You Are Enough

You are enough. If only, as we grew up, we had heard more such words, even if there was an additional “… and yet strive for more”. The fact is we were raised in a world where competition is prevalent; where our insecurities are often emphasized to us, or used as leverage (intentionally or otherwise); where our personal beliefs about ourselves potentially delays our soul evolution.

As partners in the Universe we say to ourselves, “Everything has a reason, we each have a soul purpose, all is in Divine Order.” Yet, when a tragedy or life shattering moment hits, we are so intimately impacted that we have to dig deep to console ourselves and try to reframe that that tragedy has a Divine purpose, and that you have enough and are enough in that moment.

Like the sky opens after a rainy day we must open to ourselves…. Learn to love yourself for who you are and open so the world can see you shine ~ James Poland

Perhaps such a life event is the loss of a family member, a loving relationship, job, pet, or a financial crisis, or any other life-changing event. Our faith in Divinity may keep us going, but it does not change the fact that we are deeply grieved by this loss. Our ego will bring up all sorts of emotions, including anger, grief, betrayal, denial, hatred and many other emotions. You may espouse such things as, “Why them why not me” or “I feel cheated” and “How could this happen”.

In our Divine space, devoid of analytical ego, we know in our heart this experience is for our soul growth path and those closely connected with us, but that is still hard to face.

Such an event of loss happened for me in recent months. My 43-year old son-in-law recently found a lump in his neck and tests indicated a slow moving form of lymphoma. Chemotherapy was scheduled, but his body rejected each permutation of treatment for almost two months. What was meant to be a few sessions in the hospital, turned out to be only a few days at home with family with wife and two small daughters.

At his celebration of life in early July, what I became aware of was how this young, quiet, very unassuming, caring and devoted man, who had only been part of my life for eight years, had influenced so many people in his short life. It is estimated that more than 450 people visited the funeral home to pay their respects to his family.

This experience had me reflecting back upon my conversations with him in recent months, as I began to spend more time with him. His philosophies of life included treating everyone with respect and dignity (even those who had not shown a mutual response); having healthy boundaries in each area of his life; and being of service to help and advocate for others. This was reflected in the attendance at his celebration of life and the stories told about him by friends and family.

As we grow in awareness, our fear of loss, not having enough or being insufficient matures into love of giving, sharing and collaboration ~ Joseph Rain

He was a successful independent business man and he had dreams for his family. Although there were major challenges, he took it in his stride. He would point to his family saying, “I have all that I could wish for and anything else is within me to achieve.”

Each of us in this moment has enough. We are a part of the Universal Life energy that manifests all experiences. It offers all possibilities of manifestation to us from a place of non-judgment and with unwavering love for our Soul.

Each of us came into this life experience with a blueprint for our soul evolution – our soul contract. As part of a soul group we have a contract with our soulmates. Our soul partners are those other souls who, in my opinion, have committed to me their unadulterated love and support. This idea of the soulmate is not to be confused with the romantic perspective that so many cling to. Soulmates evolve each other’s souls. Remembering this helps us in overcoming the challenges, the grief and the loss and the spiritual growth that awaits us, as we make our new choices for our life path.

Regardless of what a business peer, a parent, child or relationship partner expresses from their ego in the moment, it is their perspective. Remember you are good enough, you have the right for healthy boundaries, dreams and love. So, during that next moment in time when you are questioning yourself, feeling ‘not good enough’ or a failure, being criticized, or feeling lost and without purpose, call upon your Higher Self and Spirit. Breathe. Refocus. Smile and connect with the heart and state to yourself, “In this moment I am proud to say that I am enough”. Then if you choose to reflect back at a later time to see if there are areas you feel you wish to improve upon, do so. But always remember that you are enough in each moment of your journey.