselves and their core beliefs, instead of trying to change things in the outer world.  If this person refuses to take this advice, this could be a big red flag as to why you are feeling drained around them. No one else can really do this work for them and if they are not wanting to do it themselves, it’s a sign post for you to exit, stage left.

One of the more common energy drains, and definitely one of the more subtle or covert ways of robbing someone’s energy that I see often in psychic readings, is making other people’s issues your problem. For example, you meet someone on a romantic date and you really hit it off. You begin to develop trust and stirrings of love in your heart for them, and feel the beginning of a meaningful relationship. Then, all of a sudden, they stop texting, calling, or contacting you, with no apparent reason or explanation.

No matter how valuable you are and your ideas, fools will certainly play both of you down, so exclude yourselves from the inflammatory environs of fools ~ Michael Bassey Johnson

You spend the next days, weeks, sobbing, hurting, or wondering why this person disappeared? Way too much of your energy goes into trying to solve this mystery, or what you might have done wrong. Big red ‘stop sign’ right here! If someone has done this to you, it is so important to see this clearly. For whatever the reason, whether it’s that they found someone else in the meantime, or there was a quality in you that may not have liked, the fact that they didn’t have the respect or ability to communicate openly and honestly with you, is something they take with them, not something you should carry!

Not only is this kind of situation a great opportunity to engage in some self-love, but also a serious wake-up call to not carry other people’s garbage. When someone wrongs another, or is unkind without provocation, it’s a blatant sign that they have some inner healing work to do, and that their absence could be a blessing in disguise. Trust me, they will merely take this situation that happened with you and bring it into their next relationship. What we don’t resolve with one, we shall certainly resolve with another.

The people I’ve read for in psychic readings, who see and recognize this pattern in someone, usually no longer feel drawn to that person. Sometimes they even receive an apology or make-up call from that person, but the best outcomes are usually for those clients who choose to take back their power… and then meet the partner of their dreams. Energy is everything. Once you decide to take back your energy and let go of wanting to change someone else, the sweet taste of freedom is yours and you can put your creative energy back to good use, by manifesting and attracting positive people into your life, who are as strong as you and has integrity.

Apart from energy thieves, psychic bullies can also be a problem for some. A psychic bully is usually someone who is jealous of you, or wants something you have. You may not even have met them in person. Maybe it’s just someone you see on social media and you get a bad feeling when you look at their picture.

Fortunately, psychic bullies have no power in the face of compassion and unconditional love. So, put on your psychic cap and look deeply into that person’s eyes. You will be able to see their pain and all of their baggage they carry. See them through the eyes of their mother, or the Great Mother, and from your heart. Whatever anger or fear you felt for them earlier seems to just fade away like smoke into the air.

At this point, send them love and close out this chapter of your story you had going on about them. Decide from here forward that whenever you feel hurt by them, attacked or whatever, bring your focus back to your own heart and mind. Merge with your inner goddess or god self, and feel the love and gratitude for simply being you. Thank yourself for being the strong, wise, and compassionate soul that you are, and give yourself a pat on the back for showing up so bravely in this life and for taking the fearless steps forward on your path to becoming the person you were born to be.