Posts Tagged ‘self-love’

What I have found of late is that, in this new found age of authentic expression, there is less naive sympathy and simplistic expression. Everything has become very complicated. Even relationships of two’s have become gamed.

Now in sympathy of couples that do love each other, we need to go back to the basics of not morality, but of what makes us not human, but of one world. One world being not just humane, not just human, but also expert communicators, not of strategy, but of love. Not with a start or an end game, not with the result of being able to outwit one another, but without the expectation of anything, but with the simplicity to exist just within being.

The simplicity to exist is simply thus; in just being able to breathe in the fresh air. In being able to simply not outlive the other. In simply being able to remain still and outwit the other, to be the self. Read the rest of this entry »

Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.

Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.

So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »

Many years ago I had the blessed experience to work with a Native American shaman. I had to travel deep into a canyon in Arizona. This particular canyon cannot be accessed without a tribal member as escort. I was picked up in a jeep and whisked off to an area surrounded with red rock cradled in Aspen trees.

The canyon cliffs shot up hundreds of feet into the sky, eagles flew overhead, trees whispered the message of the wind, and streams of clear water bubbled over the river rock.

Amidst the beauty of this place there was also great poverty. Children stood in the streams selling beads and various artifacts made from the surrounding nature. Packs of wild dogs ran wild, seeking food. I had one thing on my mind: enlightenment. Yet, I was disturbed by what I saw around me. Read the rest of this entry »

Do unto others as you have them do unto you. It is also known as the Golden Rule. A simple and wise rule to live by, but something humanity struggles to adhere to.

It is also very close to another age-old axiom, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Again, this sounds easy enough. And what if you are one of those people, as many of us are, who are not in the habit of treating yourself very well at all?

How do you typically treat yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you approve, care, and not judge yourself harshly? Are you kind and encouraging to yourself? Or is your internal mental chatter and expression riddled with thoughts like: Read the rest of this entry »

As I continue to take calls and questions from people in pain, the one common denominator in many of these questions is the effect another person is having on the caller’s life.

So many people are in relationships with the wrong person. They hang onto someone, just waiting for things to change or be different. However that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. People can only change themselves for themselves, in order to make it last.

Hanging onto the wrong person in your life – whether it be a friend, family, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, and even a boss, can hold you back from having your best and highest good in life. It can keep the amazing blessings that are waiting for you from coming in. Read the rest of this entry »

The difference between being alone and feeling lonely can be a fairly mixed concept.

After my youngest daughter left home, I certainly had a case of the ’empty nest syndrome’ for a short period of time. I chided myself, for I felt the same way when my oldest daughter moved out. I had that feeling of ‘someone was missing’ and ‘nothing is the same.’ However, this time it was different, for it dawned on me that I had never lived alone before.

I began noticing the difference between my awareness that I was alone, and feelings of loneliness. Read the rest of this entry »

As a professional psychic, I often come across clients who are stuck in a relationship or career that doesn’t seem to bring them fulfillment or happiness. Overall it seems our society has been conditioned to settle for less than we are worth, and the majority of us have been raised to escape from our problems, instead of acknowledging them head on.

If you are at a crossroads, or questioning why you find yourself in a toxic situation, then it may be time to get brutally honest about who you are and what you really want. Refuse to make any further excuses and take responsibility for what you can change. Denial or lack of self-love will often times hold us back, but the truth will always set one free into greener pastures. Ask yourself the vital questions. Read the rest of this entry »

Think for a moment of all the heavy emotional burdens we tend to carry: resentment, anger, jealousy, vengeance, hatred. When we carry all that baggage, in some cases for years at a time, our mind, body and soul suffer the consequences. It can do a lot of harm over time, since these emotions are associated with very powerful negative energy! The good news is, there is a simple and effective way to leave all of it behind: the miracle of forgiveness.

True forgiveness is not just about our relationship to others. It begins with forgiving ourselves. If you were to take an honest inventory of your outlook on life as it stands right now, what would that be? Are you often judgmental, bitter or harsh on yourself and others? It’s time to offer some forgiveness. Read the rest of this entry »