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Dealing With A Narcissistic Partner

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comWe all know at least one narcissist. It’s that toxic person in your life who seems charming and likable at first, but is actually extremely self-centered, has an inflated ego, shows no empathy or remorse, and can even become abusive. But what if that person is your partner, or someone you love?

Narcissists want to control. They want others to see them as important, superior and in charge. To a narcissist, someone who suffers from compromised self-esteem, is easy prey, which is why many people who have a narcissistic partner find it difficult to break it off.

Abuse is not always physical. It also takes the form of verbal insults, emotional manipulation or gaslighting, withholding affection, and unequal sharing of duties. All of these forms of abuse feed into a narcissist’s egotism. Narcissists typically try to rope their partners into joining into these negative, harmful relationship patterns.

So, what do you do when you find yourself attached to an abusive narcissist? At first, it’s easy to try and explain away their abusive behavior by citing times when they shows affection, brought gifts, or offered kindness and emotional support. They are good at pretending, but don’t be fooled.

Setting up healthy and definitive boundaries is the first and best defense. Know that you have the right to say no at any time! Falling for gaslighting, emotional manipulation and blackmail is an easy trap, and most narcissists are masters at these psychological games. If you’re unsure of yourself, role-play with a trusted friend or counselor, or read up on the subject. Like most difficult things in life, it takes practice.

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Loser-Victims And Their Helpers

click here for free introductory reading at PsychicAccess.comIf you grow up receiving a lot of ‘negative attention’ you are taught that love feels and sounds like being told (or shown) that you are always wrong, slow, stupid, annoying, useless, not worth the time and energy, not lovable, and never, ever, good enough. This means that as a child, you would only receive attention when you were told that you were doing things wrong, or that you were a ‘loser.’ This early patterning gets imprinted in the still developing neural pathways of a child.

If you grew up receiving a lot of negative attention, as an adult your way of ‘winning’ in life, and your way of feeling accepted and loved, is to seek negative attention… and turn yourself into a loser and victim.

Someone who has been raised in this manner, tend to insert themselves into the lives of people they think matter to them. They target people who seem important to them and whose opinions matter. They will then consistently create situations where they can be the loser. They will always be the one that is ‘slow,’ the one that ‘can’t be helped,’ or the one with poor social skills.

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Astrology Ascendants And The Lies We Tell

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comFlooded by ingrained ideas, thoughts, perceptions, and opinions, our particular way of viewing the world is somewhat colored and distorted. No matter how hard we try to deliberately negotiate our intent, what we ‘think’ gets in the way of what we do.

Coupled with the reality that most of our emotionally imprinted thoughts are the osmotic product of our early conditioning, environment and family upbringing, we bring to the table, not only ourselves, but a host of other unresolved disturbed voices residing in our heads.

In essence, we are ‘pretty much’ hardwired from the beginning to fuel false ideas about ourselves which support what we have been taught, shown or gathered indirectly through mal-aligned experience.

Before I go any further, let me make one concept impeccably clear: these false ideas do not necessarily have to be negative; they can just as much be ones that fuel the notions about how very special and unique you are!

Suffocating ingrained ideas influence us all the days of our lives, up until the critical point where we are afforded the opportunity, or given the chance (whether through plummeting to the abyss, or sky rocking through the ceiling of success) to investigate the matter of ourselves more directly, honestly and thoroughly.

It’s a tough job, but somebody’s gotta do it! Therein lies the premise of the first house of our astrological chart. Whether one is inclined to believe in the science of Astrology, or not, is not up for discussion. Either the star patterned information relates and fits, or it doesn’t. If it fits, wear it. If it doesn’t, toss it out!

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When Your Sun Is In Libra

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comA couple of weeks ago, on September 23rd, we saw the annual end of Summer, and beginning to the Libra season. When the Sun enters the cardinal sign of Libra, the Autumn Equinox begins in the Northern Hemisphere. From that point on, until the Sun enters the sign of Capricorn, we enjoy the Fall season.

In honor of the Libra season, I am exploring in this blog post an astrological breakdown of individuals born with their Sun in Libra. These summaries can also be applied to a certain extent to the charts of those who has Libra rising, as well as their Moon in Libra. If you, or a friend or romantic partner, happen to fall within these categories, you may find this analysis enlightening. Keep in mind that these analyses do not take into consideration the unique conditions of your natal chart.

