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Dealing With A Narcissistic Partner

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comWe all know at least one narcissist. It’s that toxic person in your life who seems charming and likable at first, but is actually extremely self-centered, has an inflated ego, shows no empathy or remorse, and can even become abusive. But what if that person is your partner, or someone you love?

Narcissists want to control. They want others to see them as important, superior and in charge. To a narcissist, someone who suffers from compromised self-esteem, is easy prey, which is why many people who have a narcissistic partner find it difficult to break it off.

Abuse is not always physical. It also takes the form of verbal insults, emotional manipulation or gaslighting, withholding affection, and unequal sharing of duties. All of these forms of abuse feed into a narcissist’s egotism. Narcissists typically try to rope their partners into joining into these negative, harmful relationship patterns.

So, what do you do when you find yourself attached to an abusive narcissist? At first, it’s easy to try and explain away their abusive behavior by citing times when they shows affection, brought gifts, or offered kindness and emotional support. They are good at pretending, but don’t be fooled.

Setting up healthy and definitive boundaries is the first and best defense. Know that you have the right to say no at any time! Falling for gaslighting, emotional manipulation and blackmail is an easy trap, and most narcissists are masters at these psychological games. If you’re unsure of yourself, role-play with a trusted friend or counselor, or read up on the subject. Like most difficult things in life, it takes practice.

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Loser-Victims And Their Helpers

click here for free introductory reading at PsychicAccess.comIf you grow up receiving a lot of ‘negative attention’ you are taught that love feels and sounds like being told (or shown) that you are always wrong, slow, stupid, annoying, useless, not worth the time and energy, not lovable, and never, ever, good enough. This means that as a child, you would only receive attention when you were told that you were doing things wrong, or that you were a ‘loser.’ This early patterning gets imprinted in the still developing neural pathways of a child.

If you grew up receiving a lot of negative attention, as an adult your way of ‘winning’ in life, and your way of feeling accepted and loved, is to seek negative attention… and turn yourself into a loser and victim.

Someone who has been raised in this manner, tend to insert themselves into the lives of people they think matter to them. They target people who seem important to them and whose opinions matter. They will then consistently create situations where they can be the loser. They will always be the one that is ‘slow,’ the one that ‘can’t be helped,’ or the one with poor social skills.

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Astrological Polarity

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comOpposites attract. Why? Because they aren’t really opposites, they are different sides of the same coin.

For example, narcissists tend to attract empaths, and vice versa, because they both have boundary issues. Narcissists don’t give enough, if any at all, attention to other people’s boundaries. Empaths frequently don’t give enough attention to creating and maintaining their own boundaries.

Hopes and fears are the same. Often people hope they will find a partner, because they are afraid of being alone. Just like people hope they find a good job, because they are afraid of going broke. It is important to examine your fears, so you can shift focus onto your hopes.

The Universe constantly seeks balance. For this reason, many things are really composed of two opposing things, including a person’s astrological sign. Yes, each zodiac sign has a polarity, or opposite sign. These polarities balance each other and help give insight to a person’s motivations.

Many people are aware of their Sun Sign, some know their Moon Sign, and some know their Rising Sign. But not many people know their opposite signs. These signs are, however, equally important to help us discover ways to achieve more balance in our life.

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The Danger Of Doing Business With Friends

click here now for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comRecently, while in the middle of unexpected home repairs, due to a very bad storm, I needed some help managing my everyday business responsibilities. I then mistakenly turned to a friend.

He had recently had a horrible accident and had to go on medical leave from work. Due to his changed circumstances, he experienced a dramatic drop in his monthly income. So, wanting to help, as most friends do, I offered to embark on a partnership with him.

It made sense at the time, since my friend had a lot of free time, while healing from the accident, and my time was being consumed by our home repairs. Anyone who has endured a hurricane in their hometown will understand this. These types of repairs tend to consume your life, while everything else is placed on the back-burner. I was so focused on dealing with these challenges, that I neglected to pay more careful attention to my inner guidance and ignored my gut feeling at the time.

