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The Magicless Misery Of ‘Compare And Despair’
I once attended a Toastmasters meeting where a gentleman was delivering his first speech to this specific group. It was an ice breaker to have us get acquainted with him. Instead of the typical short autobiographical introduction this speaker chose to give us an overview of his philosophy of life.
He told his audience that he sees himself entering a new phase of his life right now. He spoke about how important it is to get to know yourself and to take care of yourself first and foremost, and to always live in the moment.
After the speech and applause, the toastmaster reflected briefly on what the talk meant to him as he had listened. He said it reminded him of a mentor who had once, many years ago, said to him, “Compare… and despair”. If in life you are constantly comparing yourself to others, or comparing what you have with what others have, or what you feel you lack, or need to achieve, then all that will do is bring yourself unnecessary despair.
The only thing you should ever compare yourself against, his mentor added, is yesterday. Today did you do something constructive or grow in some way that makes you a better person than you were yesterday?
Too often we compare ourselves with our peers, both in our personal and professional lives. Why did he get a raise and not me? Why can I not find a soulmate like she did? Why can’t I be a successful entrepreneur like him? How come they get to have all these wonderful vacations?
Finding True Love That Lasts A Lifetime
Are you longing for true love? The kind of live that lasts a lifetime? A love that feels deeply aligned with your soul and supports your growth, your dreams, and your everyday life?
You are not alone in this. Many people are on this journey of seeking a partner who doesn’t just fill a void, but enhances the wholeness they are already cultivating within themselves.
Too often, people settle. I see this in psychic readings all the time. They choose what’s convenient or familiar, rather than what is truly right. There seems to be a silent epidemic of settling for less, of choosing relationships out of fear or loneliness rather than soul alignment.
I find one of the biggest challenges many people face is believing they are worthy and deserving of true happiness.
Ask yourself: Did I consciously choose the person I am with, or did I say yes because they showed interest? Did I see a future, or did I simply not want to be alone?
Another issue that often comes up in readings is people rushing into relationships without taking the time to ask themselves the deeper questions. Have I healed from my past? Am I open and ready to receive real love? Do I truly know what I want?
Manifesting a love that is genuine and enduring takes both inner work and intention. It is not something that simply falls into your lap. It is a co-creative process between your human ego, your higher self, and the universe.
Are Your Loved Ones Sending You Signs?
Have you ever felt as if someone who has passed away was trying to reach out to you? Have you noticed any unusual signs? Maybe you suddenly caught a whiff of their favorite perfume? Or maybe a song you associate with them started playing when you were thinking of them.
Though these moments may seem insignificant or random, they could actually be signs from beyond. Yes, really. The people we love who have passed away are still with us. They’re energetically around us more than we realize, watching over us and cheering us on.
Sometimes they try to send us reassuring messages, but we don’t always pay attention. Life can get hectic. It’s easy to miss these signs when we’re busy with our daily routines.
But the signs are still there. We just need to slow down, take a breath, and open our hearts to noticing them.
Not everyone sends the same kind of sign, and not every spirit communicates in the same way. Some loved ones are very obvious. They might move items like coins or feathers for you to find, flicker lights, or send a butterfly or dragonfly right into your path.
Other signs might be more subtle. They might cue up a meaningful song for the two of you or make the number 11:11 appear repeatedly until you finally say, “Wait a minute…what’s up with that?”
These are all ways they’re saying, “Hey! I’m here. I’m okay. I see you. Are you okay? No need to worry; you’ll be just fine. I’m looking out for you.”
Love, Lust, Or Infatuation? How To Tell The Difference
When you develop intense feelings for someone, it can be hard to tell if you’re experiencing lust, infatuation, or the beginning of genuine, lasting love. All three feelings can be powerful and overwhelming, but they are very different.
These energies often manifest similarly at first: your heart races, you get butterflies, you can’t eat or sleep, and you find yourself daydreaming constantly. Not to mention the dizzy excitement you feel when you see his name pop up on your phone!
However, love, lust, and infatuation are not the same from a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual perspective.
Infatuation can hit like lightning. One day, you’re going about your life, and the next, someone catches your eye. Suddenly, you can’t stop thinking about them. It feels exciting — like something big is happening, like fate.
