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Maybe It’s Time To Laugh At Your Irrational Fears!

Click Here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comOh, how we resist changing our position. No matter the intricately noxious weaving and interlocking difficulties involved to keep our doomed boat afloat, we will often go to great lengths to preserve an illusion – most especially a cherished one.

It might be one that reeks of putrid sourness for miles on land, light years on sea, but we will do just about anything in our mortal power to remain nestled in bed with our lofty, pre-fabricated ideas we want to hold onto. Why? Because if we changed our thoughts we would have to move from our position.

Far be it from me to shout, “That ain’t gonna happen in this particular dispensation of time and space.” Needless to say, it’s impossible to teach those who need to be taught. We refuse to be shown that which will cause us to admit we are wrong! Oh, Heaven forbid the malice that befalls the messenger who would dare bring us the unwanted, uninvited tidings of intrusive release!

Furthermore, we hardly ever forgive the person who tries to disturb our lofty mansions of fragile emotional splendor, in any way. We want to remain in our idolized pink castles of inner turmoil… much to our own detriment. You know the old adage: “I can talk about how bad it is, but you better not mention a word of it to me, or anyone else.”

Yet, someday something happens. The world turns on its axis and wobbles just a wee bit, in your head. You realize, for the first time, that there are at least 100 billion stars in our galaxy, while the Milky Way is just one of 100 billion galaxies in the observable universe. Notice, the key word ‘observable’ – not to mention what lies beyond the undetectable.

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The Importance Of Self-Trust

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comOf all the relationships in our life, none is more complicated or important than the one we have with self. And the cornerstone of this relationship is self-trust. Unfortunately, it is easy to damage the trust we place in ourselves. Why? Because all of us have or will make choices and decisions that don’t produce the desired outcome.

A relationship fails and we blame or question ourselves; a job opportunity eludes us; or a friendship fractures beyond repair.  We lose self-trust when we don’t achieve a goal, whatever that goal may be. Then we may begin to question our own abilities, our dreams, and our worthiness to have them manifest in our life.

Every time we replay an event we label a failure the doubt in our own judgment and our self-worth increases. Self-confidence stems from self-trust, so the cycle can be a vicious one.

So, how can we repair self-trust? First, decide to give yourself a break. You made what you believed to be the best decision or choice in the moment. If you are saying, “No, I didn’t, I know I should have done…,” then stop and choose to forgive yourself for not trusting your instincts in that moment. Holding a grudge against yourself only assures that the pattern will repeat.

Next, decide to honor your emotions. If you have made choices and decisions that you perceive as a failure, then the tendency is to begin to substitute the opinions of others over our own intuition, desires and dreams. This pattern can lead to co-dependency, confusion and fear. Self-trust is harnessed when we follow our sacred wisdom, instead of looking outside ourselves to provide inner peace.

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Dealing With A Narcissistic Partner

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comWe all know at least one narcissist. It’s that toxic person in your life who seems charming and likable at first, but is actually extremely self-centered, has an inflated ego, shows no empathy or remorse, and can even become abusive. But what if that person is your partner, or someone you love?

Narcissists want to control. They want others to see them as important, superior and in charge. To a narcissist, someone who suffers from compromised self-esteem, is easy prey, which is why many people who have a narcissistic partner find it difficult to break it off.

Abuse is not always physical. It also takes the form of verbal insults, emotional manipulation or gaslighting, withholding affection, and unequal sharing of duties. All of these forms of abuse feed into a narcissist’s egotism. Narcissists typically try to rope their partners into joining into these negative, harmful relationship patterns.

So, what do you do when you find yourself attached to an abusive narcissist? At first, it’s easy to try and explain away their abusive behavior by citing times when they shows affection, brought gifts, or offered kindness and emotional support. They are good at pretending, but don’t be fooled.

Setting up healthy and definitive boundaries is the first and best defense. Know that you have the right to say no at any time! Falling for gaslighting, emotional manipulation and blackmail is an easy trap, and most narcissists are masters at these psychological games. If you’re unsure of yourself, role-play with a trusted friend or counselor, or read up on the subject. Like most difficult things in life, it takes practice.

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Loser-Victims And Their Helpers

click here for free introductory reading at PsychicAccess.comIf you grow up receiving a lot of ‘negative attention’ you are taught that love feels and sounds like being told (or shown) that you are always wrong, slow, stupid, annoying, useless, not worth the time and energy, not lovable, and never, ever, good enough. This means that as a child, you would only receive attention when you were told that you were doing things wrong, or that you were a ‘loser.’ This early patterning gets imprinted in the still developing neural pathways of a child.

