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Your Superhero Costume Awaits!
Your life is a result of the choices you make. Obviously, these choices don’t refer to what outfit to wear, which hairstyle you adopt, or the stores you wish to shop at, or restaurants you prefer for dinner.
These choices are all about the decisions we’re faced with that may impact and reverberate in the following days, months, weeks, and perhaps years of our life journey. They include our decisions about relationships, job and career, where we live, how we interact with others, health, financial issues and lifestyle choices. These are the choices that possess the power to impact positively or negatively our forward journey.
Taking the time to think first, before we take action, can prevent many a potential pitfall, disaster or regret in our future. Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? Oh, if only it were so!
Every single one of us possesses the ability to be masters of our own destiny, but only, up to a certain point. Destiny, and the soul plan we signed up for, prior to being born into our present life, take precedence. It determines who and what we will encounter on our journey to spiritual enlightenment.
The Power Of Observation
In this busy world we rarely take the time to observe things around us. Most people see and feel things only through their own personal lens. Of course, it is only normal to identify with your own feelings and the things you have seen, heard or experienced. But sometimes so much of what we believe as reality is the only way we will accept it. It is necessary in some situations to take a step back and observe a situation, look at all sides of it and try to remain neutral.
I have worked with some clients in my hypnosis practice who just can’t seem to look at a situation from a different perspective. It is much easier for people to observe someone that looks much like them on a television screen playing out a scenario. They may see, feel even hear things that could not be recalled at the time of the event. Another way is to view the scene in a different way in order to rewrite the script to achieve a different outcome by observing. The incident with a different outcome may show the possibility of different realities.
For example, when there is a car accident and four or five people witness and observe it. When questioned, the people usually all have a very different account of what happened. Through their own personal lenses they believe it as gospel. But is it really?
From Victim To Survivor To Soul Evolution
The process of healing begins with psychological healing, which can then be carried forward to become transformational and contribute to your soul evolution. The original traumatic event or circumstances are experienced as a wound, as it should be. The pain of the occurrence is meant to be a lesson.
To shut this down by being stoic, or to minimize what happened to you, or your family, or your race, or to sugarcoat the experience with so called ‘positive thinking’ are the actions of a victim in denial. To feel the pain, to go through it and come out the other side is the journey of a warrior. This is where you start.
You set up this lesson before you ever incarnated. As a soul, working with your sacred group, and with guidance, you pre-determined these circumstances to create an amazing opportunity to forward your evolution as a soul. Accept what happened, which means don’t fight it, don’t deny it, go through the experience, feel it. Let it affect you, shape you, change you, challenge you.
Victim Stage
If you have a legal battle ahead of you for something such as rape, you will have to stay in victim (or victim survivor) mode as that is what the legal system demands. In fact, you will have to emphasize damage done to you in order to win your case. Even when one must call the police to come to a situation, law enforcement officers counsel people to say, for example, “I think I saw a gun.” This is done in order to get the police out in a timely manner and get it on record. Law enforcement is so overwhelmed that they have to prioritize which calls to respond to. Sadly the same is true for the courts. Emphasizing the danger you are in, or the harm you suffered, is a necessary strategy for legal battles, however, it is no way to continue living your life once the battle is done.
Creating Space Between Yourself And The Addict
Everybody needs a little time away. Some of us need much longer. I personally know people who have been together for decades, who have found the best way for them to stay together is to give each other some space.
But some of us need even more space than others, especially those of us who are with people who struggle with substance abuse in some way, shape or form. Spirit says that you can still love someone with addiction issues, but you might need some space and time away for your own well-being. I feel strongly that it is unhealthy to stay with someone if they have an addiction, because it does not contribute to peace in the body, mind, spirit, or the home in which you dwell.
Those that have to live with someone who abuses alcohol or drugs, know how hard it can be to have a meaningful conversation or healthy relationship with that person. The energy is always of a lower vibration. And children caught up in those situations have to feel it more than the adults, who may have learned to put up a shield of protection.
We must create a space between us and the addict, in order to keep peace and harmony in the home, for ourselves and those we love and care about. Keeping a peaceful home is a responsibility not only to ourselves, but to those who we are responsible for.
Forget Self-Love
If you are wounded or unhealed; if you grew up in a dysfunctional family; if you grew up in an environment of poverty, violence, racism, or sexual assault… forget self-love! Seriously. Where on Earth would you have learned the skills for giving yourself some healthy self-love? You will be shooting in the dark trying to do something that you have never seen modeled for you, and never really experienced.
‘Self-love’ has become an overrated marketing slogan to sell self-improvement products and services. Start instead with self-care. This will be difficult enough. If you have children, think back on how complex it was figuring out how to care for your first born. The same concept applies to owning your first pet as an adult. No matter how much you prepared, you were never truly prepared. You made mistakes and you learned from them.
You also discovered that sometimes caring for your child meant doing things that the child did not like, or even hated. Your child would cry, fight, throw a tantrum, while you tried to keep him away from the hot stove, or from putting something harmful in her mouth.
Learning self-care is similar to raising a child or caring for a puppy. However, you will be the child and Spirit will be the parent. You will make mistakes and you will resist, because some of the things you currently think are acts of self-care are actually harmful to you. Continue reading
March 2019 Astrology Forecast
March is set to be an intense month that will challenge us to take another look at what is, and what is not working on our lives.
Mercury, the planet of communication is going retrograde today until March 28th. This transit will encourage us to do some spring cleaning and teach us to take our time making big decisions. In addition, large purchases, signing contracts and starting a relationship should be avoided until the second week of April.
Venus will be in Aquarius most of March. Expect friends and lovers to be more cool and detached than usual. Aquarius isn’t the most romantic sign, so anticipate acts of kindness instead of romance until Venus enters Pisces on March 26th.
The New Moon in Pisces on March 6th will bring forth creative energy, but beware of self-destructive people or behaviors that hurt more than they help. Your physical energy may be low this week, but should pick up shortly after when the Moon enters Aries.
Uranus goes back into Taurus on March 6th and puts a focus on what we are building and our resources. Revolutions in finance, farming and nature are to be expected out of this cycle worldwide.
The Importance Of Clearing Negative Energy
A couple days ago, I needed to be in contact with a company that I frequently do business with. So, I called customer service to address the reason for my call. On the other end of the phone was a customer service representative with whom I instantly knew the call was not going to go smoothly. In an effort to not be rude myself, I proceeded graciously with the call, explaining the matter I needed assistance with.
Of course the call went just as I suspected it would. The owner of the disagreeable voice on the other end would not help me with my problem, and gave me every reason, valid or invalid, on why she could not do what I was asking.
After some back and forth with her, I politely asked to speak to someone else, as I felt her and I were talking in circles. She transferred me to another person and my issue was handled promptly. In fact, the purpose for my call was resolved in just a few minutes!
After hanging up, I kept thinking about the first person I spoke with and why she felt the need to be so unhelpful. Well, before I knew it, and without even realizing I did it, I mistakenly grabbed some of her negative energy, just by thinking of our interaction. This is a ‘rookie mistake’ that should not have happened, given my level of metaphysical experience and training, but it did. As soon as I discovered my slip up, I immediately released her toxic energy. I put the whole incident out of my mind and went about my day… or I thought I did.