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Embracing The Shadow Within
When I first began to intentionally and consciously walk a spiritual path, I remember doing so because it just felt so right. Every step I took toward ‘enlightenment’ in this lifetime seemed to bring more brightness into my life, and so many more blessings.
In those early days I was really rolling! I was expecting this to be an easy ride – all joy and light and love. It was wonderful.
What I hadn’t expected was the inevitable emergence of my shadow through as a result of all my spiritual work. And it was not something I was going to be comfortable with – admitting I had places of darkness within me, unloved aspects of myself, disowned pieces of my soul which had been abandoned and in such pain.
Through a series of, what seemed like, unfortunate events, I was given opportunities to face my shadow side. Challenges in relationships with friends and loved ones arose. I couldn’t understand it at first, and felt very alone and misunderstood. I was shifting the blame for this onto the people around me, instead of going inward.
Going inward, into the light, was totally okay, but going inward into the darkness was terrifying. My ego-self raised every defense to keep me from going there. Eventually, I could avoid it no longer.
My life at this point had endured tremendous change in the course of only a few years- so much so, that the entire landscape of my existence and the people in it were now different. While many of the changes were positive, the magnitude of the differences between my ‘old life’ and my ‘new life’ forced me into robust self-reflection.
How To Manifest Your Life Partner
Is it really possible to manifest your life partner, your soul mate, your person, your match? Yes, absolutely, if you do it the right way. But there’s also a wrong way to do it.
Manifesting love isn’t about chasing someone or endlessly swiping through dating apps — it’s about aligning with the kind of relationship your heart desires. It’s about becoming a magnet for the right person, not just any person.
Whether you’re looking for a soul mate, a spouse, a life partner, or just a deeply fulfilling connection, the magic starts within you.
Many people get discouraged when love doesn’t come their way. They think it must mean there’s something wrong with them, or that love just isn’t in the cards. But often it’s not about luck or timing — it’s about energy, belief and intention. For example, if you’re still holding on to old heartbreaks, self-doubt or fear, you may be unconsciously blocking the very thing you want to invite in.
The good news? You can change that. You can shift your vibration. You can clear out the old energy and make room for someone new — someone who sees you, values you, and truly wants to walk beside you. Manifesting love isn’t just about asking God, Source, the Universe to send you someone – it’s about declaring what you deserve and then aligning your actions and beliefs with that inner truth.
Over the years, I have helped many of my psychic reading clients on their journey to find love. So, if you’re ready to welcome love — not just any love, but the right kind — these next steps will guide you to successfully bringing in your beloved.
Why Positive Affirmations Really Work
You often hear spiritual people talk about using affirmations to improve their lives. Maybe you’ve seen quotes online or heard advice like, “Just repeat positive affirmations every day and watch your life change!”
But have you ever wondered what it really means? It sounds simple enough — but how can repeating a few positive statements really make such a big difference, especially when it comes to something as big (and sometimes complicated) as love and romance?
Let’s start at the beginning: What exactly are affirmations? Simply put, affirmations are short, powerful statements that you intentionally repeat to yourself, usually to create a positive shift in your thinking and mindset.
Affirmations are best phrased in the present tense — as if what you want is already true — to help “install” these intentions or beliefs in your subconscious mind and thus shift your energy. For example, “I am worthy of love,” “I am confident and magnetic,” or “I attract healthy, supportive relationships.”
At first, saying affirmations may feel a little strange or even wrong — especially if your current inner dialogue is filled with self-doubt or fear. But with consistent practice, something amazing begins to happen. You’re not just saying empty words-you’re literally rewiring your brain and shifting your energy to match what you want.
But how does it work? How can repeating just a few words every day change the way you attract love or make that special someone finally notice you? Let’s explore both the scientific and the magical, metaphysical aspects of affirmations and uncover why they work and how you can use them to seriously level up your love life!
Chakra Gemstones To Attract Love And Romance
When it comes to love and relationships-whether you’re looking for a new connection, deepening the one you already have, or just feeling more naturally magnetic-understanding your own energy can make a real difference.
Working with crystals and gemstones can help enhance and shift your energy in subtle ways, shaping not only how you connect with others, but also who you attract into your life.
Sometimes we focus so much on what’s happening outside of us-what someone said, how they acted, how they feel-that we forget that the most powerful influences often come from within. When our energy is balanced, clear and aligned with love, everything around us begins to reflect that.