If you grew up receiving a lot of negative attention, as an adult your way of ‘winning’ in life, and your way of feeling accepted and loved, is to seek negative attention… and turn yourself into a loser and victim.

Someone who has been raised in this manner, tend to insert themselves into the lives of people they think matter to them. They target people who seem important to them and whose opinions matter. They will then consistently create situations where they can be the loser. They will always be the one that is ‘slow,’ the one that ‘can’t be helped,’ or the one with poor social skills.

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The Importance Of Self-Trust

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comOf all the relationships in our life, none is more complicated or important than the one we have with ourselves. The cornerstone of this relationship is self-trust.

Unfortunately it is quite easy to damage the trust we place in ourselves. Why? Because during our lives all of us have, or will, make choices and decisions that don’t produce the desired outcome.

We all fail, and we all make mistakes. A relationship fails and we blame or question ourselves. A job opportunity eludes us, or a friendship fractures beyond repair.

We lose self-trust when we don’t achieve a goal, whatever that goal may be. Then we begin to question our abilities, our dreams and our worthiness to have them manifest in our life.

Every time we replay an event that we label a failure, the doubt in our judgment and our self-worth increases. Self-confidence stems from self-trust, so the cycle can become vicious and destructive.

So, how can we repair self-trust? First, decide to give yourself a break. You made what you believed to be the best decision or choice in the moment. If you are saying, “No, I didn’t! I knew I should have done it differently,” then stop the that negative thought pattern, and choose instead to forgive yourself for not trusting your instincts in that moment. Holding a grudge against yourself only assures that the pattern will repeat.

Next, decide to honor your emotions. If you have made choices and decisions that you perceive as a failure, then the tendency is to begin to substitute the opinions of others over our own intuition, desires and dreams. This pattern can lead to co-dependency, confusion and fear. Self-trust is harnessed when we follow our sacred wisdom, instead of looking outside ourselves to provide inner peace.

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Astrology Ascendants And The Lies We Tell

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comFlooded by ingrained ideas, thoughts, perceptions, and opinions, our particular way of viewing the world is somewhat colored and distorted. No matter how hard we try to deliberately negotiate our intent, what we ‘think’ gets in the way of what we do.

Coupled with the reality that most of our emotionally imprinted thoughts are the osmotic product of our early conditioning, environment and family upbringing, we bring to the table, not only ourselves, but a host of other unresolved disturbed voices residing in our heads.

In essence, we are ‘pretty much’ hardwired from the beginning to fuel false ideas about ourselves which support what we have been taught, shown or gathered indirectly through mal-aligned experience.

Before I go any further, let me make one concept impeccably clear: these false ideas do not necessarily have to be negative; they can just as much be ones that fuel the notions about how very special and unique you are!

Suffocating ingrained ideas influence us all the days of our lives, up until the critical point where we are afforded the opportunity, or given the chance (whether through plummeting to the abyss, or sky rocking through the ceiling of success) to investigate the matter of ourselves more directly, honestly and thoroughly.

It’s a tough job, but somebody’s gotta do it! Therein lies the premise of the first house of our astrological chart. Whether one is inclined to believe in the science of Astrology, or not, is not up for discussion. Either the star patterned information relates and fits, or it doesn’t. If it fits, wear it. If it doesn’t, toss it out!

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Extend Yourself The Grace Of Forgiveness

click here for a free psychic reading a PsychicAccess.comIf you are an empath you may believe that forgiveness should be easy for you, or at least easier than it is for others. But I’ve spoken to many empaths and highly sensitive people over the years who all struggle with forgiveness.

One of the main issues with forgiveness for the empath is that we feel another’s emotions intensely, literally as our own. This muddies the waters considerably, because it tends to blur boundaries. Blurred boundaries can often lead to a closed mouth for an empath. Why? Because it is difficult for us, especially in childhood or in romantic relationships, to know where we end and another begins.

It is easy for others to manipulate appropriate boundaries with an empath, or to erase them altogether. All the empath knows is that there is pain, sadness, a sense of frustration, or anger.  If you are an empath, then the question becomes are you angry with them, or yourself? Should you have been able to foresee the catastrophe happening, the relationship ending, job imploding, and so on. This leads to self-doubt and the rehashing of incidents that occurred years ago…with no resolution.

In the meantime, every time an empath thinks about the situation, past or present, we feel it…and the cycle continues.

Yes, you are empathic, intuitive, even psychic, but that does not make you immune to being human, neither does it make you all-knowing or all-seeing, especially when it comes to your own life, childhood or relationships.

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