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Honoring Yourself In Difficult Family Relationships
Family dynamics can be tremendously complex for many of us. These relationships are multilayered and deeply ingrained, often playing out across generations.
Many of my clients seek psychic insight about family matters. After matters of love and romance, and then business or career, family is often the most emotionally charged subject.
In readings, especially with empaths, intuitives, and highly sensitive individuals, I hear countless stories of family pain. Many carry a sense of never belonging, of being misunderstood or scapegoated.
These emotional burdens are often the heaviest that people bear because they are tied to the people they loved first and still love, despite the hurt.
When control or finances are interwoven into the family structure, the complexity of these relationships multiplies.
For many, family represents a love-hate relationship or a deep bond that carries deep wounds. While we cannot choose our family, we do have a say in how we interact with them, how we respond, and whether we continue to engage.
Severing family ties is a significant and often heartbreaking decision that is never taken lightly. By the time someone considers taking this step, the drama or emotional abuse has often been ongoing for decades and is sometimes rooted in a vividly painful childhood.
Nurturing Soul Bonds Beyond Rational Understanding
Psychology has provided us with invaluable tools for navigating life’s challenges. It helps us understand ourselves and each other, improves our communication, and builds stronger relationships. Whether we’re managing stress, boosting emotional intelligence, or making better decisions at work or at home, psychological insights guide us toward healthier, more connected lives.
However, there’s another layer to our existence that studying the mind alone can’t fully reach. While psychology breaks things down into patterns and causes, the soul deals in ongoing, heart-to-heart connections that go beyond intellectual discussion and analysis.
Psychology can explain why we feel anxious, how old wounds still affect us, and which coping strategies we tend to use. This kind of insight can spark real change.
However, understanding alone stops at the intellectual level. It doesn’t inspire the deeper truths and wisdom that make us feel truly alive and connected.
This is where ‘soul care,’ rather than analysis or therapy, offers a different path.
Rather than observing ourselves and others as case studies, soul care invites us to honor all our relationships — past, present, and future, as well as beyond this life — with warmth and continuity. It invites us to see friends, family, teachers, and deceased loved ones as conscious, eternal presences to be celebrated, not merely dissected.
Are You Holding On To The Wrong Person?
Many of the questions that callers ask me during readings have one thing in common: how another person is affecting the their health, happiness, and peace of mind.
Despite the differences in the details, the underlying story is often the same: the person’s inner light is dimmed because they have been giving too much power to another person’s choices, moods, or shortcomings.
Many people seem to be in the wrong relationships. They hold on, waiting for things to change and hoping for the best. They postpone plans, silence their own needs and preferences, and test the limits of their patience, believing that a breakthrough will come tomorrow.
However, that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. A change driven by the need to please someone else rarely survives the stress of real life. As soon as complications arise, old habits resurface. People can only change for themselves.
Spirit’s guidance on this is always very clear: hanging onto the wrong person — whether a friend, family member, spouse, partner, lover, or boss — prevents us from experiencing the best life has to offer.
When we’re busy monitoring someone else’s actions, we have less capacity for our own personal and spiritual growth. This prevents the amazing blessings waiting for us from coming in, not because the universe is ‘stingy,’ but because our time and attention are fully booked.
Love, Lust, Or Infatuation? How To Tell The Difference
When you develop intense feelings for someone, it can be hard to tell if you’re experiencing lust, infatuation, or the beginning of genuine, lasting love. All three feelings can be powerful and overwhelming, but they are very different.
These energies often manifest similarly at first: your heart races, you get butterflies, you can’t eat or sleep, and you find yourself daydreaming constantly. Not to mention the dizzy excitement you feel when you see his name pop up on your phone!
However, love, lust, and infatuation are not the same from a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual perspective.
Infatuation can hit like lightning. One day, you’re going about your life, and the next, someone catches your eye. Suddenly, you can’t stop thinking about them. It feels exciting — like something big is happening, like fate.
Infatuation is highly emotional, and if left unchecked, it can become an unhealthy obsession with someone. You idealize them and ignore their flaws. Although it can feel a lot like love, it lacks depth and stability.
