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Do Loved Ones Become Our Spirit Guides?
While doing mediumship readings, I often have people ask me if their loved ones who have crossed over are now their spirit guides. The answer is, no. While our loved ones, who have crossed over, do watch over us, and communicate with us through dreams and other means, they are not our spirit guides.
Becoming a spirit guide requires many life times of experience, schooling and training. Our loved ones can give us energy, love and light, but they are not allowed to interfere with our destiny in any way.
So, what is the difference between spirit guides and loved ones who have crossed over? Spirit guides are with us before we choose our life. They help us decide what goals we have and what we want to emphasize and work on in the next life. They remind us of the lessons in life we struggle with every life.
My Childhood Near Death Experience
I am currently writing my thesis on Near Death Experiences (NDEs) and I have discovered recently that I had an NDE myself as a child. An NDE is when someone clinically dies, but then comes back to life, and lives to tell about it.
There were blocks of time in my childhood which were ‘spotty’ and had huge gaps in them. While I was reading the book Embraced by the Light by Betty J. Eadie, I had a flashback of my first NDE. The event happened when I was about nine years old. I remember one summer I was really sick. I had an upper respiratory infection which turned into pneumonia. I remember staring out the window, seeing the neighborhood children playing, but I could not join them. The doctors couldn’t find an effective antibiotic to combat my pneumonia.
One afternoon, I was given some cold medication and strong antibiotics. I went to take a nap and suddenly I couldn’t breathe! I struggled to catch my breath. I passed out on the bed. I was moving through a tunnel into the light. I remember my grandmother meeting me and holding my hand. It was my father’s mother, whom I never knew in this life! She died very young when my dad was only 19 years old.
How To Stop Doubting Your Inner Guidance
We’ve all been there. You get that feeling in your gut, that inner knowing, the ringing in your ear. Whichever way spirit uses to tap you on the shoulder, to let you know, “Hey pay attention!”, we’ve all doubted it at some point. Sometimes with dire consequences.
In the moment, it doesn’t always seem like that big of a deal. Yes, you know what you should do instead, but for whatever reason you talk yourself out of believing that you are receiving guidance. And then you do the facepalm later on and say to yourself, “I knew that! Why didn’t I listen?”
What’s the harm in doubting our guidance?
– We hold ourselves back from living our purpose,
– We limit our ability to help ourselves, let alone anyone else,
– We muddy our connection to Source,
– We are holding ourselves in a low vibration,
– We self-sabotage,
– We limit ourselves from trusting.
I Thank My Lucky Stars!
The recent holiday season and the dawn of a new year brought with it many musings of love and gratitude. It made me contemplate how truly blessed I am and thank my ‘lucky stars.’
To begin with, the holidays has been a very special time for me. I was able to spend some time with family members who live close by me, connect with those who are far away, and welcomed new people into my circle of friends. A beautiful new baby girl was also born into the family. The children and young people in my family are all original and smart, and my family is continuing the tradition of passing our knowledge to them. I feel so blessed to have these wonderful people in my life.
Looking back on 2018, I also thought of all my clients who call me for readings on Psychic Access. They are all very special beings with unique qualities and situations. As I strive to read their situations and provide the best and most coherent insights to their questions from their spirit guides, and as I consult my divination tools for more clarity, I humbly work hard to give them the honest, truthful answers that will help them the most. I feel blessed that they choose me to read for them.
A Gracious New Year
For the New Year my only desire is a complex, furtive, all encompassing desire that includes my dearest and nearest, and my farthest.
For one, I have concluded the preliminary work on a project for cataloguing wildlife and their emotional intent, which took two years, and which was an incredible life experience. I learned about their sense of fairness and how well they look after each other, even on an inter-species level. They are beautiful people too.
This work put me out into the field, so to say, and made me study empathy and telepathy more, and I have to state, I dislike brazen telepathy between strangers without consent. I dislike large groups using energies to talk, as opposed to plain conversation, but this is due to me knowing them well in my city – the focus being on me due to public speaking. So, I am definitely a focus of their energy, and I get to study it from that perspective.
I found it difficult working with their multitudinous states of mind, and absorbing all their emotional needs. I had to learn how to manage and prioritize their requirements. I also learned a lot about parenting through their children, and what their children needed. In summary, I learned about the human family.
Healthy Boundaries – The Best New Year’s Resolution!
The best New Year’s resolution many of us can work on in 2019 is to create healthy boundaries with the people in our lives. These boundaries don’t have to be all about just creating space or distance between you and a few toxic people and things in your life. It can also include keeping yourself from being exposed to negativity on social media, or avoiding those foods you are intolerant to. In 2019 I recommend we all take a moment to think about the things we do, say, consume, and the people we spend our time with. Whatever it may be that brings us down, or steals our energy, needs to go. And no more people-pleasing.
Dr Seuss says, “Those who matter don’t mind, and, those who mind, don’t matter.” Well, it’s true. Those people who have a problem with you, because your belief system is different from theirs, for example, are absolutely out of line! I have said it once and I will say it again: the world will be a very boring place if we all had the same ideas and way of thinking. Diversity is what keeps our world going. So it’s okay to be different. I am big on keeping it real and being authentic. I refuse to be a conformist.
Your Sacred Center Of Self-Love
We all thrive on being loved. This is natural, of course, if you look back at humanity in history on an evolutionary level. Ancient people came together in tribes, families, and groups, to cultivate a place of safety, security, nurturance, and love. If you were different or stood out in any way, or even left the tribe, you were literally putting your own life at risk. This topic can be viewed from so many arenas, including psychological, spiritual, scientific, and psychic.
I often wonder how and when did we start defining ourselves by how others felt about us, and why did we believe that other’s thoughts about us were true? At what point in time did we allow others to define us? It’s as though we as humanity went into a deep trance.
We all know the phrase, “Love thyself first”. When did we forget this vital piece of information? There are many ways we can come back in touch with this essential truth, but for the most part, our society does not support a lifestyle that would naturally lead us back to our sacred center of self-love. How often do you take a moment to look in the mirror, or tell yourself, “I love you?” Most of us feel silly doing this, but it is very healing.