Posts Tagged ‘loss’
We’ve all experienced the pain, sorrow, rejection, anger, guilt and heartbreak of losing a relationship. Whether through separation, divorce, illness or death, the feelings that these situations bring can be devastating to our person, and our world.
These feelings are real, these feelings are valid, and these feelings are completely normal. They are all part of the grieving process. It is how our mind deals with loss and enables us to heal, in order to move forward into a bigger expression of life.
One of the beautiful things about life is that we are all unique, individual expressions of the Infinite. One of the common threads that connects us is that each of us experiences the full spectrum of emotions, from pleasure to pain, and most assuredly, back again. Read the rest of this entry »
The word pathos comes from the Greek word ‘to feel’. Etymologically the preceding word means ‘to feel together.’ This could be a misinterpretation, as all people have very unique versions and imprints of feeling.
Every emotional state is unique. Nothing can transcend the way someone perceives a memory of color, the way one first experiences a moment, and the feeling associated to it, and the feeling it imprints into us.
To feel together would be to assume that every state is intuitively identical to all of us, and this is entirely untrue. Unique perception accounts for most of the states of feeling we have, apart from basic feelings we have that may have to do with survival states. These feelings may include grief (in order to process loss), anger (in order to transcend negative situations), or joy, to extend the best probabilities for survival. Read the rest of this entry »
You are enough. If only, as we grew up, we had heard more such words, even if there was an additional “… and yet strive for more”. The fact is we were raised in a world where competition is prevalent; where our insecurities are often emphasized to us, or used as leverage (intentionally or otherwise); where our personal beliefs about ourselves potentially delays our soul evolution.
As partners in the Universe we say to ourselves, “Everything has a reason, we each have a soul purpose, all is in Divine Order.” Yet, when a tragedy or life shattering moment hits, we are so intimately impacted that we have to dig deep to console ourselves and try to reframe that that tragedy has a Divine purpose, and that you have enough and are enough in that moment. Read the rest of this entry »
Finding true love is hard. Literally. At times it feels like you have hit a cement wall, but it happens, and it hurts. The pain of love that once was, and is now unrequited, is not something one would wish on your worst enemies.
You may have loved with the hope and possibility of your love being returned, but instead you loved someone who just didn’t feel the same way. Or, you loved someone deeply, who also loved you in return, and then for some unknown reason, they turned off the switch.
When this happens, you are hurt in ways that are unimaginable and extremely bewildering. This person loved you and you loved them. Maybe they met someone new? Maybe their love was never real? Whatever the case, you’re left in excruciating pain. Read the rest of this entry »
Many years ago a friend of mine told me simply to choose happiness. I was thoroughly frustrated with that statement, as there was so much opposition in my life. Like most people, I have had struggles that lasted not only months, but decades. I faced adversity not only once or twice, but repeatedly. I also had to manage all these challenges on my own, due to traveling on my own, starting my own businesses, and surviving immense loss, among other things.
At the time my well-meaning friend had simply not experienced any of these life challenges to the same degree, thus I did not believe her. To make the choice to feel joy seemed resolutely trite, in the face of such constant, episodic misfortune!
In truth, she was not too far off in that statement. Except, it was not a conscious choice, or something of cultish free will. It was more of an attitude that came over me after repeated misfortune, which led to a toughening up, a new approach, a singular mindset, a resolute focus. Read the rest of this entry »
I often hear my clients describe their grief as “my heart has a hole in it” or “my heart has been ripped apart.” When we grieve it does feel as if our heart will never heal. It’s like your physical body is having an actual heart attack.
What each grieving individual experiences is different. Grief has so many different forms and it is impossible to know how it will affect each individual person. We each grieve in our own way.
There is also no time-frame on grief. The length of time a person may grieve is very individual some people may start to feel a little better seven to ten weeks. For others it may be years. Read the rest of this entry »
In the past couple of weeks, I had to deal with major financial expenses related to our property. We have to move across the country, and we are having issues with the house. Then there were also the added costs of a vehicle that needed urgent repairs. This was not a lot of money, but it came up at the same time as the property issue, and the costs of our move.
To add insult to injury, my beautiful little kitty knocked over a cup of water onto my computer yesterday… and fried my motherboard! I found out later that my extended warrantee had just expired, and the repair costs were not really worth it, considering that the technology was a few years old. So, I had to purchase a new computer for work. Read the rest of this entry »
I have always had an interest in behavioral sciences and marketing, as well as spiritual work and the paranormal, and used this as a way of studying people’s needs, and applied it to learning cultural philosophies world-wide.
What I have found in my research is that one can intuit people’s habits as if it were a science, in order to deeply understand their collective nature. This would hopefully be an expression of their mean needs, their collective needs, or the predictive ratio, in order to see what their cultural needs were. From this arose the question: is Planet Earth happy today? Do people need more, not less material goods? Do they need more, not less love and affection? Are they less, not more aggressive? Was my perception less, not more affectionate? Yes, it also forced me to evaluate myself. Read the rest of this entry »