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Who Are You Really?

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comAt some point today you probably looked in the mirror. Maybe you liked who you saw there, and maybe you did not. But, did it dawn on you that the person who stared back at you from that reflection, is not the same person as the one who looked back at you yesterday? Yes, things changed while you were sleeping, and you were not aware of it.

Do we really know who or what we are looking at in that mirror every day? Do we even care? Does it matter to us that we will spend every waking and sleeping hour with that person we see in our reflection? Do we realize that whoever that person is, we will be sharing our deepest most profound thoughts, ideas and convictions with them for the rest of our life?

Instead of merely glancing at that reflection we have grown so accustomed to, why not take the time to truly observe the facial expressions and body language, revealing our inner motivations and latent content.

More importantly, maybe it is time to really get to know that individual we observe in the mirror. That mysterious, fathomless person most likely demonstrates enormous fortitude, determination, strength of will and irresolute character. There may also be an infectious humor buried just below the surface, waiting to be examined for discernment in the reality of our most passionate dreams and mocking glares.

What is important to us today will be important to us always. The problem is we don’t always know what is really important to us. Why? Because, we won’t stay still long enough to study the most important subject in the world: the self. We may claim that we are too busy to care, but nothing is more important than getting to know the real you.

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Shadow Work

Click Here for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comShadow work is the process of learning to speak your fears, anxieties, shame, grief, and rage before Spirit, and having it witnessed by humans. The latter is needed to heal toxic shame and to get you comfortable with being your authentic self in front of other human beings. Shadow work is speaking out whatever is currently uncomfortable for you to say in front of others. For some people shadow work is speaking out about one’s successes, happiness, gains and accomplishments.

Sharing works best when you are specific and refer to date, time, place, and people involved in actual events, as well as describing the specific emotions experienced at the time and describing actual behaviors and actions that occurred.

A shadow work group, like 12-Step programs, provides a safe sacred space and a confidential environment, where others are there to listen and witness your journey of healing, without interfering. Shadow work groups understand that they are just there to witness, and know that the real work is between you and your Higher Power.

Shadow work groups give you a safe place to practice saying things that normally are not spoken, or must be said with careful attention and energy. When you share precarious, painful, fearful or shameful information with such a safe group, you will slowly, with the help of your Higher Power, be able to heal the emotions and energy connected to those issues and events.

In time, instead of those issues and events ruling you, you will have the space to make choices – choices on who to talk to in your life circle about delicate personal matters, as well as when to do it, how to do it, or if it is even safe to share with certain people, or not.

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Invest In Yourself For The Greater Good!

CLICK HERE for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comCharity truly does begin at home. Yes, we must invest in ourselves too. This might sound selfish at first, but actually the opposite is true. Investing in ourselves also touches the lives of those we interact with, and influences the world around us in a positive and sacred way. We feel ‘a good kind of different’ when we also value ourselves.

How do you invest in yourself? Consider the classical elements of life: Earth, Fire, Water, Air and Spirit. To fully invest in our own well-being, growth and expansion, we must be sure to pay attention to each of these elements in our life.

For example, Earth represents the solid, material things we can feel and touch. The Earth element is what grounds and centers us. It is related to how we manifest. It’s about prosperity, money, wealth, material assets, financial investments, savings, as well as taking care of our physical body.

When we consume organic, sustainable foods that support our well-being, for example, we support those who grew the food and brought it to market. We therefore not only positively impact our own health and wellness, but we also benefit others, as well as the environment and planet.

Similarly, if we make the effort to manage our finances responsibly, for example, we have more spending power to contribute to the greater economy for the benefit of all, and we are also empowered to make larger and more frequent contributions to charities.

If one applies this concept in other areas of our lives, it soon becomes clear that an investment in ourselves also touches the lives of others, and creates balance in all the elements that creates love, well-being, peace, harmony, joy and happiness.

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Take Back Your Power!

CLICK HERE for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comEveryone has a story to tell about their love life. And some of have extremely abusive stories to tell. One common element that I have come across frequently in my work, is the fact that some people are treated with disrespect and emotional abuse, and yet they are still patiently waiting for the abuser to return to them!

When you ask them why, it is usually because they “still love” that person. Well, that is not love. It is simply an imagined need that has been created by the abuser, or by one’s lack of self-worth. It is a psychological illusion, not real.

If you are still waiting for someone to come back into your life, after they left you for someone else, you are making yourself the second choice. You are degrading your own true value and taking away from your self-worth.

