Life Design
Authentic Feelings Are Not Always ‘Sunshine And Rainbows’
What a comfortable, easy life this would be if everyone could just feel like ‘sunshine and rainbows’ all the time. The truth is that the many of the most worthwhile things in life do not come from ‘easy’ and ‘comfortable.’ And when we suppress our true feelings, it is ultimately detrimental to our health body, mind, and spirit.
Revealing our true feelings does not come easily for many of us. I am not trying to make up an excuse, but I just was not brought up that way. My parents’ generation were masters of the art of concealing their true feelings, good or bad. When I am doing a mediumship reading, and a departed parent or grandparent shows up, they often say things like, “I wish I told you more often how much I love you.”
I could count on one hand the moments in my childhood that I can remember my parents showing affection for each other in front of us children. Those of us who had been brought up in such a stoic family environment, tend to struggle when are encouraged to express our deepest emotions. As an adult, I do however see the bigger picture today. And I do feel it is necessary to express one’s feelings in a considerate and healthy way.
In my family my parents also never argued in front of us kids. My dad just gave my mom the silent treatment. We grew up thinking he was just be the ‘strong silent type.’ Consequently, I felt that this was what communication in a marriage should be like.
Of course, reality hit me badly with my first marriage, when my ex-husband and I had our first serious argument! I thought it meant the marriage was now over, because I had no coping skills or frame of reference for this kind of authentic self-expression in a relationship. I also had no clue how to have a good, healthy argument.
Yesterday, Today And Tomorrow
A loyal client recently asked me to send her one of the guided meditations in my collection. I have collected many over the years, and she experienced several of them in a meditation class I used to offer. She said she was planning to start a small meditation group of her own, and would be happy with whichever meditation I chose to share with her.
I sincerely wished to help her, and therefore wanted to choose carefully. So, on my walk this morning, along a path lined with olive trees, I asked my guides for a sign or symbol of what script would best help her get going with her guided meditation venture.
Well, Spirit never ceases to surprise me. The ‘sign’ was almost instant, and prominent. Out of nowhere, I suddenly smelled the exquisite scent of the ‘Yesterday Today and Tomorrow’ plant (Brunfelsia). I immediately knew exactly which meditation to send my client.
Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow Meditation
Sit in a comfortable chair and close your eyes. With your eyelids closed, glance upwards for a few moments, directing your eyes towards the heavens. This is helpful in relaxing your eyes and also symbolic in connecting with Spirit.
Now, take several deep breaths and, as you do so, relax your head in a downward position. Allow your eyeballs to relax downwards too, whilst still keeping your eyelids gently closed.
How To Manifest What You Really Want
I have, for at least 40 years now, been a deliberate creator, and passionate practitioner of the Law of Attraction. Nevertheless, when I first started working with this fantastic cosmic law, I noticed that I often manifested almost the exact opposite of what I was hoping for!
How could this be, I asked myself? After all, I had read all the books, did the meditations and vision boards, was thinking positively, and even bought the incense. Why wasn’t I getting what I wanted?
The answer came to me in time. It was because I was inadvertently counter-manifesting. This can happen so easily when we attempt to manifest – particularly in one’s early days of learning the art of cosmic ordering.
Okay, so how does one manage to counter-manifest and, more importantly, how do you avoid it?
Align Your Energy
First and foremost, if our energy vibration does not match what we are wanting to attract, we simply cannot draw it towards us. Like attracts like, remember? No amount of visualization or list-making is going to make any difference if we are not in a positive, open state of mind and elevated mood. We have to be ready to welcome whatever it is we have set an intention for.
Therefore, the first golden rule of successful manifestation is to raise your energy vibration with some healthy self-work and personal investment. By doing so, you will begin to attract more good things into your life, rather than drawing those things that you do not want.
Manifesting – Does The Outcome Justify The Intention?
You probably know by now, from your personal experiences, that the metaphysical process of manifestation is not always cut-and-dried. Sometimes the results are disappointing, while at other times it truly is a matter of ‘careful what you wish for.’ One aspect of deliberate creating that I never before anticipated, was that it might bring up a personal moral dilemma! Let me explain.
When I was 11 years old, it was discovered that I needed glasses for better eyesight. Like any other normal child, I certainly was not happy about the situation. However, I was smart enough to recognize that it would make seeing the teacher’s writing on the school blackboard much easier, as well as enable me to recognize people and appreciate beautiful sights more readily.
So, I had no choice, but to put up with wearing those awful eyeglasses until I turned 16. It was at that time I started to work and earning my own money, which gave me the ability to make some important decisions for myself and determine what I could purchase on my own behalf.
A lot of people were beginning to wear tinted contact lenses at that time, so I decided I would also get on the bandwagon. Soon, I was exceptionally proud to transform my ordinary hazel eyes into an appealing vibrant green! However, the lenses on the market then were not as easy to wear as they are today. They were very inflexible and abrasive on the eyes and, even while being meticulous with its care, still very easy to tear.
I kept up with this struggle of constantly switching back and forth between lenses and eyeglasses, until many years later when I developed hypoglycemia. One of the side effects of this ailment is extremely dry eyes, and so my contact lens days were pretty much over. I simply gave up the idea and continued with regular eyeglasses for many years after.
September 2020 Weekly Astrology Forecasts
September 7 – 13
We may not get much done on Monday, but if there is anything that just has to be completed, be sure to get to it on Tuesday, as the rest of the week will be a free-for-all!
Mars will go retrograde on Wednesday – a cycle that typically only happens once every two years. For the next two months it will be traveling backward, and being the planet of movement and action, we may all feel like we’re traveling in circles and unable to get any traction or make any headway.
