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The Pretense Of Hyper-Sensitivity

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comOnce we realize we have been misunderstood in one of our casual remarks, we typically try to immediately turn it around,. We try to add a more agreeable flavor, in the hopes that the offended or confused person will take it as a well-intended supported compliment. It’s usually rather ridiculous, really, but nonetheless in these situations we continue to ‘make certain’ we are not seen in a controversial manner, or in a ‘bad light.’

When such an ambiguous occasion arises, we are perfectly aware of what we are doing and how we are doing it. But, does that make one bit of difference to us? No. If we were not nearly so phony and apologetic in our deference, we may even get a lucid glimpse of what we were really saying, along with the motivation behind our attempts to butter up the other.

What exactly is it that we are hoping to accomplish? Why is it important to remain on a level of satisfactory exchange with the other, in fear of upsetting them? Do not these innuendos ring a melody of falsity? Does not the planted, erect knife in the butter fall once the butter melts?

In other words, what is hidden in the relationships we feel so insecure about, and in need of continuing such a façade of nicety?

We work so hard to maintain the supposed idea of decency we have long since cherished, nurtured and polished in our own minds. We do nothing to upset the apple cart. And, when an unsuspecting, misunderstood statement is made, maybe even in jest, we immediately try to reabsorb the awkwardness left behind. We feel we must absolve ourselves in the light of the other, and will actually go out on a thin brittle limb of more flattery, in hopes it won’t snap to reveal our embarrassment.

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Do You Prefer Spiritual School, Or Life School?

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comYour life path was designed by you and your guides, for you to evolve as a soul. This means everyone is on a spiritual path, whether they know it or not, and whether they believe in spirituality or not. We do not ‘have to’ consciously work on ourselves. Life is the ultimate teacher, and you will learn what you came here to learn, one way or another. Whether you learn well, or your learning is average, or if you don’t learn much of what you came here to learn (and have to come back for a do-over) life and life circumstances will teach you.

How much and how well you learn is completely up to each individual. If you decide you want to consciously work on yourself, that does not, in and of itself, make you a better person or more advanced than others. What matters most concerning a choice to do conscious work on yourself is how you take on the work and the energy behind your choice.

If you think you are broken, or you want power and prestige, your work on yourself runs the risk of being inauthentic and even abusive towards yourself. Choose to work on yourself because you are unhappy in life, or something, some energy, is ‘nudging’ you to learn more regarding self-mastery and being an authentic being, living with integrity, morality and ethics. You might want to read Awakening Loving-Kindness by Pema Chodron, as a starting point to better understand your choices regarding doing conscious work on yourself.

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Transmuting The Negative Energy Of Self-Sabotage

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comIn many religions and spiritual wisdom traditions we find guidelines on healing and mind-body wellness. Many of these philosophies, in conjunction with modern medicine, can be a great aid for mind, body and soul. In all spiritual traditions there are usually rules or recommendations aimed at the well-being of society as a whole, as well as each individual soul. Many of these teachings warn us of dangers we might find in our own thought, choices and actions. And if we are unaware or careless, a damaging thought or action can turn into a harmful pattern.

Recognizing a damaging thought or behavior pattern in our lives is not easy. We might realize that someone else makes the same mistakes over and over, but it may be difficult to have the same insight about ourselves. We create the imagined walls of our own limitations, and abide by them, without being aware of making this decision. These limiting, destructive thoughts and actions that appear repeatedly in our lives – especially those demeaning, self-sabotaging, angry thoughts – are in essence negative energy vibrations. A few example of such thoughts can be:

I am useless and incompetent.

I am not strong enough.

Nobody cares about me.

I do not deserve better.

I hate myself.

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Who Are You, And What Do You Really Want?

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comDo you have any genuine idea who you really are, and what it is you want ‘more than anything in the whole wide world?’ Most people don’t have a clue. They think they do, but they are as far removed from the truth of what constitutes their innate being of actual contentment as a doughnut is in wholesome nutrient composition.

If you don’t know who you are, you can’t possibly begin to imagine what you absolutely want. Without knowing who you really are, you may have lived your entire life under falsely embellished suppositions, firmly influenced ideas, fearfully established goals, and fastidiously monitored aspirations of others. Instead of following your own heart’s desire, you may be living out the unfulfilled dreams of others, as a means of pacifying their deeply-unresolved natures.

