Life Design
How Envy Drains Your Energy And Keeps You Stuck
As a clairvoyant and empath, I don’t just take people at face value. I sense what is happening beneath the surface. I can sense the presence of certain emotions, attachments and energetic cords in a person’s energy field, and how these affect relationships and quietly shape life path and soul growth over time.
Having done psychic readings for people all over the world for many years, I have repeatedly come to the same conclusion about relationships: most conflict is not really about what it appears to be on the surface. When viewed from an energetic and karmic perspective, deeper emotional currents are almost always at play, such as hurt, insecurity, betrayal, resentment or the need to restore balance.
One issue that I repeatedly encounter in these situations is envy.
Conflict can arise from many sources, but envy is one of the common energetic patterns I encounter, but is seldom talked about in everyday life. It often lies just beneath the surface of the tension between people, whether they are siblings, friends, or romantic partners.
First, it is important to distinguish between envy and jealousy, because they are not energetically the same. Jealousy is the fear that someone might take something away from you that you already have, while envy is the desire to have something someone else already has.
Spiritually speaking, the difference goes even deeper than that. Jealousy tends to stem from fear and attachment, often linked to past experiences of loss, rejection or insecurity. Envy, on the other hand, is rooted in comparison and a sense of lack or scarcity. It arises when someone feels disconnected from their own path, gifts or potential.
The Lessons Your Soul Came Here To Learn
There are moments in life when everything familiar begins to feel uncertain or different.
The roles we once identified with no longer fit, the goals we worked toward feel strangely hollow, and an unshakable question begins to surface: What is the deeper meaning of all this?
It is often in these quiet, uncomfortable spaces that we begin to sense there is more to our experiences than meets the eye.
What if your life is not random? What if even your most difficult chapters are not meaningless detours, but part of a deeper unfolding? What if the challenges we face are meant to be and part of something far more intentional? What if your life is unfolding as a kind of soul curriculum, designed for growth, awareness, and transformation?
To see your life as a soul curriculum is not to pretend that pain is pleasant or that every hardship is easy to understand. It is simply to consider that your experiences may be shaping you in ways the mind cannot always immediately grasp. It is to look at your life with greater reverence, greater curiosity, and greater compassion.
This is where a more soul-centered approach can offer support. Rather than looking only at surface problems, it invites you to explore the deeper meaning behind your experiences. It recognises that the mind, body, and spirit are deeply interconnected, and that when one area of life is out of balance, the others are often affected too.
Choosing To Shift Your Vibrational Timeline
There is a moment on our spiritual path when we begin to sense that reality is not as fixed as we were once taught.
I have spent decades walking between worlds, learning to listen then unseen and metaphysical. Through my training, I have come to understand that our lives unfold across energetic pathways I refer to as vibrational timelines.
These timelines are not abstract ideas. They are alternative states of consciousness that shape our everyday reality, our relationships, and our spiritual evolution.
Our reality is not singular and fixed, but rather a vast spectrum of parallel timelines. Each timeline is a distinct version of “now” existing simultaneously at different frequencies of vibration.
Everything that exists, including our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and physical matter, has a vibrational frequency. Your dominant frequency at any given moment acts like a tuning fork, aligning you with the timeline that resonates with you.
The timeline you experience is simply the one you’re tuned into and your consciousness is the selector. Your mindset, emotions, core beliefs, and level of spiritual awareness all determine which timeline you’re anchored to. Fear, doubt, and low-energy emotions align with lower-frequency timelines, while love, clarity, and expanded awareness with higher ones.
Letting Go Of Toxic Love
I have been reading for many years for a lady who is one of my dearest clients. I just love her to pieces. But I did not love the situation she was in with the man in her life, and neither did she. But it took her a long time to come to terms with him.
She was raising their child, while she worked and paid all the bills. Meanwhile, he did as he pleased and did very little to contribute to their home or their relationship. Neither did he make any effort to support her and their child. He has substance abuse problems. When he drinks he uses foul language and doesn’t exercise good judgment. Most of all he isn’t a good role model for their child.
He basically just drank and smoked, while he lay around all day. “And on top of that he eats me out of house and home!” she used to say.
