Healing
I Have Looked At Life From Both Sides Now – Part 4
But first things first! I missed my daughters. I needed to see them again. I concentrated and in the blink of an eye I was standing by the two of them. They were attending a funeral? Then I realized that it was my own!
I am advanced enough to not be in the confusion of this period. Their very sadness had drawn me extremely quickly to them. I tried to convey to them that I was there with them. I really wasn’t that funny ‘dummy’ of a woman lying in that coffin. They had dressed me in a white Swiss Dot gown with a red hearts design on it, and I was a pair of wearing red heels. It was so charming that they even placed my personal crystals on top of me.
Also, my animals were also present at the funeral. They had my favorite three puppies and five kittens placed in the casket with me. They cuddled my body. My only thought of comfort witnessing this was that they would all one day be back with me in spirit form. They were really sensing me being with them. It felt good. Continue reading
How To Deal With Toxic People
At times most of us have to deal with toxic people. It seems these days they are popping up everywhere in some way, shape or form. We do our best to understand them. And often we make excuses for why we continue to tolerate them. Year after year.
Fact is, some folks just aren’t going to change. No matter how much patience we give them. We may make up excuses for why we continue to share and hold space for them. But it is in vain.
Sometimes it takes a wake-up call from a doctor who tells us we suffer from stress-related illness, such as high blood pressure or anxiety, to make us realize that dis-ease does in fact cause disease.
I have done readings for several women who have told me they have serious health issues and they believe it is caused from the stress they have to endure from co-workers, or the people they have to live with, or those whom they are married to.
I have given lots of helpful advice to my clients in these matters, but I decided to step it up a notch and spend a month connecting with spirit and asking for a good list of items I can share in this blog that could maybe help you too.
Releasing A Toxic Relationship
Many of us have held onto a toxic relationship (which includes friendships) because of our mind trying to convince us that it will change. It will get better. I can fix this other person. I will wait for this other person to realize what they have in me. This person is my soulmate, I know it. This person is the only one, there will never be another.
So many excuses, so little truth.
It will not change. If a relationship or a friendship is toxic today, yes, it will change and become more toxic as the days, weeks and months pass.
It will not get better. You are trying to convince yourself it will get better with time with someone, when they finally start to realize that you are there no matter what. This is a huge misconception. Toxic relationships cannot change and the loss will be harder the longer you hold onto this person.
You cannot ‘fix’ your partner. No one can fix another person. No one can change another person. Each individual has to do their own work to clear the toxic or damaged parts of themselves. They have to do it for themselves, or it will never last.
Basic Psychic Protection
Do you often feel drained and overly tired, edgy, out of sorts, depressed, oppressed? Do you feel that there may be entities around you that wish to harm you? To wait until you need psychic protection is often when it is already too late. Prevention is better than cure. The following are some of the basic ways I protect myself before doing psychic readings.
I first clear my mind. I take deep, long breaths, exhaling any tension or negative thoughts or energies. Then, with my eyes still closed, I envision a beam of pure white Divine light, coming from Heaven through the top of my head. I visualize it flowing through my entire body and down into the ground, re-grounding me to the earth.
Next I envision myself surrounded by a bubble of pure white Divine light of protection. I say a prayer of protection at this time.
The Fallacy Of Future Happiness
One of the most consistent messages that come through when I am doing readings for clients, is the effects of the stories we tell about life and our circumstances. This is the first in a series of two blogs discussing two types of stories that people often tell themselves that have the potential to promote self-sabotage related to nearly every area of life.
We are all storytellers by nature and every experience that we have as human beings is an interpretation of the world around us. We apply labels to the world around us and the circumstances we find ourselves in every day. One of the most damaging stories that we tell ourselves are the future stories of happiness.
Spirit will often give us insights into patterns in our own lives to avoid. A consistent pattern to avoid is the fallacy that something in the future will eventually cause happiness. Happiness simply does not work like that.
How To Trust Your Spiritual Teacher
If you have a spiritual teacher, how do you know you can trust her? Weren’t you told to trust yourself first? Wait, how do you know you can trust your therapist, or even your doctor? Especially with all the sexual assault cases coming to light these days, it is scary to think that someone who is supposed to be your protector, care-giver, or mentor will use that position to manipulate you into a situation that is abusive, sometime violently abusive. Thinking about this can be horrifying, but so is not thinking about it.
What about the idea ‘trust yourself’? The problem with just trusting yourself is that if you grew up in an alcoholic, drug-abusing, violent family, or in some of the more subtle dysfunctional family dynamics, such as having a narcissistic or wounded parent, your radar for self-care is damaged. You do not yet have the skills to discern what is healthy for you. Your brain and nervous system is literally wired for dysfunction as your default normal setting. This means you will choose the dysfunction you know, because it is all you know. You will seek out an alcoholic lover; or you will find jobs with narcissistic bosses, for example.
The Season To Restore Harmony And Balance
The Wheel of the Year is turning again after last month’s Autumn Equinox in the Northern Hemisphere and Spring Equinox in the Southern Hemisphere. One can now feel a shift in the air. In both of these seasons I usually feel this change in my body, along with emotions of hope and excitement.
One of my favorite movies to watch again as Autumn approaches is, You’ve Got Mail. Yes, I’m a romantic. To quote the film, “Don’t you love New York in the Fall? It makes me want to buy school supplies. I would send you a bouquet of newly-sharpened pencils if I knew your name and address. On the other hand, this not knowing has its charms.”
In Astrology, most of the planets are now direct again, or moving forward, with the exception of Uranus and Neptune, and we are clear of Mercury Retrograde until mid-November. And Mars is getting back up to speed;, helping with the forward movement.