It’s easy to get caught up in the rush. But that high doesn’t always last. Infatuation can fade as quickly as it began, especially when you start to see the real person behind the sparkly image.
Often, infatuation appears when we’re in a state of desperation. Maybe we’re feeling lonely or want to be loved so badly that we project all our hopes onto someone else. We might think, “This person will complete me,” or “Everything will be better once we’re together.”
Why Love Feels More Confusing Than Ever
Dating these days can feel like a full-time job — or a rollercoaster with no seatbelt. We swipe, like, text, ghost, reconnect… and repeat. It’s a fast-moving loop that can leave even the most grounded person’s head spinning.
Romance in the modern world is a strange mix of digital ease and emotional complexity. On one hand, dating apps offer endless possibilities.
On the other, they often leave us with decision fatigue and shallow interactions. You are connecting with more people than ever, yet feeling lonelier than ever!
Add to that a swirl of AI algorithms, shifting social norms, and sky-high expectations, and suddenly, dating feels less like magic and more like math.
Real emotional intimacy can seem like a rare treasure buried under surface-level chats and half-hearted DMs.
Everyone wants real love — but many of us are scared to be vulnerable, hesitant to trust, and reluctant to settle.
Social media doesn’t help much either. It often paints an idealized picture of love, all curated insta selfies and perfect dates. But what we don’t get to see are the quiet struggles, the messy growth, and the courage it takes to stay present and open-hearted.
And yet, despite all this noise, our hearts keeps searching — for that spark, that meaninful connection, that sense of being seen by someone who truly gets you.
Tarot Forecast June 2025: Knight Of Wands
The fiery spirit of the Knight of Wands predicts dynamic momentum, courageous action, and bold personal growth this month.
Expect a high-voltage month of movement, passion, and a strong desire for change, both internal and external. There may be significant breakthroughs, unexpected turns, and opportunities that demand quick decisions.
Whether we are taking on new roles, making bold moves in love, or advancing in our creative or career pursuits, life will be fast-paced and filled with intense passion.
The challenge will be to channel this vigorous vibe as mindfully as possible. The key will be to temper the boldness with mindfulness for the next four weeks.
If you harness this energy mindfully — acting courageously, yet not recklessly — you’ll find yourself breaking new ground in many areas of life. Staying aligned with your purpose is essential.
Stay focused and grounded, and let your drive lead you toward empowered, intentional growth. The month ahead is fast and full of potential — embrace it with vision and heart.
The Knight of Wands is traditionally depicted riding a feisty horse while wearing armor adorned with salamanders and flame-like feathers, which are symbols of transformation, drive and passion. He holds a sprouting wand aloft to represent potential and growth through action. Continue reading
Transform Your Love Life With Color Magic
Color magic is a powerful and accessible form of energy work to improve relationships and align your romantic life with your deepest intentions.
While it is often associated with color therapy, a practice that uses the vibrational frequencies of different colors for healing, color magic takes it a step further. It allows you to manifest your wishes and desires with intentional purpose, vibrational alignment, and energetic attraction.
When it comes to love and relationships, color energy work can be your intuitive ally. Whether you’re longing to meet your soulmate, hoping to reignite the spark in a long-term relationship, or seeking emotional healing after a breakup, the energies of color can empower you.
Each hue carries its own vibration, acting like an energetic tuning fork that aligns your internal frequency with your heart’s desires.
Color surrounds us everywhere: in the clothes we wear, the food we eat, and the spaces we inhabit. With increased awareness, we can begin to use color intentionally to attract, heal, and transform our romantic lives.
Infuse your daily life with color vibrations that powerfully align with your desires: rose quartz pink for unconditional love, emerald green for heart healing, and lush purple for passion and depth. These choices go beyond fashion or aesthetics — they are acts of conscious, deliberate creation.
Color magic is a subtle yet potent tool in your metaphysical toolkit. It bridges the physical and energetic realms, enabling you to co-create with the universe in a beautiful, spiritually empowering ways. Ultimately, love is energy. So is color. When you bring them together mindfully and with an open heart, you become a magnet for connection, transformation, and the deep, soul-level love you’ve been yearning for.