“So he eats all your food, doesn’t work, gets to live for free, while contributing virtually nothing?” I asked her many times. I think she eventually had an “aha!” moment when I asked her this again the other day, because recently she told me that she had asked him to move out, and it felt like a breath of fresh air!
She didn’t feel like anything was holding her back now. She is going to start a new chapter in her life and she feels a weight has been lifted off her shoulders.
She was originally afraid of making this change, because they had been together for so long – over 15 years. But she said then she finally realized, “He changed, and he was taking advantage of me, and I allowed it because I thought he loved me, but he is not longer that same person I met.”
Soulmates, Soul Groups And Soul Contracts
I find that many people in the spiritual and metaphysical communities are looking for their ‘soulmate.’ So what is a soulmate? What does this term mean to you?
A soulmate is often defined as the individual that we can completely resonate with, that we can truly love and that they truly love us back unconditionally. In reality, however, due to our humanness, this may not always be possible and then we may become obsessed with the search for a soulmate. In that search sadly we often miss truly wondrous opportunities to connect with love in the most unusual or unexpected places.
So, why do we fixate on soulmates? The reason is because we crave love. For the majority of people, the pinnacle of human connection is having achieved such a true, ultimate spiritual connection with another individual. It is what we attest to in the ceremony of marriage, the birth of a child, and so forth.
But maybe we should choose to expand our view of a soulmate as being an individual that we have the deepest admiration, respect, love and positive connection with. Then as we look around, with this new definition in mind, we will see that each of us has many, many soulmates.
We should change our paradigm from being one of soulmates having to be our intimate romantic relationship to that of being simply a deep, compassionate heartfelt connection. Then our relationships have the potential of attracting so much more, including the pinnacle connection of true love. Soulmates available to you abound throughout the world. Your universal connection can be instantaneously expanded beyond your wildest belief.
The Mediumship Messages That Matter The Most
After the passing of a loved one, many people turn to psychic mediums for confirmation that their deceased loved ones have transitioned safely into the Spirit realm.
Typically, during a mediumship reading our deceased loved ones will relay evidence through the psychic medium to prove that they are the ones communicating from the Other Side. This may include references to jewelry, or other personal possessions, they have left behind; mentions of the things they enjoyed while in the living; places they used to love going to; shared family memories; as well as very specific personal information, like their first or last name, date of birth and passing, and so on.
It’s always very rewarding to create this psychic link to connect with a deceased loved, because much information can flow through in such a short amount of time. Sometimes our loved ones offer guidance and advice to better our lives, and even predictions about forthcoming events in our lives.
Some mediumship clients are concerned that they did not get the opportunity to say goodbye, or show their love and gratitude to a loved one while they were still in this life. Some clients are also curious about opinions their deceased loved ones may have regarding current issues in their life.
For example, if there is family conflict about an inheritance, they may want to know how the deceased loved one feels about it, and what advice they may have to offer on the matter. Most of the time the departed loved one will encourage the family to strive for peace, compassion and forgiveness, but the rest of the decisions are usually left up to those in the living.
Begin Every Day With An Attitude of Gratitude
I find that people who don’t appreciate what they have, often have their gifts and blessings challenged, or even lose it. And obsessing about what we don’t have can lead to depression and anxiety. It certainly does not help you to attract more into your life.
So, consider shifting from thinking about what you don’t have, and what you want and goals, and instead try an ‘attitude of gratitude.’ This is a dramatic shift.
Changing from thinking about what we don’t have to instead feeling grateful for what we do have, what we have been given, and what we have already achieved, changes what we attract.
This shift in thinking does not mean you can’t have goals, it just means you don’t feel an emptiness associated with those goals.
Nothing is missing. There is just more to be gained. You already have the sundae… it doesn’t need that cherry on top. A cherry would just be a nice bonus!
I’ve seen people become so obsessed with a timeline for getting married, for example, that they soon did get married… but to the wrong person!
The universe knows your true destiny. It knows what you need and when. Try to be patient and trust the flow.
Putting 90% of your focus on feeling grateful for what you do have and 10% on what you would still like to obtain, will completely change your outlook on life, as well as your physical and emotional health.