Posts Tagged ‘friends’
At an early age, I learned to use logic when others caused me to feel a pang of guilt. That’s how I neutralize guilt trips. I deal with it directly by discussion with the other person, stating my true intentions. I simply make it clear that they interpreted my intentions incorrectly, for example.
Female members of my extended family tended to ‘play the guilt card’ when their expectations were not being met, such as when I was not visiting them often enough. But if their desire to see me came from pure joy and love, it would come from the heart. I would feel loved, not guilty! And I told them this straight up. Read the rest of this entry »
I speak to several clients every day. Being an empathic, intuitive person, I can tell when someone has not been told that they are loved. Some folks never enjoyed special family time growing up, and some never even connected with at least one parent. It is really sad.
This is when I give self-care advice, which my clients love. The great feedback I get from my clients about this is that self-care empowers them to become less critical and judgmental of themselves and others. They just feel more free to be themselves, and allow others to be who they are. They learn to accept those who see things differently from themselves. Read the rest of this entry »
Friends, as opposed to acquaintances or associates, are a rare find. We are typically a society of users and takers, where social networking has erroneously become synonymous with friendship. In fact, friendship and networking has very little in common.
As children of the Information Age, we have become acculturated to disconnection as a norm, merely using each other and calling it friendship when it is mutually beneficial, and calling it a variety of unsavory names when it is not mutually beneficial. Friendship for business and networking is quite different from true friendship. Read the rest of this entry »
Have you recently gone through a break-up, or are you taking a break in your relationship? Whether it’s been a while, or just recently since you’ve been in contact with them, there are usually questions that start to come up. Does my ex still think of me? Does my ex miss me? Is this door closed between us, or is there still a future?
There are certain signs to look out for in order to determine if your ex is still thinking of you. It can be a difficult decision to decide to wait for an ex to return, or to move on to the next chapter, but by looking out for these signs you can determine if they most likely will return to your life. If you watch for these signs you can wait for them to reach back out to you.
It’s okay to feel afraid. You have an excellent built-in system for self-protection. There are many legitimate fears such as raging house fires or menacing wild animals, and your body is designed to trigger fight-or-flight responses to help you in times of great peril.
However, these are not the fears that we are referencing here. We are speaking of the ingrained fears that manifest because you have allowed yourself to become trapped by a common belief system, or perhaps someone else’s past experience.
Our lesson for you today is to nurture your ability to step back and evaluate these fears before allowing them to take hold and prevent you from living your most exciting life, becoming your very best self or, worse, crushing your potential. Read the rest of this entry »
A young Cherokee child gets into an argument with one of his peers whom, until now, he felt he had been on good terms with but on this occasion, however, felt that the other boy had been most unjust to him.
In anger, the Cherokee boy runs off to seek advice from his wise grandfather, an elder of the Cherokee tribe, who loves teaching his grandchildren all about life. After telling his grandfather of his injustice, the old man wistfully looked at his grandson and said that he too, in his life, had similar experiences that resulted in him feeling great anger. “It is like there is a fight between two wolves going on inside you,” said the old man, “and indeed a terrible fight.” Read the rest of this entry »
So, you have that empath pal. Your ‘BFF.’ You know, the perfect girlfriend, the person who understands you through and through? Well, think again! That cute acquaintance, co-worker or online friend, may seep into your life and soon control everything – the material you write, the art you produce, the life you live, the people you see, the work you do, the people you date, the people you talk to. And I am talking people you never chose to meet.
A good number of aggressive stalkers are female, in my opinion. I have found that female stalkers are almost as prevalent in number as men. There is however much more awareness and activism when it comes to violence against women when committed by men. I also agree that more can be done to mitigate violence against women, but nothing has been done against perpetrators of violence by women against women. Why is that? Read the rest of this entry »
It is okay to say no. As a matter of fact, it is imperative to learn to say no, and stick with it. We observe that many of you try to be all things to all people. You run yourselves ragged, physically and emotionally, trying to please other people.
You put others ahead of yourselves and then become frustrated and angry when you have no time left for your own personal lives. This is exhausting, stressful and becomes completely unrealistic over time.
The challenge in setting healthy personal boundaries often arises when it becomes difficult to prioritize your own needs and desires against the expectations of others. Since when do these people rule your roost? Since when are their expectations more valid or important than your own peace of mind, ideas or schedules? Why do you give them such power over your dreams, goals, ambitions and life? Read the rest of this entry »