Mars will be retracing its steps in Aries, the sign it rules, making it especially challenging for Aries and fire signs Leo and Sagittarius. It’s higher purpose is to give us the chance to go back and do things differently – quite appropriate, since it will be retrograde during the 2020 US Presidential Election, and won’t resume forward motion until November 13th.
Jupiter will turn direct on Saturday, ending its four-month retrograde cycle and bringing things back into balance on a personal level. It may take a few weeks for it to get ‘back on track,’ but once it does, we’ll find it easier to see the gifts in any blockages or delays Mars creates, as it begins its bi-annual retrograde cycle.
September 14 – 20
Except for Thursday’s new Moon in Virgo, things are pretty quiet on the astrological front this week, and should flow along pretty smoothly.
Monday’s Leo Moon will bring out our generous and gregarious sides, making for joyful interactions and heartfelt exchanges.
Tuesday and Wednesday the Moon travels through Virgo, making this the perfect time to attend detailed work, create a new budget, or make plans for a special upcoming event.
If you’ve been neglecting yourself physically or financially, the New Moon in Virgo will spur you into action to get things back on track, so starting a new class, exercise routine or scheduling a minor procedure will be easy under this influence.
The Moon dances through Libra on Friday and Saturday, casting a lovely and balanced tone to our movements. Romance will be in the air, and partnerships and friendships of all kinds will flourish.
Sunday’s Scorpio Moon will call us to go inward and relax to restore our energy and enjoy the wave of soulful and spiritual peace in the heavens.
September 21 – 27
The Sun will move into Libra on Tuesday, setting the stage for a month of loving, balanced and nurturing energy. Partnerships may grow stronger and those still looking for true love will have an open window from the Universe to meet their soulmates.
In fact, Monday’s Scorpio Moon is the perfect time to set your intentions for the month ahead, as its karmic nature can open doors that have been closed to you for years, so on the eve of the Sun’s move into Libra, take some time to meditate, write down your wishes or dreams. and then turn them over to the Universe for manifestation!
Thursday and Friday will be our most productive days of the week, so don’t worry if you can’t seem to get anything done until then, as you’ll make up for lost time in an instant.
The Moon will inspire us as it travels through Aquarius on Saturday and Sunday, spurring us to investigate new places, people, activities and creative ideas. Take advantage of this innovative cycle, as once Mercury moves into Scorpio on Sunday, our thoughts will turn inward to focus on more spiritual matters for the next few weeks.
September 28 – October 4
There are all kinds of activity happening in the heavens this week, with two planets going direct, one changing signs and a full Moon as the cherry on top! Saturn comes up first, as it turns direct on Monday after almost five months of retrograde motion. Once it gets some traction in a few weeks, earth signs (Capricorn, Virgo, Taurus) will finally experience some major breakthroughs, while the other signs of the zodiac will appreciate a return to discipline and balance that it brings. The Aries full Moon occurs on Thursday, and because it is also known as the Hunter Moon, it can often create the catalyst for new beginnings, provided we are finally ready to release the past and let go of things that are holding us back. This Full Moon calls for us to look into our hearts and minds and see what needs to be cleared out so that new opportunities can appear.
Venus moves into Virgo on Friday, and this can make the planet of love a little fussy! Try to keep an open mind and don’t dismiss anything because you don’t think you’ll like it. On an up note, Venus in Virgo can also bring out the humanitarian side of our natures, as well as an eye for detail, redecorating ideas and organizational projects.
The week will end with Pluto going direct, which will set the tone for social change and heightened awareness of the world around us over the next eight months.
Escaping Karma
Karma is often one of the most misunderstood spiritual experiences that we have as humans. People will often use the word ‘karma’ to represent something punitive, or to point out that another person will “get what’s coming to them.”
But looking at karma through the lens of retribution is almost the opposite of the reason why karma actually exists. In fact, when we hold a perspective about karma that is punitive, we tend to create some sticky karma for ourselves in the process.
Karma is in truth an expression of the self-correcting Universe, reflecting its intelligent, loving design. The goal of karma is to expand a person’s awareness of love, joy, and serenity. Karma simply means that whatever we give out, comes back to us multiplied.
The concept of “karma is going to get that person,” is often directly associated with personal vendetta. Therefore, so many spiritual teachers throughout history talked about forgiveness and loving our enemies. When we focus on karma “getting” the other person, we tend to bring about harsh justice for ourselves.
It is also important to understand that the karma that other people experience is not proportional to how offended we are. The goal of karma is not to ‘make’ other people feel the way that we felt when we were offended.
Integrating With 5th Dimension Energies
Our world is undergoing a spiritual detox, and it has been putting immense pressure on everyone to take a leap of faith into the fifth dimension of love… or continue living at a lower vibration in the third dimension of ego.
The people who are choosing to elevate themselves at this time, or in the future, may be experiencing ascension symptoms that range from feeling exhausted, confused, physically sick, overly emotional, and disconnected. This is to be expected, since you are cleansing yourself of things, places or people you no longer identify with.
Those who are stuck in the third dimension thrive on creating drama, are typically narcissistic, and have an aura that is muddled in color. They tend to resort to mind games in relationships and have a difficult time being honest about their intentions. Third dimensional people also go along with the crowd, need to be accepted by others incessantly and develop codependent, toxic relationships.
Third dimensional people also tend to be two-faced, because they have more difficulty integrating the darkness-light polarity within them. Those who are empathetic or intuitive generally sense their energy being depleted when around third dimensional people, so it’s best to keep your distance and say no when necessary.