Unfortunately, we carry within our own psyches the uninvited, infiltrated voices of countless people who have ever made an impact on us, and continue to do so. It matters not whether the impact is negative or positive, those influential voices prevail.

Restlessness, body weight issues, promiscuity, boredom, depression, anger, loneliness, lying and lawlessness, health concerns, and substance abuse and addiction, whether it be alcohol, drugs, food, sex, shopping, social media, or simply gossip, are all verifiable barometers of not knowing who you are and what you want. When we are not in-tune with the ‘still small voice’ that resides within the deepest recesses of our psyche, we manufacture a superficial existence of continued disappointment.

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What Is My Gift?

Click Here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comRecently, during a reading, someone asked me what her ‘gift’ was. When asked why she wanted to know this, she said, “Because I don’t want to continue studying or working, unless I know I am going to succeed and be really good at it.” My jaw dropped.

To me that is like saying, “I will only get married, and have a children, if there is a guarantee that it will all work out!” Even if you have a so-called ‘gift,’ it doesn’t mean you will be ‘successful’ at it in earth plane terms. Jesus, Buddha, and many other spiritual teachers, did not become rich and famous in their lifetimes. They used their ‘gifts,’ talents and lives for the greater good, because they believed in what they were doing.

In my days as a performing artist, I saw many gifted, brilliant dancers choosing to abandon the dance studio to raise children. I saw mediocre or physically challenged dancers, with no family support, work, and work, and work, to become brilliant dancers… while others thought they were simply ‘gifted.’

Sadly this idea of having a special ‘gift’ has become a cash cow for the self-help industry. Tell someone they have a gift, and they will hand over thousands of dollars to attend workshops and seminar to develop their ‘gift.’ And the so-called teacher gets to feel good for getting others hyped up about having a gift, for which there is no evidence, and therefore they cannot be held accountable when nothing materializes.

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How To Gain Confidence

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comConfidence isn’t about feeling superior to others. Confidence simply means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities, but not in an arrogant way. It’s the quiet, inner knowledge that you are capable. Confident people feel ready for everyday challenges.

For some of us it takes years of trial and error to gain self-confidence. Most people are their own worst critic. They judge themselves much harder than others would. And some will never feel good enough, or worthy of all the good things life has to offer.

Confidence really isn’t something that anyone else can give you. If you are not feeling confident, no matter how much praise and affirmation others may offer you, it will just fall on deaf ears. If you don’t believe it yourself, you simply will not hear it, or feel it.

As a psychic medium, it took me a few times of demonstrating  for large groups to feel confident in myself and my mediumship. I have always trusted the spirit world to provide validation for the continuity of consciousness. The spirit world always brings forth messages and advice for clients without judgment. Spirit is consistently loving and kind, bringing forth messages for the highest good of my clients.

One of the biggest challenges for most, if not all psychic mediums, is the fear of ‘getting it wrong.’ Well, spirit never gives incorrect information. As humans we may interpret what we are seeing, hearing, and feeling incorrectly, but the original message is never inaccurate. The medium is just the messenger in the middle – and we are human and fallible. Therefore, in a mediumship session with me, I always try not to interpret too much of what I’m hearing, seeing and feeling. I just give the information with a basic sense of trust.

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How To Remain Grateful

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIn our daily life, it is all too easy to lose sight of the good things. We tend to get lost in negativity and stress, and we are also affected by the opinions and drama of those around us. At times it can be overwhelming.

In these moments we lose our sense of spiritual awareness and connection. I often speak with clients who experience exactly this. Indeed, it takes practice and re-commitment on a daily basis, in order to maintain our balance and inner peace, and remain true to our beliefs and mantras.

One of our own worst enemies is actually our false beliefs about ourselves. It is so easy to allow self-doubt to take over and let the negative thoughts creep in. Self-worth is a daily challenge for most, if not all of us.

To remain grounded and positive, I find that doing my daily gratitude list really helps get me back to that spiritual place within. When you are feeling low, or have had a stressful day, try keeping the following set of reminders posted as a list on your fridge, or somewhere you can see it daily. It will help change your focus.

What am I grateful for today? Who or what made my life easier or better today?

Did I allow negativity to affect me today? How can I remain grounded and avoid that next time?

Is there a better way I can deal with that difficult person or situation?

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