Crossing Over Into Unconditional Love

Is my mom okay? Is my dad still in pain? Is my friend trying to speak to me? Is my grandmother proud or ashamed of me? Does my husband forgive me?

These are just a few of the many questions that I am asked by bereaved family members and friend, when they lose someone dear to them.

Firstly, it is important to understand that we are all spirit with a temporary physical body. And we have free will in how we choose to live our lives. Some of us choose to be kind and giving, while some are abusive and filled with anger. It is not our place to judge each other, simply to know that free will was a gift given to us before we came into this current physical body.

When I am asked these questions, the initial part of the answer is always going to be the same. The person that you lost simply left their physical body behind; their spirit never faltered.  When someone crosses over, no matter who, or how, the moment of crossing is always met with pure love. Their angel reaches out a hand and when they touch the light shows them that there is nothing to be afraid of. They instantly know that the place where they are returning to is a place of light and harmony. It is a place of pure, unconditional love. Hate disappears, hurt or pain disappears. There is no shame, not disrespect. And there is only unconditional love for those that remain here on earth waiting for our turn to join them.

Remember, in our inmost being, we are all completely lovable because spirit is love. Beyond what anyone can make you think or feel about yourself, your unconditioned spirit stands, shining with a love nothing can tarnish ~ Deepak Chopra

You may want to know what message someone has for you. You may want to know how you can hear the messages or see the person for your own peace of mind. And again, the answer is the same. You sit, close your eyes and breathe for a few moments and ask one question only. For example, “Grandma are you here with me?”  Then just allow yourself to keep breathing, in and out, steady like a pump, relaxed and not thinking. Just allow. As you do this, you may feel a feather light touch on your cheek, or if you wear a chain, it may roll on the back of your neck. You may smell a particular scent that reminds you of that person. It is simply about relaxing, allowing and listening.

One of the best times to do this is prior to bedtime. Simply say, “Thank you Grandma (or whoever) for coming to me in my dreams. Thank you for allowing me to spend time with you.”  Then simply go to bed without another thought. Keep a pen and paper next to the bed, so you can write down anything you remember the next morning. However don’t make this the focus. Simply allow yourself the peace to sleep and know that the person will come to you in your dreams – if not that night, soon afterwards. They will show you that they are near and they will also show you that you are loved, no matter what your relationship was when they were in their physical body.

Know that those that cross over can be asked to be a part of your life at any time, and most already walk beside you throughout your days and nights. Simply trust that they no longer suffer, they never have negative feelings towards you and they love you unconditionally. That is the best part of crossing over, knowing that no matter what, you are pure love.