Crystals and stones can be friendly allies, offering a little extra support and encouragement as you navigate the ups and downs of love. They’re not magic fixes, but they can gently help you stay centered, open-hearted, and in tune with the kind of love you truly deserve.
The more you consciously work with these stones, the more you’ll notice subtle changes: feeling more confident, radiating more warmth, or simply being in the right place at the right time to meet someone special.
By making love crystals a part of your daily spiritual practice and lifestyle, you will soon begin to notice people responding differently, new opportunities for connection, or even a deeper sense of self-love that changes the way you experience relationships altogether.
Tarot Forecast May 2025: Four Of Swords
The Four of Swords forecasts a month of rest and recovery, reflection, and renewal. After the dynamics and challenges of the past few months, this card signals a turning point. It invites us to step back from the demands of the outside world and return to the sanctuary within.
This month is not a time for striving or pushing. Instead, we are invited to honor the vital need to recharge – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It is a month to slow down without guilt and to pause, not out of fear or avoidance, but out of reverence for the recovery process.
There is a silent power to this card’s energy of inner work and self-reflection. The universe offers a moment of stillness, a quiet space this month where we can recalibrate, gather our strength, and reconnect with what truly matters.
In this sanctuary of slowness, we can sort through our thoughts, release lingering tension, and make room for new clarity to emerge. It reminds us that slowing down is not stagnation, but a form of sacred progress.
The Four of Swords traditionally depicts a knight or pilgrim in a state of deep rest or meditation, lying on a slab of stone in what appears to be a tomb. This image is derived from medieval effigies — sculptures of knights carved into their final resting places, hands clasped in prayer, as if caught in an eternal moment of devotion and repose.
This imagery is rich in symbolism. It suggests a necessary retreat after hardship, a period of peace and quiet before the next phase of action. The surrounding stillness, lack of movement, and prayerful posture of the resting figure suggest a sacred inner space where healing, recovery, and clarity can occur.
They Can’t Gaslight You If You Trust Your Gut!
Gaslighting can be a very destructive aspect of a toxic relationship. It basically refers to any form of “reality twisting” or “crazy-making” that is designed to confuse or manipulate the victim.
Gaslighting is used to gain power and control in the relationship by making the victim question their reality. The phenomenon is typically found in romantic relationships, but it can occur in all kinds of social relationships, including friendships, at work, and with neighbors.
Sometimes it’s done in an obvious way, right under the victim’s nose, but more often it’s done under the radar, and you don’t always know who’s gaslighting you, or even that you’re being gaslighted.
“Gaslighting” is a psychological term derived from the 1938 stage play Gas Light and its 1940 and 1944 film adaptations. The movie is about a husband’s attempts to systematically drive his wife crazy by repeatedly dimming the gas lights in their home, only to deny that it ever happened when the wife asks him if he also noticed it. Over time, he manipulates his wife to the point where she believes she is imagining things and loses her mind.
Gaslighting is a common manipulation technique used by dictators, con artists, abusers, sociopaths, narcissists, and cult leaders. It’s done in such a way that the victim rarely realizes how much they’ve actually been brainwashed.
At first, the victim may have the idea that they’re not imagining things, but that someone else is doing this to them. They may even have an intuition about who that person is. However, the goal of gaslighting is to get victims to doubt these rational thoughts and replace them completely with the belief that there is something wrong with them, either mentally, spiritually, emotionally, or physically. The worst part, in my opinion, is that it makes you doubt your own intuition.
When Communication Breaks Down In A Relationship
So often callers ask me why they have trouble communicating with their partner or spouse. There’s often some kind of miscommunication going on in many people’s relationships these days.
And these misunderstandings quickly snowball into something bigger if they’re not addressed early on.
When someone contacts me for a reading with this kind of question, I go in and do the work to get to the root of the problem. Superficial answers are never good enough when it comes to the people we love and care about.
Because let’s face it, love and relationships are vital to our happiness and sense of belonging, but they are rarely easy and straightforward. They are worth the effort when the connection is real.
The first thing I always check with this kind of reading is if there’s any infidelity or dishonesty. It’s uncomfortable and dangerous territory, but we always have to rule it out because it’s so common these days.
If one person isn’t being honest or cheating, it throws everything else off balance. There’s no point in doing deep relationship recovery and healing work if the foundation of trust and integrity is crumbling.
Once that’s clear, I tune in to see if there is what I call a “love cord” connection between the couple. This is my way of checking to see if their souls are karmically connected.