During a workshop I presented on this subject, I asked the participants to write down why they felt they needed that other person in their life. In essence, all their responses ended up being about lack of self-esteem, self-respect and self-security.

The next step was to ask them how they would you feel if they saw someone treating their daughter, or son, in the same way they have been allowing the abusive partner to treat them? They all said they wouldn’t tolerate it. They would intervene and get that person out of their lives, or at least try. One of the delegates even went as far as to say, “I would lock her in the house and never let her out again.” Which might be a great idea under the circumstances, but obviously not realistic!

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Choose Your Tribe Wisely

CLICK HERE for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWe need to face the fact that some people are unfriendly, heartless, and simply rude! I discovered recently why someone I know personally acts so unfeeling and uncaring towards others. She always seems so wrapped up in her own world and shows no regard for anyone else. This has brought about much dis-ease in her own family and she has also gone through numerous failed romantic relationships.

During a recent family gathering, I was observing her aura and noticed that she suffers tremendous guilt and envy of others. Meanwhile, she is always looking for acceptance and comfort from her many boyfriends, who only stick around until they find out how manipulative and vindictive she really is.

Spirit showed me that she truly hates herself and projects it onto others. She is just not happy and slowly drains the energy of those around her. They usually do not realize this until it is too late. I do wonder how those who orbit around this person can manage to stick around at all, as it seems dis-ease and drama just follows her everywhere she goes in life.

Before her sister’s funeral, she was even snapping and yelling at her youngest daughter for something as trivial as a puzzle piece accidentally dropped on the floor. I asked one of her other children how she grew up to be so loving and sweet, having been raised around that kind of negativity? She said the credit belonged to her grandparents, as well as a few other family members.

I refuse to be unkind to anyone. It is in my nature to be civil and courteous to everyone I meet. It is my motto to leave others feeling better than they were before I interacted with them. But many people, will not even smile, no matter what you say or do. Spirit says this is due to their ‘spark’ being blown out by their own bad life choices and negative thoughts. It’s a matter of free will.

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The Art Of Receiving

Click Here for a free psychic reading at Psychic Access!Are you good a receiving? When you are given a compliment, how do you usually react? For many of us the typical reaction to a compliment is to offer it right back, or to immediately discount it. “Oh no, this old thing…” Seem familiar? Even if we manage to say thank you, words of denial or discounting often follow.

The same applies to being open to receiving help. Asking for, and accepting help from others, is often difficult for people. Especially women struggle with this, because many of us believe we are expected to do it all ourselves, and to also do it well!

Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. Yes, it is basically the same thing. You can’t have one without the other.  It obviously does not feel good when you give something to someone, only to have it rejected, diminished or discounted. There is no reciprocal flow of energy when one is giving, but no one is receiving. Receiving is necessary for all of us!

Receiving is an art and it requires being conscious, sensitive and self-aware. First we must pay attention to our dysfunctional patterns of receiving (and not receiving), and then we must consciously work on becoming a more active and aware receiver.

This can be achieved in three simple steps. First, make an effort to listen, hear and acknowledge the gifts, compliments or help being offered. Second, taking it in fully, embrace it with your being and heart center. Finally, allow yourself to move into the state of gratitude for what has been given.

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Lead By Example – A Message From My Guides

Click Here for a free psychic reading at Psychic Access!Many of you lead by example, without having to think about it. You obey traffic signals. You pick up garbage if you accidentally drop it. You hold doors open for others. You smile at strangers. You volunteer. You support local charities.

Entering the second month of this new decade, it might be a good time to re-think some old habits, and also lead from within.

For example, it may be a good idea to tone down those automatic, knee-jerk thoughts of annoyance, anger or retribution when someone pushes all-too-familiar buttons. Instead of allowing the cortisol and adrenaline to skyrocket within your body, think things through, before reacting negatively. Resist the urge to speak hurtful comments, even if your basic premise is sound. Find a constructive way to get your point across.

Sometimes it is tempting to jump on the bandwagon for likes and shares on social media platforms. However, if the topic is not kind, hold your tongue. Instead, be the person who can be counted on for level-headed discourse, without vitriol.

In general, be kind to others. Give people some leeway when it is evident that they are trying their best. Catch them doing something right, instead of watching for errors and omissions. Give recognition and praise where warranted. It can mean so much and does not cost anything.

Be kind to yourself too. Banish negative self-talk. Give yourself the right to be human and allow yourself to make mistakes, without chastising yourself for an unimportant oversight. If a serious error does occur, do your best to rectify the issue in a timely manner, with a ‘note-to-self’ that you have learned from the situation and will not repeat it.

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