Infatuation is highly emotional, and if left unchecked, it can become an unhealthy obsession with someone. You idealize them and ignore their flaws. Although it can feel a lot like love, it lacks depth and stability.
It’s easy to get caught up in the rush. But that high doesn’t always last. Infatuation can fade as quickly as it began, especially when you start to see the real person behind the sparkly image.
Often, infatuation appears when we’re in a state of desperation. Maybe we’re feeling lonely or want to be loved so badly that we project all our hopes onto someone else. We might think, “This person will complete me,” or “Everything will be better once we’re together.”
How Psychic Readings Can Improve Your Intuitive Wisdom
Have you ever had a clear inner knowing — a gut feeling you couldn’t quite explain — but you just knew it was real and true? Maybe it was a hunch about a person, a sudden feeling to take a different path, or a gut reaction that turned out to be right on the money.
That quiet inner whisper was your intuition speaking, and it’s far more powerful and accurate than many people give it credit for. The good news is that this innate knowing isn’t just for the gifted few. Everyone has intuitive wisdom. It is a powerful compass that we all possess, and it grows stronger with use.
One very powerful way to develop your intuitive awareness is to work with a skilled psychic counselor to exercise your intuitive muscles, deepen your confidence, and expand your energetic awareness.
Think of a trusted psychic as a tuning fork for your soul. When they access insights that are just beyond your conscious reach — whether from energetic currents, symbols, impressions, or timelines-they create a resonant field that awakens and confirms what you may have already felt but couldn’t quite articulate.
That moment of “Yes! That rings so true!” is your inner knowing being recognized and validated. It’s not about the psychic telling you something new; it’s about reminding you of what your soul already knows.
In this way, psychic readings are not passive experiences. They’re deeply participatory. You’re not just a receiver of insight — you actively engage with your intuitive awareness. Over time, this engagement helps you recognize patterns: how your body responds to truth, how subtle feelings point you in the right direction, and how your dreams, synchronicities, and inner nudges have greater meaning than you may have realized.
Discover Your True Strengths And Hidden Gifts
Self-awareness is the foundation for personal growth, fulfillment, happiness and success. By truly understanding our unique strengths, talents, and hidden gifts, we unlock our true potential and purpose to chart a clearer path towards a better life.
By recognizing our abilities and limitations, we develop a sense of direction that helps us make choices that are aligned with our core values and aspirations. When we embrace self-awareness, we unlock the tools to live a more intentional, empowered, and fulfilling life. It is the key to realizing our true potential.
This heightened self-awareness enables us to embrace our individuality and build confidence in our choices. It serves as a guide for setting realistic goals and identifying opportunities for growth. In addition, understanding our unique qualities fosters resilience as we learn to face challenges with a sense of purpose and adaptability.
Self-awareness also strengthens our relationships by cultivating empathy and emotional intelligence. By understanding our own thoughts and emotions, we are better equipped to connect with and support others.
Psychic readings are a powerful tool for discovering these innate qualities, helping you align with your highest potential and start living your best life.
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Our Pets Speak To Us In This Life And Beyond
Some of the most beautiful messages I’ve received as a medium have come from departed pets.
They bring messages of love, gratitude, and reassurance that they still walk beside their human companions in spirit. They also offer wisdom and insight into their owners’ lives from their unique perspective.
It is deeply moving to experience the enduring love of a pet from the other side. The grief of losing a pet is often unacknowledged or misunderstood, yet it is real and important to process and share.
It has been several years since we said goodbye to our beloved family dog, Lucy. She passed away in 2016, just before her 17th birthday, and I can never fully express the love and joy she brought to our lives.
By sharing how she helped me communicate with her – both in life and after her passing – I hope her story can help you feel a deeper connection with your own pets on the other side.
Lucy’s story began just before Christmas of 1999. Our trip was to buy storage boxes for an upcoming move, but instead we came home with a puppy in a box! From that day on, she burst into our lives and our hearts.
For a little dog, she lived such a full life. Wherever we went, she followed – by boat, by plane, even across continents when we moved to Dubai. She reminded us that as long as we were together, life was one big tail-wagging adventure.