grief
Coping With The Pain Of Loss And Grief
Going through grief is a very natural response to loss. The more significant the loss, the more intense our grief will be. Grieving can result from the passing of a loved one, losing a job, divorce, loss of health.
Coping with loss can be overwhelming. We usually go through all kinds of difficult and very unexpected emotions – from shock to anger to disbelief. Sometimes we also feel guilty that maybe there could have been more one should have done. And then there is the sadness, which is hard to even put into words.
The pain of grief and bereavement can, and often does, also disrupt our physical health, making it very difficult to sleep, eat and function normally. It is very hard to think straight at such a time, but these are normal reactions to significant loss.
Suicide And The Afterlife
The subject of suicide is not to be taken lightly, as there are so many misconceptions about it, and about what happens after. As a psychic medium, I worked more than my fair share of cases where a loved one committed suicide. To me, these are the most heartbreaking of tragedies. Many times there was no indication that a loved one was about to commit suicide. In other instances, it was expected.
In religious teachings suicide is often the number one act you don’t commit. According to some of these beliefs, those who take their own life will go to hell, or purgatory, or into the nothingness of space.
The Difference Between Psychics And Mediums
The work of psychics and mediums are often thought to be exactly the same, when in fact, they are not. All mediums are psychics, but not all psychics are mediums. Think of psychics as the main label and mediums as a type of psychic. Like many professions, psychics specialize in different modalities. Mediumship is just one.
My definition of mediumship is the ability to connect with spirits who have passed. Mediums are able to pick up on messages that are coming through from people who have crossed over to the other side and are no longer attached to a physical body in this world. Mediumship is a very specific type of ability that only some psychics have.
Live Your Wild, Precious Life!
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” These words by Mary Oliver is my favorite inspirational quote, which I even use as the postscript in all my letters and emails. No matter our age, we will always have desires. They are an important part of what our soul came here to learn and experience.
In this life we go through it all: love, loss, sickness, grief, anger, hope, and joy. Some of our challenges can knock us off our game and leave us in the land of the lost. We can feel like giving up on love, our dreams and desires, and numb out.
Before the movie The Bucket List was released, I was planning a transition from a fast-paced engineering job. I was contemplating early retirement and I wanted to take some gap time before going full-time in my metaphysical business.
Holding On To A Broken Relationship
Are you waiting for him to return to you? Has your break-up stopped you from living your life? Have you decided that no matter what anyone has said to you, that you know that he is coming back to you? Holding on to a broken relationship is a common occurrence in many people’s lives. One person moves on, another does not.
When confronted with this dilemma, you may believe he will be back. I know him; he can’t function without me. He needs me. He knows we are spiritually connected. However, this is often not the truth of the situation. It is simply your ego egging you on to believe what you want to believe.
I usually ask people to go into their ‘gut’ and take the heart out of it. But still I will get, “My gut says he will be back.” This is ego, because the response is so quick and without breathing in and allowing your guides to give you the proper answer.
A Psychic’s Perspective On Suicide
I have had quite a wave of callers in recent months who are extremely concerned over threats their children or loved ones have been making about ending their own lives. No matter what the circumstances may be, such suicidal tendencies must always be taken very seriously and handled with kid gloves. Contacting a psychic should ideally not be the first course of action. There are specialist emergency help lines and dedicated suicide hotlines which do a wonderful job.
Psychics also receive calls sometimes from clients who feel everything in their lives has become futile, and that the world would be better off without them. These types of psychic consultations are among the most challenging that we as advisors ever have to offer. Sometimes it helps just to listen to a distraught soul, and advise them where their true life purpose might lie, but I always suggest that such callers seek the help of a professional counselor or therapist.
The Cat Whisperer
I recently had to take my cat, Max, to the vet. He hadn’t been feeling well and I woke up one morning sensing I needed to call the vet. I am glad I did, as he had an acute urinary tract infection. Male cats are more prone to getting these type of infections.
His medical emergency took me back to a time when I first felt the need to adopt cats. My best friend, who was an up-and-coming veterinarian at the time, encouraged me to adopt kitties. I felt at the time I couldn’t even have just one or two, because I didn’t want the responsibility, but as the years passed, I wound up adopting six in total!
What was very special to me about adopting these fur babies, was that my vet friend passed away in 2007. Her death impacted me to the point where I became despondent, until I adopted my first baby in 2009 in her memory. The rest is history. I would often joke with my ex that it was my dearly departed friend’s fault for us having so many cats.
It seemed like we adopted one after the other in a short period of only two years. Max was the last kitty we adopted. I didn’t want him at first, thinking we already had too many as it was. My ex had asked me three times in one week if I wanted Max, as he knew the owners and they were going to return him to the shelter. His previous owners didn’t want another cat, since their first cat ran away and returned to their home one night. Continue reading