Facing Your Fears – A Message From My Guides

It’s okay to feel afraid. You have an excellent built-in system for self-protection. There are many legitimate fears such as raging house fires or menacing wild animals, and your body is designed to trigger fight-or-flight responses to help you in times of great peril.

However, these are not the fears that we are referencing here. We are speaking of the ingrained fears that manifest because you have allowed yourself to become trapped by a common belief system, or perhaps someone else’s past experience.

Our lesson for you today is to nurture your ability to step back and evaluate these fears before allowing them to take hold and prevent you from living your most exciting life, becoming your very best self or, worse, crushing your potential.

Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold ~ Helen Keller

You might be familiar with the acronym F.E.A.R… False Evidence Appearing Real. Sometimes when you allow yourself to become swallowed up in a particular fear, everything you see or hear seems to validate this fear. As you continue to nurture this false belief, the cycle never ends.

We encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and reevaluate the basis for some of your fears. Do not allow others to determine whether you have the intelligence, ability, looks, money or connections to accomplish your dreams.

To create an environment of success, set your own goals within your own timeline. Work diligently to progress at your own speed, following the generally accepted guidelines for your particular accomplishment.

Break down your fears into reasonable components. Do some research and analyze what steps would be necessary to make a small dent in just one fear. Make the commitment to yourself to accomplish this first step. Begin to master your fear by taking one additional tiny step in the right direction. Repeat this process until you can see for yourself that you are capable of mastering what might have appeared to be an insurmountable obstacle in the past. Broaden your scope to include additional fears and face them one at a time with confidence.

Do not be afraid to ask for help. Confide in a mentor or a trusted friend who will support you without judgment or ridicule. Connect with others who have accomplished the same goal. Whether it is learning to drive an automobile, speaking in pubic, going back to school or creating music, you can make a connection with someone who has already done what you are currently afraid to attempt.

I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear ~ Rosa Parks

Give yourself some leeway. Do not be hard on yourself if you fail the first time. History is full of success stories showing dedicated perseverance. Everything from chicken recipes to light bulbs have presented huge obstacles to their inventors. However, they persevered until success was theirs. Often, the fear of failure prevents people from trying in the first place.

Accept that the fear of success can be a different kind of stumbling block. Often people will put off their heart’s desire because they are afraid they won’t be able to handle the attention, accolades, remuneration or awards that might accompany grand success. Do not let this stop you from trying. Know that you will grow into each new comfort zone and that you will be able to handle your newfound expertise with grace and humility.

Remind yourself that the loss of your potential is much greater than your fear. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can happen if I try and fail?” If your plan is too grandiose, adjust it to accommodate smaller, safer steps that still allow you to progress and feel confident about the strides you are taking.

Above all, do not be afraid to try. A great, expanded world awaits your talent when you are ready to face your fears and step forward.