Posts Tagged ‘grief’

With any kind of relationship, romantic or platonic, good or bad, comes a metaphysical cord of attachment which feeds energy from one person to another, in what can be likened to surgical tubing.

When we’ve had relationships with people, these cords extend from our chakras or energy centers to those of the other person. So, you can imagine the amount of emotions we can take on from someone else – more often than not ‘fear-based’ emotions. That fear can show itself as fear of abandonment, unforgiveness, co-dependency, or any other negative emotion.

Years ago, I remember reading a newspaper article shortly after the son of Dean Martin had been killed in an air crash. The famous singer said it felt like his heart was being ripped out – so real are these cords that bind us. The ripping at his heart chakra was, in fact, real, even though there was not any physical evidence of his heart being pulled from his body. Read the rest of this entry »

Physical death is not the death of the love you have for someone. When we die we continue to love all those we have ever loved in life and in all our past lives.

When someone you love dies they do not stop loving you, they continue to love you. I can say I am 100% sure that the love two people have for one another does not die after death. I would be willing to bet that that love is even intensified and maybe even deeper then the love the person had for you in life.

How do I know this you ask? I have had several conversations about life after death with my grandfather who told me many times if he could come back he would – he promised me this. He did come to me after he died and I was able to tell him I loved him, and it was definitely one of the best experiences I have ever had. Read the rest of this entry »

This is the biggest conundrum in life: If that person loves me, why move on from me?

I have felt many different forms of love. There are so many feelings to describe it. Yet, someone loving you may have no bearing on where the relationship is going.

Really? How can that be? He has told me he wants to marry me!

I believe that empaths have a hardwired ability to tune into that love. Women especially seem to get into dangerous relationships because they ‘feel that the person loves them’. This is not to exclude men, but I believe it’s a slightly higher percentage. Maybe it is women’s biological inclination to nurture and protect the roost that enhances their empathic skills, or the highly developed language center. Read the rest of this entry »

What was that tiny light? As I told a student of mine many years ago, “Your infant is seeing what you cannot. Babies are closer to God than adults.”

My student, Alison, had called me years before, because her first-born son, Jeffery, had died. The doctors called it a natural abortion, but they already knew he was a boy. Therefore, to her he was her son, whom she named Jeffery. After that incident, the doctors advised her, “You will not be able to have children.”

Sharing her grief with her father one day at work, as they were employed in the same office, a co-worker, who had a fundamentalist faith, overhead them. She immediately offered her unsolicited opinion to Alison, “You had bad thoughts and killed your baby. God is punishing you by not allowing you to ever be a mother!” Read the rest of this entry »

Early one morning, I recently received a message from Judy, a client of mine, to say her close friend had been shot and killed before dawn that day. Judy wanted to know if I could try and communicate with her friend.

It was too soon for spirit communication of any kind, but later that morning I did try and connect as promised. I felt we were dealing with a soul who was stuck, not quite knowing where she was after such a sudden death. I told Judy that we needed to help her friend find her way to spirit, to the light.

I asked her to remotely assist me in helping her friend in order to guide her to the light; I made suggestions to Judy on how to go about this. I felt that Judy’s friend was temporarily earth bound and that our guidance and prayers would help her, even if she chose to remain close to loved ones for the time being and make her presence known, until they were able to find some peace with her sad passing. Read the rest of this entry »

My journey towards healing has finally begun. It is a beautiful thing when we can finally let go of our fear, pain and guilt, and enter a much brighter and loving place – a place where we can feel at peace. This is my story of the struggle that has been my personal life and emotional hell during the past 10 months. It is also a testament to anyone who has suffered a loss and can’t seem to get past it. Healing can come from anywhere, at any second so never give up or stop believing.

At the end of the street is a large duplex remodeled into a private nursing home facility. The interior walls are painted in warm soothing colors and you can see the owners care and concern with decorating the rooms, to be as homely as possible. The residents who live here have all been allowed to bring things from their homes to help them feel more at ease. The place has the appearance of comfort, but the sterile tile floors criss-crossed with rubber walking runners. The strong smell of Lysol and bleach gives away the true meaning of this building. Read the rest of this entry »

Anyone who is fairly emotional will know that tears are never too far from the surface, yet in our modern society expression of emotion is frowned upon and we are made to feel ashamed of our tears. I’m as guilty as anyone when it comes to holding emotion in, but Spirit has its ways of helping us find release even when we struggle against it.

The last few weeks have been extremely stressful and trying, for a number of reasons, and even though I nearly always felt on the verge of tears, I couldn’t give myself permission to cry. Recent events have led to time away from home and work, and this is when an outlet found me. I was sitting outside one evening, chatting with my partner about the musical instruments I used to play, and we touched on the topic of the piano accordion. This is when I felt the urge to go looking for it, to see if I still had the ability to play it. Read the rest of this entry »

Every year when autumn rolls around I go through my house and get rid of the clutter.  I have a huge bag labeled “Second Hand Shop” and if the stuff has outworn its usefulness, in that bag it goes. So, recently, I once more set out to drop off these no longer wanted things at the shop it was intended for.

Whenever I go into antique shops or second hand shops, I immediately switch off. I have to, otherwise it would be like going into a funeral home and absorbing everyone’s sadness and grief, then taking it home with me. Before I learned how to “turn it off” I would get so tired and completely drained, I would be in bed recharging my batteries for days. Read the rest of this entry »