So, I approached my friend and asked if he would be willing to help manage our rental properties business. In my mind it was a win-win situation. We embarked on this new arrangement by agreeing to split the profits generated from the monthly rentals.

Initially, all seemed to be going well. We both seemed happy with the new arrangement and both of our immediate needs were being met. Then, problems with maintenance and tenant issues started to arise. This is normal when you own and manage multiple rental properties. But my friend did not take any action.

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Love, Joy And Happiness After Years Of Hardship

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comI have a client who used to be extremely depressed. I recommend she speak to a therapist or counselor instead, because I felt that is exactly what she needed at the time. She had been harboring a lot of bitterness, grief, sadness, anger and other toxic negative emotions for a very long time. She needed professional help that I felt was beyond my scope of expertise.

So, she found a therapist and went for counseling, but months later she told me that the only thing she felt she accomplished was her spending thousands of dollars on help she never really received. She had still found no relief from her deep distress.

She had been bitter for a long time. While raising her children and attending church, her husband would cheat on her. She also worked the entire time the children were young, until they graduated. Meanwhile, he would leave on ‘business trips’ to go and gamble away their hard-earned livelihood, and spend time with other women. Then one day, he met someone he wanted to marry. So, they divorced and he moved far away to be with his new wife. He was a narcissist.

Her sadness and grief was also due to the loss of her mother, whom she had taken care of for 20 years after her father passed. She sacrificed a lot to dedicate herself to serving her mother’s needs. During this time she had no notion of self-care. She suffered on all levels: emotionally, physically, spiritually. She even gave up going to church. She was slowly dying inside and didn’t even know who she was anymore.

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Integrating With 5th Dimension Energies

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comOur world is undergoing a spiritual detox, and it has been putting immense pressure on everyone to take a leap of faith into the fifth dimension of love… or continue living at a lower vibration in the third dimension of ego.

The people who are choosing to elevate themselves at this time, or in the future, may be experiencing ascension symptoms that range from feeling exhausted, confused, physically sick, overly emotional, and disconnected. This is to be expected, since you are cleansing yourself of things, places or people you no longer identify with.

Those who are stuck in the third dimension thrive on creating drama, are typically narcissistic, and have an aura that is muddled in color. They tend to resort to mind games in relationships and have a difficult time being honest about their intentions. Third dimensional people also go along with the crowd, need to be accepted by others incessantly and develop codependent, toxic relationships.

Third dimensional people also tend to be two-faced, because they have more difficulty integrating the darkness-light polarity within them. Those who are empathetic or intuitive generally sense their energy being depleted when around third dimensional people, so it’s best to keep your distance and say no when necessary.

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Pay Attention Only To Your Soul’s Intent

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comMay I have your complete attention please? I certainly hope not. No one should ever have your full attention. You ‘pay attention’ to yourself, alone. Never, ever, ever in a million billion trillion years are you to give over to another human being your undivided attention, especially if their words are of flattery, praise or exaltation

Exactly what would that entail? Allowing someone else to intrude, violate, impose, and infringe upon the precious sacred theme of your own inviolate mind would be nothing short of blasphemy.

The sanctified domain of your mind is hallowed! Exempt from another’s influence, coercion and derelict impression, your sacred sphere of impenetrable authority is off limits to the invasion of others, no matter their usurped weight and supposed depth of knowledge.

“But, I know what’s good for you,” they might say. Well, chicken squat! No one ever possesses the gift of directed guidance for your particular life. Truth can only be hinted at and never fully expressed. No one is without a self-aggrandized intent of gallows’ ploy.

If you feel someone is using mental intimidation, emotional hyperbole, such as love, hate, guilt, regret, responsibility, respect, adulation, and so forth, as ultimatums, rest assured these worn out blatant tactics are nothing but manipulative water poles to navigate themselves through a river way of shaky unsettled waters.

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