Sun In Libra Woman

Libra women adore balance, and they seek it in all areas of their lives. Any little upset will garner her full focus, and she will zoom in on whatever is throwing things off. She may seize upon the drama, or obsess in conversation, or try with all her might to fix the error.

She will be utterly concerned with how you feel, even if she doesn’t know you. If she determines that she dislikes you, she will still care just as much, but in a negative sense.

Libra women tend to be vain, and they often prefer to have long hair. You won’t find many Libras who don’t take the time to keep up their appearance. Perhaps Libras are invested in the external world, because the internal can become so chaotic.

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The Answer To Your Question ‘Why’

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comWe ask many questions about our lives. Why did he leave me? Why am I not manifesting? Why can’t I find the right job? Why does my mother hate me? Why did another psychic reader give me an answer different from yours?

There are so many shifts in the Universe, and many grey areas. When you look at your questions, many times it is generic and many times, after talking it out, the answer becomes clear.  There are so many sifts and changes in every person’s life. Just because you thought a particular person, job, thing, incident was what you wanted or needed, it is not necessarily what Universe had planned for you.

Take a moment to think about things. With relationships, did you settle? Did you compromise just to hang onto someone and then realized that you weren’t happy, or that person was not changing as you had hoped? Compromise in life is the biggest obstacle in life. It holds so many back from reaching their highest good.

Just because you feel you are ‘soulmates’ does not mean you are meant to be with that person. Just because you know that it is the ‘perfect job’  for you, does not mean you are meant to have it. Just because you believe one psychic reader was right and the other was wrong, does not mean that it is true. Things shift, and life is fluid.

There are many people that hurt inside due to a loss, whether due to a breakup, death, unemployment, or any type of loss that you can imagine. Some say they won’t have anyone or anything else…they only want that specific person or thing. When you do this, you are limiting your life. You are wasting precious time over something that is not meant to be, and was never meant to be your permanent solution.

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Facing Yourself As The Other In Your Relationship

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comRelationships are funny things. They are by their very nature designed to elicit the best and worst from the individuals involved in them.

Although it may appear in a  relationship as if you are involved with another distinct person, you are, in fact involved with an underlying, obscured part of yourself, which needs identifying and relating to. With appropriate understanding and recognition, you can see your way clear to an insightful experience.

Once having subjected yourself to the nebulous involvement, you will no longer need to refer to your actions with dread of ‘doing the wrong thing,’ or suffering unnecessary hurt. You will comprehend that it is impossible to avoid anything and there is no guarantee associated with the leap into the depths of your own foreboding abyss.

The fact of the matter is that you will emerge unscathed and filled with unmistakable self-knowledge and power attached to the plummeting into the relational depths of tense despair. By facing both the dark side and light side of your vehemently nervous, fretful mind, you will be freed from the bonds of panic and contentious worry that forever plague you.

Your undisclosed, insecure personality, as revealed in the other person, is laden with criticism, negativity and lack of confidence, based upon the premise of unawareness. The guilt, anxiety, and duty you have attached to personal responsibility in the outcome of the relationship is nothing short of nauseating. You are not that important in the material scope of things.

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Our Spiritual Contracts

click for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comBefore we come into this lifetime, we design a soul contract. We choose a family that we want to be born to and we plan specific things that we want to accomplish, such as career, relationships, children, and so on. The contract is about our spiritual self and therefore also includes those things that we need to overcome and learn from.

Some of the more important things in your contract may come as a surprise, because often they are those things you do not want to do! This is usually a sure way of knowing that something is contractual. The things we prefer to do, or have done, we’ve already mastered, but the challenges and obstacles offer us opportunity to overcome our fears and anxieties, to step forward and learn more, to grow spiritually.

Some contracts are also much longer than others. Some of us remain here for a long time, while others do not. I doubt anyone knows for sure, but for the time that we are here, we must make every effort to learn and grow from every life experience.

This is also why some of us attract the wrong people, and constantly get into the wrong relationships? In these cases it is often your soul contract trying to teach you to speak up for yourself and claim your self-worth.

When old souls come in, usually nothing bothers them. They tend to take things with a grain of salt. However, when new souls come in, they are often very excited about so many things and can’t seem to get enough done.

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