grief
Comfort In The Arms Of An Angel
I often use one of the rooms at the local library to meet with new clients. Recently, while I was waiting in the library’s cafeteria for a client to arrive, I noticed a radiant light coming in. It was shining on a very old lady seated just across from me. I then noticed there wasn’t a window at all near either of us!
Soon it became clear to me that this unusual light that was shining down from Heaven. Then there appeared also an angel, standing right by her side. As my sight focused I could make out more of the angel, and I also noticed that the old lady was seated in a wheelchair. she had an oxygen tank attached to the wheel chair. She was with a younger women, who looked to be her daughter.
I did not notice much else, just how amazing the light was and how beautiful her angel or guide was behind her. I sensed it was there to comfort her, as she was in a lot of pain and probably would not remain long in this world.
I then realized it was time to leave to meet my client in one of the private rooms, but as I was leaving the cafeteria I heard someone calling my name. I stopped, turned around and saw it was the old lady’s daughter calling my name as she walked towards me. She then told me we went to school together and I immediately recognized her!
When A Relationship Ends
Many requests for readings that I receive are about relationships, and a good percentage of those are about past relationships that just seem to keep hanging on in callers’ minds and dreams. There are often constant thoughts about the person, a longing for a second chance, or bitterness and remorse for time that now seems wasted.
The longer and more intense the relationship, the more battle scars and wounds exist. If it was a soulmate or twin flame connection, the aftermath can be gutting. The relationship has ended and the connection has been severed in this life. This time can be acutely painful. You know that you gave it everything. You hung in there for years, or you went to heroic lengths to ensure the survival of the relationship, but you fell short.
I am frequently asked, “Is it really over?” Of course, the answer depends on the particular circumstances and this is where a reading with a trusted psychic advisor can be very helpful. It can bring clarity, comfort and assurances about choices and decisions made along the way.
Victims And True Feelings
What is the difference between being a victim and feeling like a victim? Well, the first is identifying as a victim and making decisions from that base as a way of life. The other is going into the wounds of whatever happened to them, where they were a victim, and feeling those feelings, exploring them, processing them and allowing them to be released, as a part of the journey of healing.
Healing is waking up, coming out of denial. You finally admit you were hurt, abused, abandoned, raped, lied to, robbed, beaten up and that yes, it hurt. Yes, there was terrible fear and a loss of self, a loss of faith, depression, anxiety, and so much more. This stage is shocking, and it hurts. Your ego is demolished as you finally cave into the realizations and emotions that emerge as you face the truth about what happened to you, instead of minimizing it, explaining it away, or muscling through it.
Grieving, Raging And Learning
You will inevitably need to move through the grief cycle in order to find hope and healing. This process can take two years and longer. Many people will not understand that you are grieving, since you haven’t lost anyone to death. This process is not linear. It twists and turns through loops that overlap, moves forward, and then falls back again. Continue reading
Treat Yourself During The Holidays
The holiday season is a time when many of us are focused on family and friends. I have always found that this time of year brings joy, but also a little sadness. Feelings of grief tend to peak around the holidays, as we notice empty chairs at large family gatherings, or wrap gifts and find old tags with a loved one’s name on it. It cannot be avoided, but feeling grief or loss of a loved one around the holidays is also a reminder of the depth of our love for that person.
The stress of the holidays can be quite overwhelming. We are worried about ‘having enough,’ or purchasing the ‘right gift.’ Did we forget something, or someone? At times we tend to go overboard and then regret it later. If you’re like me, you’ll set a budget limit per family member, and then find you’ve far surpassed it with one, and then struggle to make up the difference for the others!
For example, my daughter is probably the easiest person in the world to buy for, and I always go overboard with her gifts. Then I have to scramble to find things for my son to equal the value and number of gifts.
Uninjected Psychic Connection
I was recently asked what it feel like to be able know things about people, without them telling me anything. “It helps me feel connected,” I quickly replied. People are often awed about the things I pick up during psychic readings and conversations.
I try to keep it in perspective and remain healthy, so I continue working hard to not use my hyper-sensing skills as a means to have power over someone, or to get attention, or to be awed without people understanding that it’s the connection between us that’s powerful. I just am able to facilitate this connection, nothing more. If people want to learn how I do this, I offer to teach them how ‘I do it’ and help them figure out how they can do it in their own way.
I was speaking to a friend on the phone recently, and she told me that the mother of a mutual friend, and even closer friend to her, had passed away. After asking her to share my condolences with him, I picked up something from who I thought was the energy of his mother, and asked her to share it with him. But he didn’t appreciate it. He said he was bewildered, and I felt horrible.
Connecting To The Universal Power
I have been in a very contemplative situation lately; probably because there have been so many deaths of loved ones that I have been so attached to. We all accept the idea that one day we will leave this existence and move on to another. But what happens in between? Where do we go immediately after leaving this realm? Is it safe? Will we enjoy it there? Do we get to come back? All of the above may be a small part of what plagues us, while we are trying to establish and maintain ourselves in the meantime.
My greatest desire for myself right now is to find a way to connect to the grand Universal Power and to solidify that connection. This will enable me to go about my daily existence with inner peace and calmness, and not allow myself to get mired down in the minutia of circumstances that I cannot change.
My first step is to understand why I am here. I feel part of the reason I incarnated into this world was first of all to help repair my karmic debt, by becoming immersed in some pain and suffering as a human being. There is no other world that I have been made aware of that would enable me to do this.
The Permission To Grieve
If you’ve recently experienced a deep loss, my soul reaches out to yours today. I extend my condolences and healing energy in your time of grief. I don’t just say it because it sounds like a nice thing to say as a medium. I say it because I truly mean it.
This October I suffered one of the worst losses of my life. My mother passed, rather unexpectedly. She was only 60 years old. I knew my mom hadn’t been feeling well for a few weeks, but she tried to assure me she only had “the flu.”
My mom knew I was a psychic medium, and that it was hard to get anything past me. She wasn’t exactly lying. She had no formal diagnosis to tell her what was causing her illness, but I am fairly certain that she knew it was something much more sinister than a simple bout of the flu.
Sometimes our intuitive gifts can also feel like a curse, because my gut knew exactly what was wrong, but I didn’t want to even say the word out loud. I just told her she needed to go to the doctor. She agreed, changed the subject and left it at that. This discussion happened three weeks before her passing.