Posts Tagged ‘parenthood’
You’ve reached a point in your life where you have thought about having children. Chances are, you have already passed other milestones in your life, such as finishing your career and getting married, and you see having children as the next logical step.
Forget the fact that children are expensive. Keep in mind how much you make at your career per year. Children cost around $250,000 to raise over a lifetime. Divide that by 18 years and you get $13,888.88 per child per year.
It adds up pretty quickly if you have more than just one child, and can quickly put a strain on your already fragile finances. With the current divorce rate at around 50%, never assume that you and your spouse will be together forever to help split the expenses. Read the rest of this entry »
We all know people who have come in and out of our lives at just the perfect time to say just the right thing at just the right time. Some of these wonderful people may have stayed in our lives, or perhaps left just as quickly as they came.
I have had several experiences with Earth Angels, but looking back maybe they were not of this earth at all. When I think of Earth Angels, I think of one person in particular and that is my Mother. My mother has taught me many things that has helped me in my life. She has taught me the fruits of the Spirit by applying them in her life.
So, with this blog post I simply wish to thank my mother for being present in my life. Read the rest of this entry »
My student, Alison, had called me years before, because her first-born son, Jeffery, had died. The doctors called it a natural abortion, but they already knew he was a boy. Therefore, to her he was her son, whom she named Jeffery. After that incident, the doctors advised her, “You will not be able to have children.”
Sharing her grief with her father one day at work, as they were employed in the same office, a co-worker, who had a fundamentalist faith, overhead them. She immediately offered her unsolicited opinion to Alison, “You had bad thoughts and killed your baby. God is punishing you by not allowing you to ever be a mother!” Read the rest of this entry »
This is a letter to my daughter – if I had one, that is. But I don’t. So, this letter is to her, the daughter I might have had, and also to those young ladies I have known over the years who I have felt were like daughters to me.
My daughter’s name would have been Chantal-Marie, should she have been born. I suppose I could have had her, but life took its course and time slipped away. I was too busy mothering myself, I think, and I couldn’t have mothered her, in retrospect. But hindsight isn’t always 20:20 – don’t let anyone fool you.
So here goes. Strangely enough, I feel as though I were on the edge of a precipice as I write this. It is a most unexpected feeling. Read the rest of this entry »
My mother is also the most mean-spirited and callous woman you could ever not want to meet. She will cause a scene just to do it, just to get a rise out of someone, because she is bored and isn’t getting paid any attention. Which, to her, is all the time.
My mother is bipolar, with severe manic-depressive mood swings that leave you gasping for breath in the wake of an episode, the same way you gasp for breath after being sucked under by a huge wave of water. My mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). There, but for the Grace of God, go I, as the saying goes. Read the rest of this entry »
This time I heard a deeply concerned mother say, “My five-year-old boy is having issues at school”. My heart chakra opened up wide, like a massive old wooden door. Every square inch of my body was totally hanging on the slightest sound from that mother’s lips, while my Spirit Guide was forming a sentient image in my mind’s eye of this little guy and his social challenges.
His mother continued, “And then the teacher puts him in the corner and tells him he is a bad boy.” Oh my goodness! My heart was bleeding for this tiny 5-year old. What kind of a person can even think of putting a label like that on a young child? I gasped at her words and struggle to find my own, as I looked to my Spirit Guide and beg for the right words to come out of my mouth. Read the rest of this entry »
Can you answer this question? What are your hobbies, interests or leisure pursuits? What do you like to do? No, not what you do with your kids, your boyfriend, your wife. Just you. What do you like to do?
Not such an easy question to answer is it? I was asked this very question a few years ago. At the time I found myself newly single after a painful breakup. Throughout the relationship I had made my ex’s interests my own. When it ended, I had to ask myself if I ever had things I liked to do before he came along.
Before I had a chance to answer myself honestly, a new man entered my life and his likes once again became mine and all was well. This was my pattern, until the Dark Night of the Soul fell upon me. I emerged from this difficult journey a different person. I am now very in tune with who I truly am. Read the rest of this entry »
Timothy met and fell in love with Rachel, his high school sweetheart. After high school, they tried for many years to have children. They miscarried twins and had given up, and instead decided to adopt when Timothy was 33. They were set to meet with the adoption agency the week before Timothy became ill.
He couldn’t eat, he couldn’t stand for long periods of time, and he was losing his vision. They postponed the meeting with the adoption agency in order to get Tim to a doctor to see what was happening. Within a few weeks, they had a diagnosis. Timothy had an inoperable brain tumor. The doctors gave him anywhere from six months to two years to live. Read the rest of this entry »