Posts Tagged ‘grief’
A few hours ago, my nieces’ father passed away. He was only 59 years of age and had been battling colon cancer which metastasized to his spine. His fight started several years ago and had run the gamut from surgeries, chemotherapy and radiation to clinical trials at one of the world’s most well-respected cancer hospitals. Toward the end of his time on this plane, he was sent home to live as comfortably as possible for his remaining days.
The following words of comfort are general guidance from Spirit, the gist of which I have passed along to my nieces:
“It is natural to grieve for loved ones when they pass into the Spirit world, even if you know that they will be without pain or discomfort from this time forward. In the case of a parent who has died, there can be an empty feeling of having been left alone to fend for oneself in the world, regardless of the fact that the adult child might have been a caregiver for the parent during a long decline or illness. Read the rest of this entry »
A friend named Laura lost her husband to terminal illness just a few weeks ago. I have known this friend for over three decades, and our friendship has been one of touching base every now and again, mainly on birthdays and anniversaries. She did let me know, however when Bill had passed.
The last time I saw Bill was about 15 years ago, when he came to me for divination – throwing the bones. Our connection wasn’t such a strong one that I would expect him to be present in my dreams within just four days of his passing. But he was there, in three of my dreams, one after the other. I gave those dreams very little attention, so the memory of them was vague by the following day.
My friend Laura has always been somewhat skeptical, even afraid of ‘the other side.’ When I had the fourth dream, still, within only a few days of Bill’s passing, I noted every detail and told her what had happened, and asked how she would feel if I shared what I felt was a message for her. Read the rest of this entry »
Does he miss me? I hear this all the time. In my psychic work advising on love and relationships, it breaks my heart, because I know what it feels like to ‘not be missed’. “I wish he would miss,” me is a heart-breaking statement if ever I heard one. My heart goes out to anyone who has ever wanted to be missed.
It’s sweet when someone is in love with a righteous lover who has been a good person, with few flaws and much to recommend them. Yet, sometimes that lover leaves, or a relationship explodes. But how do you keep from letting the hurt or feelings of loss drive you crazy?
First of all, it’s not healthy to let anything drive you crazy. It should go without saying that going crazy isn’t on your bucket list, right? Read the rest of this entry »
Know and trust that your loved ones in spirit and furry friends in Heaven are ever present in your life on this Earth.
They want you to know that they are sending their love and their joy. They are one with you as the memories of their lifetime pop in and out of your experience here on Earth.
And if you desire, you can invite them to come closer. Feel their gentle touch on your back or your hand, or your face. Feel the beautiful love and warmth and blessings that they bring here.
Many are desiring forgiveness and love wanting you to know that their soul, like your soul is ever eternal. There is no death, only a departing of worlds. Read the rest of this entry »
We may not always know or understand why we have connections with particular people, and even after they have passed it still seems vital that we keep those connections in place. Also, how we stay in touch may not be the same for each of us, it just is important that we do.
Many years ago, I had a lovely older friend named Pat, who came from a very affluent, upscale family and was certainly refined in every manner. It was noticeable in the way she dressed and spoke. Her whole demeanor exuded the firm self-confidence of someone who has been used to having the finer things in life.
Somewhere along the road, Pat fell in love with and married a rough-and-tough, stevedore-type fellow named Bill. By all appearances they certainly did not seem like a compatible couple, however, they stayed happily married, produced three offspring and had over 30 happy years together. Read the rest of this entry »
Ah, forgiveness! Such a misunderstood word. Many people assume that, although it sounds noble to forgive someone, forgiveness is often impossible. They feel that certain sins are so severe that the transgressor doesn’t deserve any forgiveness at all.
Also, there is a pervasive feeling that if you forgive someone, you are somehow excusing their infractions. Do not be confused. Whether you are forgiving someone who has hurt your feelings, stolen from you or caused you bodily harm, the reasoning is the same.
You are not letting the transgressor off the hook, or turning a blind eye to the wrong that was done to you. You are not condoning said transgression or justifying it in any way. Nor are you giving the wrong-doer a free pass to re-offend, or making an exception for him or her. Read the rest of this entry »
The aftermath of a break-up doesn’t have to be a catastrophic upheaval in one’s life. What follows are some basic suggestions that will help you process and transition through a relationship dissolution more harmoniously.
Understand the framework of the process you will be likely to undergo, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Feel your feelings. This is probably the most important thing a person can remember to do. We may fear that the pain will never end, but there really is a beginning, a middle and an end to the process of grieving.
We usually try to avoid pain, and what we avoid will surface in other ways. Also, remember that we bring people into our lives to bring up the areas in which we need to work, so after you have had a good cry, spend some quiet time reflecting on what you have learned from this experience. Read the rest of this entry »
We’ve all experienced the pain, sorrow, rejection, anger, guilt and heartbreak of losing a relationship. Whether through separation, divorce, illness or death, the feelings that these situations bring can be devastating to our person, and our world.
These feelings are real, these feelings are valid, and these feelings are completely normal. They are all part of the grieving process. It is how our mind deals with loss and enables us to heal, in order to move forward into a bigger expression of life.
One of the beautiful things about life is that we are all unique, individual expressions of the Infinite. One of the common threads that connects us is that each of us experiences the full spectrum of emotions, from pleasure to pain, and most assuredly, back again. Read the rest of this entry »