self-discipline
Time To Review Your Goals For The Year
We are reaching the midpoint of this year. As you look at our desires and intentions from the beginning of the year, life might have changed, and so have you, or not. Sometimes we start out with several new year’s resolutions (at least I know I do). Where are you now with those changes and intentions you planned at the beginning of the year… and are some adjustments possibly required?
When working with clients, who want to make changes, we look together at different areas of their life: career, relationships, self-care, finances, creativity, limiting beliefs, and addiction. We then find the one aspect that needs to be prioritized.
Focusing on too many things can become very distracting, and quite honestly overwhelming. I have found the most success comes from making a list of all the things we desire to change or improve, and then to choose one to start with, which we feel can make the most difference and be personally satisfying.
It’s not that the other areas are not worked on during the year. But by focusing on one area, it magically and positively touches the other areas of our lives. One thing can change everything else. And there is no good in beating ourselves up over where we are, if it’s not where we want to be. The door to freedom is through forgiveness and loving ourselves.
An Accelerated Path
Many people come to me after years, sometimes decades, of trying everything else: Astrology, Numerology, Genetics, Past Life Regression, therapy, and so on. Years of being understood, validated, affirmed, and being told narratives regarding why they are the way they are, did not bring them all the answers.
There is worth in all of the above practices, both in Psychology and Spirituality, or Metaphysics. However, growth requires challenge, and we are now in a ‘feel good’ culture, where if anyone gets upset, there is the potential of backlash, or even a lawsuit.
In the 1960s there was an amazing education role play called Brown Eyes, developed by an elementary school teacher. You can look up the video online, as well as the reunion footage years later with the kids, who are now adults. The game created a scenario in which children, and later also adults, were able to experience the profound effects of discrimination, prejudice and racism.
However, teachers were eventually sued for doing this role play in class, because of the emotional upset caused by the experience. Of course, the role play was not upsetting to the minority children who experienced the discrimination and prejudice all the time in their daily lives.
The Challenge To Remain In The Light
What is the one area of your life that you would prefer to improve or change entirely? Mine without question would be to remain in the Light.
We live in a digital age, where we have instant access to information of all varieties… some truthful, others not so accurate. Once in a while this leads to something of value, but for the most part it is just a bombardment of noise, which is mostly designed to make us purchase and consume more products and services than we really need.
Scare tactics, for example, encourage us to buy more medication and nutritional supplements than any reputable doctor would recommend. Fearmongering convinces us to install excessive additional security for our homes. And airbrushed models tempt us into buying an endless assortment of goods that seldom add much value to our daily lives.
Meanwhile many of us have the tendency to complain about the government, the exorbitant rates charged for our monthly utility services, and the escalating cost of food and basic necessities.
The personal challenge for me is to allow myself the guilty pleasure of discussing any of these topics without vibrating into a negative state of mind. I can physically feel, in my body, the moment my energy starts to get into that negative energy frequency.
Reboot Your Goals With ‘Reset Mondays’
We all have goals. We plan to go big in our business, relationships, health, and many other areas of our life. Then we stumble as life happens.
Maybe you cutting out sugar this year, and then you had those chocolate chip cookies. Or did you commit to a workout schedule, only to skip a few sessions and finally give up altogether? Maybe that first date wasn’t quite what you expected, or you chose to stick with that familiar person who still doesn’t want to commit. You know what I’m talking about.
Failure and disappointment can cause us to lose our peace of mind and stay out of the game longer than we should. It then becomes more difficult to start again.
Maybe we need to be kinder to ourselves when it comes to our life goals, and appreciate the effort and progress we have already made. And when we do fall off-track, we need to consider what is underneath this action. Taking time to examine the ‘why’ can help us see the underlying cause. Sometimes it’s boredom, or old habits, fear of failure, or just that ‘little goblin’ in our head. It can also be fear of success and being seen – a new level, new devil.
Becoming Your Best Self
Know that Spirit is always beckoning you to become your best self. Stay open for the positive to emerge and, with open arms, joyously welcome the blessings of health and wellness, inner peace and wisdom, blissful love, streams of prosperity, and all that your heart desires.
Make a huge effort to quiet the chatter in your world and listen to your inner voice. This may mean muting your television, or not checking in with social media as often. Your quiet time might also manifest through long walks in nature, or soaking in a tub of warm water scented with your favorite essential oils and surrounded by candlelight.
However you choose to silence the outside world and tune in to the sacred realm, trust that your experience will be golden as Spirit will be guiding you to become your best self ever.
Know that you have the gift and ability to visualize and actualize the life you are seeking. See your life as you would love it to be, and ask Spirit to help you define your very best self. Often we set the bar far too low for our best selves. In this manner we cheat ourselves and miss out on fulfilling the divine purpose of our lives.
Successful New Year’s Resolutions
Did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year? I suspect most of us have done this at least once in our lives. But did you accomplish them? If not, have you ever stopped to wonder why? Too often, we do not reach our goals.
Year after year people make New Year’s resolutions, but few follow through on it, and then it becomes just another hopeful New Year ending with another series of failed pledges and personal promises. Whether it is to quit smoking, lose weight, change lifestyle habits… the plan is usually good, but the will, is weak.
Many of us just seem to fall off our new track and back onto the old one. We can’t seem to make a change of habit. We don’t take the time. We don’t keep up the positive self-talk. We don’t make a real plan to reach our goal. We just seem unable to get our head around it!
But here’s a plan to create suggestions or affirmation you can say to yourself, which may help you reach more of your goals.
A Sense of Calm – A Message From My Guides
Sometimes the emotional charge of something as simple as a misunderstood comment, or a statement taken out of context, can throw even the most level-headed person into a tailspin. Developing a general demeanor of good humor can assist you in dealing with some of these most difficult, embarrassing or awkward situations encountered in life.
Everyone handles things differently, doing the best they can with the information they have at the time. Although, generally, the goal is to come to a better understanding and reach common ground, sometimes this takes much more time, effort and compromise than expected.
Although it is important to resolve an issue and clear the air, if possible, it is equally important to put each issue into context. Years from the date of the affront, will the issue be remembered at all and, if so, will it have anywhere near the importance that it did at the time? Certain issues will never be forgotten, however, they can often be forgiven for the sake of all parties involved.