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Toxic Friends… End It, Or Mend It?

Get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIt is a fact that all friendships, just like relationships, will have their ups and downs. Nevertheless, a real buddy would want the very best for you – irrespective. On the other hand, a ‘friends’ who are toxic will only be concerned about themselves. In fact, it would probably not matter one whit to them if your happiness was destroyed in the process of them getting what they want!

So, just how do you recognize an energy vampire to start with?  Look for the signs, says spirit, which could be one or more of the following:

A bad friend is is worse than an enemy, an enemy you can see and avoid, but to detect an insincere friend is hard ~ Bangambiki Habyarimana

  • Does the very thought of spending time with your friend fill you with fear, or dread?
  • Do you become somewhat emotionally exhausted during, or after spending time with them?
  • Do you find that most of the time you disagree with what they say, or do?
  • Have they ever, quite literally, made you cringe?

If you can say yes to one or more of the above, it may well be that you have an energy vampire in your circle of friends.

So, do you end it, or mend it?  Well, it all depends on what type of energy thief you are dealing with. Yes, you would need to recognize exactly what type of psychic vampire they are, and having done so, deal with them accordingly.

Having dealt with your energy vampires, it should help you remain strong and positive in life and therefore attract positive people, events and circumstances to yourself.

Negative Nelly

In this person’s eyes, nothing ever goes well for them. This includes their relationship, job, pet, kids, home – you name it. Everything in their life is usually disastrous!

Do you end it or mend it? People who are relentlessly pessimistic can be particularly toxic. With people like Negative Nelly, we really do need to be assertive and ask them to stop the doom and gloom, as it is so really difficult to live with. Furthermore, they need to look at the glass being half full, rather than half empty.

Half-Hearted Hannah

Do you feel you constantly reach out to this particular friend, more often than she initiates contact with you? If so, it may be that the friendship has turned rather stale. Or maybe it was never there to begin with?

If you find yourself being the one who always endeavors to stay in touch, then it is important to remember that your friends ought to invest in you just as much as what you invest in them.

Do you end it or mend it? Sadly, this person may not want you in their life anymore. The spiritual advice then is to stop initiating contact and let her come to you first – otherwise, you could end up exhausting yourself, and all for what? In the eventuality of this person not coming to you to continue the friendship, it is equally important you remind yourself that their loss will be another friend’s gain.

Always sleep with one eye open. Never take anything for granted. Your best friends might just be your enemies ~ Sara Shepard

Green-Eyed Gail

This friend wants your car, job, house and even access to your bank account, if you would let her. They are envious, constantly feel the need to keep up with the Joneses, and covet what others have, instead of counting their own blessings.

They may also be very nosy and constantly intrigued as to how you live your life, which can become quite intrusive. This type of behavior is more than likely due to low self-esteem.

Do you end it, or mend it? This friend really does need a confidence boost. Why not accompany her on a shopping trip and point out that what suits her may not suit you – we are all individuals of course! Should her behavior continue, a gentle conversation may be necessary to put things right once and for all.

Possessive Paula

This friend wants to know everything before anybody else does – otherwise, you may find yourself under interrogation! It is highly probable that this particular type of energy vampire does not socialize well with others.

Do you end it or mend it? Friends like this can be a real problem because they can become ever so possessive, probably as a result of not having their own social circle. Why not try to introduce her to your group of friends, in the hope that by helping her branch out, it will take some of the pressure off.

Peter Pan

This energy vampire has more than likely received all they have ever wanted, or needed in life. Therefore, it comes somewhat as a shock to them that they cease to be the centre of attention once they go out into the big bad world. This tends to result in them talking incessantly about themselves, and not wanting to know a thing about you.

Do you end it or mend it? Usually, this type of friend is not aware as to how they come across. It is important, therefore, to make them aware of their behavior, and thus give them the chance to change for the better.

Drama Queen

The smallest event can send this energy vampire straight into their Hollywood act! In fact, they may well be destined for an Academy Award nomination. Sensationalism, however, can become incredibly exhaustive to listen to, and immensely boring as time goes by.

Do you end it or mend it? Cutting ties, I am afraid, is highly recommended with this one. However, you would be wise to do the ending on a one-to-one basis – on neutral ground. Otherwise, you may have a dragged out performance to contend with. Having said what you need to say, all you need to do is walk away in peace.

It is hard to deal with someone who smiles and pretends to like you to your face and sticks that eight inch blade in your back when you turn around ~ Nishan Panwar

Pamela Perfect

This is the friend who you or no-one else will ever equal. In fact, everything you strive for, say, or do, will always meet with some type of criticism. However, in reality, this has got nothing to do with your value or worth as an individual, but is more a reflection of your friend’s insecurities.

Do you end it or mend it? Should you choose to break ties with this energy thief, then it would be preferable to do so via the telephone. You could explain to her, gently, that you do not appreciate being criticized on such a regular basis and that you feel the time has come to say goodbye. By taking this form of action, you would be empowering yourself by letting go of this particular energy vampire. You are also doing her a favor, by teaching her how to treat other people in the future.

Money-Pinching Mona

Irrespective of how much this friend may earn, she never has enough to make ends meet (according to her that is). Obviously, she never offers to pay for anything when you go out together. Most people would, I am sure, be too proud to ask their friends for cash, but not this toxic lady – she makes borrowing and sponging an art form.

Do you end it or mend it? Strictly speaking, this vampire needs to take full responsibility for her finances. After all, she is not the only one who has bills to pay! Should you wish to continue being her friend, however, then you would be wise to point out that while she has gone a little too far with you, you would,  nevertheless, be happy to help her sort herself out practically, if it would help.

About The Author: Lucinda

Lucinda is a highly trained Intuitive and Empath, living in a beautiful village in North Yorkshire, England. She possesses the rare gift of understanding a client's personal pain and has been through many challenges, herself, which has only made her stronger! It is both her calling and her happiness to help those in need. And whenever she needs a little help herself, her Guides are always there to assist in her development and provide clear interpretations for her clients. Prediction has always been a great tool she could count on to accurately foretell events, but Lucinda also draws on her expertise with Dream Interpretation, Numerology, Angel Cards, Law of Attraction and Life Coaching to provide full and detailed solutions to any problem. A member of AMORC and Beyond Freedom Evolution, she provides inspiration, education and personal support for spiritual development. If you'd like answers or want to attract your desires, you can find Lucinda at

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