Posts Tagged ‘friends’
It is also very close to another age-old axiom, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Again, this sounds easy enough. And what if you are one of those people, as many of us are, who are not in the habit of treating yourself very well at all?
How do you typically treat yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you approve, care, and not judge yourself harshly? Are you kind and encouraging to yourself? Or is your internal mental chatter and expression riddled with thoughts like: Read the rest of this entry »
So many people are in relationships with the wrong person. They hang onto someone, just waiting for things to change or be different. However that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. People can only change themselves for themselves, in order to make it last.
Hanging onto the wrong person in your life – whether it be a friend, family, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, and even a boss, can hold you back from having your best and highest good in life. It can keep the amazing blessings that are waiting for you from coming in. Read the rest of this entry »
After my youngest daughter left home, I certainly had a case of the ’empty nest syndrome’ for a short period of time. I chided myself, for I felt the same way when my oldest daughter moved out. I had that feeling of ‘someone was missing’ and ‘nothing is the same.’ However, this time it was different, for it dawned on me that I had never lived alone before.
Many times in my life I’ve had to move on, leaving friends, family, relationships and spouses behind, because I outgrew them. The spiritual awakening process is a double-edged sword. When we awaken, our value systems change. The shift is a blessing, but burning bridges always hurts, and often when we least expect it.
One of the most obvious symptoms of knowing we’re no longer in sync with those around us, is when we can do nothing other than listen to our inner guidance, as it gets louder and louder. And, the more we tune into it, the more authentic we become and we can’t pretend anymore. Truth and integrity take over, because those values are more in alignment with our soul.
Often, those closest to us, align themselves with their own illusion of who they want us to be. They project onto us the values they think they most admire, and choose to find these in us, as opposed to who we really are. As Maya Angelou stated so wisely, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.” Read the rest of this entry »
Some people believe in the Law of Karma, others do not. From my experience, personal and otherwise, karma is a very real law of the Universe. Recently, it seems the Law of Karma has shown up in my life more than I care to think about!
First, let me explain what karma is and is not. Karma is not the be all, end all of it. You determine your own karma based on your thoughts, actions and reactions. I liken it to a bank account. You either have a positive balance or a negative balance.
So, if you are a person of your word and treat others with kindness, compassion, love and caring, then your karmic bank account will be in the positive. On the other hand, if you are a person who treats others with disdain, judgment, ego, and total disregard for humanity as a whole, then your karmic bank account will be in the negative. The latter is something I hope I avoid on a daily basis. Read the rest of this entry »
At an early age, I learned to use logic when others caused me to feel a pang of guilt. That’s how I neutralize guilt trips. I deal with it directly by discussion with the other person, stating my true intentions. I simply make it clear that they interpreted my intentions incorrectly, for example.
Female members of my extended family tended to ‘play the guilt card’ when their expectations were not being met, such as when I was not visiting them often enough. But if their desire to see me came from pure joy and love, it would come from the heart. I would feel loved, not guilty! And I told them this straight up. Read the rest of this entry »
I speak to several clients every day. Being an empathic, intuitive person, I can tell when someone has not been told that they are loved. Some folks never enjoyed special family time growing up, and some never even connected with at least one parent. It is really sad.
This is when I give self-care advice, which my clients love. The great feedback I get from my clients about this is that self-care empowers them to become less critical and judgmental of themselves and others. They just feel more free to be themselves, and allow others to be who they are. They learn to accept those who see things differently from themselves. Read the rest of this entry »
Friends, as opposed to acquaintances or associates, are a rare find. We are typically a society of users and takers, where social networking has erroneously become synonymous with friendship. In fact, friendship and networking has very little in common.
As children of the Information Age, we have become acculturated to disconnection as a norm, merely using each other and calling it friendship when it is mutually beneficial, and calling it a variety of unsavory names when it is not mutually beneficial. Friendship for business and networking is quite different from true friendship. Read the rest of this entry »