grief
Treat Yourself During The Holidays
The holiday season is a time when many of us are focused on family and friends. I have always found that this time of year brings joy, but also a little sadness. Feelings of grief tend to peak around the holidays, as we notice empty chairs at large family gatherings, or wrap gifts and find old tags with a loved one’s name on it. It cannot be avoided, but feeling grief or loss of a loved one around the holidays is also a reminder of the depth of our love for that person.
The stress of the holidays can be quite overwhelming. We are worried about ‘having enough,’ or purchasing the ‘right gift.’ Did we forget something, or someone? At times we tend to go overboard and then regret it later. If you’re like me, you’ll set a budget limit per family member, and then find you’ve far surpassed it with one, and then struggle to make up the difference for the others!
For example, my daughter is probably the easiest person in the world to buy for, and I always go overboard with her gifts. Then I have to scramble to find things for my son to equal the value and number of gifts.
Uninjected Psychic Connection
I was recently asked what it feel like to be able know things about people, without them telling me anything. “It helps me feel connected,” I quickly replied. People are often awed about the things I pick up during psychic readings and conversations.
I try to keep it in perspective and remain healthy, so I continue working hard to not use my hyper-sensing skills as a means to have power over someone, or to get attention, or to be awed without people understanding that it’s the connection between us that’s powerful. I just am able to facilitate this connection, nothing more. If people want to learn how I do this, I offer to teach them how ‘I do it’ and help them figure out how they can do it in their own way.
I was speaking to a friend on the phone recently, and she told me that the mother of a mutual friend, and even closer friend to her, had passed away. After asking her to share my condolences with him, I picked up something from who I thought was the energy of his mother, and asked her to share it with him. But he didn’t appreciate it. He said he was bewildered, and I felt horrible.
Connecting To The Universal Power
I have been in a very contemplative situation lately; probably because there have been so many deaths of loved ones that I have been so attached to. We all accept the idea that one day we will leave this existence and move on to another. But what happens in between? Where do we go immediately after leaving this realm? Is it safe? Will we enjoy it there? Do we get to come back? All of the above may be a small part of what plagues us, while we are trying to establish and maintain ourselves in the meantime.
My greatest desire for myself right now is to find a way to connect to the grand Universal Power and to solidify that connection. This will enable me to go about my daily existence with inner peace and calmness, and not allow myself to get mired down in the minutia of circumstances that I cannot change.
My first step is to understand why I am here. I feel part of the reason I incarnated into this world was first of all to help repair my karmic debt, by becoming immersed in some pain and suffering as a human being. There is no other world that I have been made aware of that would enable me to do this.
The Permission To Grieve
If you’ve recently experienced a deep loss, my soul reaches out to yours today. I extend my condolences and healing energy in your time of grief. I don’t just say it because it sounds like a nice thing to say as a medium. I say it because I truly mean it.
This October I suffered one of the worst losses of my life. My mother passed, rather unexpectedly. She was only 60 years old. I knew my mom hadn’t been feeling well for a few weeks, but she tried to assure me she only had “the flu.”
My mom knew I was a psychic medium, and that it was hard to get anything past me. She wasn’t exactly lying. She had no formal diagnosis to tell her what was causing her illness, but I am fairly certain that she knew it was something much more sinister than a simple bout of the flu.
Sometimes our intuitive gifts can also feel like a curse, because my gut knew exactly what was wrong, but I didn’t want to even say the word out loud. I just told her she needed to go to the doctor. She agreed, changed the subject and left it at that. This discussion happened three weeks before her passing.
I Have Looked At Life From Both Sides Now – Part 4
But first things first! I missed my daughters. I needed to see them again. I concentrated and in the blink of an eye I was standing by the two of them. They were attending a funeral? Then I realized that it was my own!
I am advanced enough to not be in the confusion of this period. Their very sadness had drawn me extremely quickly to them. I tried to convey to them that I was there with them. I really wasn’t that funny ‘dummy’ of a woman lying in that coffin. They had dressed me in a white Swiss Dot gown with a red hearts design on it, and I was a pair of wearing red heels. It was so charming that they even placed my personal crystals on top of me.
Also, my animals were also present at the funeral. They had my favorite three puppies and five kittens placed in the casket with me. They cuddled my body. My only thought of comfort witnessing this was that they would all one day be back with me in spirit form. They were really sensing me being with them. It felt good.
Coping With The Pain Of Loss And Grief
Going through grief is a very natural response to loss. The more significant the loss, the more intense our grief will be. Grieving can result from the passing of a loved one, losing a job, divorce, loss of health.
Coping with loss can be overwhelming. We usually go through all kinds of difficult and very unexpected emotions – from shock to anger to disbelief. Sometimes we also feel guilty that maybe there could have been more one should have done. And then there is the sadness, which is hard to even put into words.
The pain of grief and bereavement can, and often does, also disrupt our physical health, making it very difficult to sleep, eat and function normally. It is very hard to think straight at such a time, but these are normal reactions to significant loss.
Suicide And The Afterlife
The subject of suicide is not to be taken lightly, as there are so many misconceptions about it, and about what happens after. As a psychic medium, I worked more than my fair share of cases where a loved one committed suicide. To me, these are the most heartbreaking of tragedies. Many times there was no indication that a loved one was about to commit suicide. In other instances, it was expected.
In religious teachings suicide is often the number one act you don’t commit. According to some of these beliefs, those who take their own life will go to hell, or purgatory, or into the nothingness of space.