Archive for the ‘Self-Help’ Category
I was born amid a snowstorm, in an age where there were no cell phones, nor color television. In fact, we only had a handful of channels on television, if you were lucky enough to own one. In those days vehicles were V-8 engines and did not have seatbelts. Life was so simple.
In the Summer we played outside, and in the Winter we played outside. If we played a game on a rainy day, it was a board game such as monopoly or checkers, or we colored and dreamed of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Most boys wanted to be a policeman, or a fireman. Those were not even an option if you were a girl. You could be a wife, a mother, a bookkeeper, a secretary or a teller at a bank. Options for women were very limited.
I don’t know how many times I was told I could not do something with the explanation, “Because you’re a girl!” This broke my spirit for a long, long time. I wanted to play baseball and hockey. “No, sorry, that’s for boys only. You can draw or paint, or cook.” Read the rest of this entry »
Some of you have a difficult time standing up for yourself, or expressing your position, for fear of being torn down. But there I no need for fear. There is nothing you need to worry about when you come from your position of power, your position of influence and love.
We are by no means encouraging you to engage in aggressive behavior or communication. When you find that rising up in your voice, it is your ego throwing a ‘temper tantrum,’ wanting its way or feeling hurt from an experience that may have nothing to do with the issue at hand, but it may have been triggered by the current experience.
Your truth is one of love and peace and joy. You are spiritually supported to step into your relationships in a more confident, stable, secure way. Read the rest of this entry »
Relationships flourish when they are put in the proper climate for growth. When it comes to intimate and romantic relationships it is integral for our own personal growth to recognize what we want and expect within the situation. Boundaries are a powerful way to cultivate the experiences that are more meaningful in our relationships.
Often when I am reading for a person that is having consistent challenges, Spirit will identify similar challenges within the situation. This is not universal, because challenges can stem from many sources. However, I would like to identify some consistent messages that do come up related to relationships.
One issue that comes up quite often is a focus on fantasy rather than reality. This is not to say that fantasy is bad, but when an individual expends a lot of their time and energy fantasizing about how a situation will evolve, they can potentially fall in love with the fantasy instead of the reality. Read the rest of this entry »
I have done thousands of readings for people from around the world, and I can assure you that fear is part of the human condition. It is not only a valuable asset to recognize danger (emotionally and physically), but it can also be an opportunity to face the fear that is holding you back from living your best, authentic life.
Fear is a reaction to something, or someone, that one perceives as dangerous, threatening or potentially painful. Fear is not necessarily a bad thing, as it helps us avoid dangerous situations, like touching a very hot surface, or swimming in rapidly-moving water. It can also be related to loss of a loved one. If, for example, a person is between the ages of birth to 18 years and dependent upon a parent to meet basic needs, the fear becomes very deep-rooted, and the same is true if you are older and suffered many or even one significant loss. We can also become frightened before speaking to a large group of people, when boarding an airplane… or just thinking about it! Some of us fear clowns or a wild animals. Read the rest of this entry »
You’re crazy, that never happened. You’re too sensitive. You’re making things up. No one else has ever said that about me. I get along with everyone else except you. I’ve never had this problem with anyone else but you. Everyone says you’re crazy. I’m not cheating, so maybe you are… since you are accusing me. You are too sensitive.
These are just some of the things you might hear when someone is gaslighting you, when you have confronted them with their own issues or manipulations.
Gaslighting is a form of abuse that is more common in romantic relationships, but it can occur in landlord and tenant relationships, friendships, employee and employer relationships, and even in relationships with neighbors. It is basically the art of messing with someone’s mind or reality. Sometimes it is done in an obvious way, right in front of the person, and sometimes it is under the radar and you don’t you know who is gaslighting you, or even if you are actually being gaslighted. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been talking to clients and people about the general state of mind right now. What is making us work as a society and what does not? What makes us motion, what is makes us fluid, what is makes us indispensable? What some clients have concerns about is a heightened state of agitation in the general population. This is not due to anything electronic or anything that I could say is brought about by a ‘thing’ in everyone’s opinion.
Many of my clients are well-educated or experienced, in managerial positions, and are wondering what to do about the persons now that are unable to manage themselves or how they are coping. How does one choose a good person over a bad one, and will the mood pass? Will this person ever get over their disposition or will they degrade? What can we do to help them, or should we perhaps move on to the next person? Read the rest of this entry »
Throughout my years as a professional psychic medium (and even before), I’ve encountered a recurring theme of those who are seeking advice involving intimate relationships. Now, remember, intimate relationships aren’t just our lovers. They can also be close friends and, of course, our family.
Intimate relationships are the ones we have with those closest to us. We know their secrets, strengths and weaknesses, and they probably know ours. It’s those people that we want to help, those we want to love, or those who we just want to love and respect us. Sadly, when people are seeking guidance with these intimate relationships it is most always pain-filled. Anger, fear, frustration and desperation almost always accompany these relationships. Read the rest of this entry »
No matter what your current circumstance is, no matter what your current situation may be, whether you are feeling like you do not have enough or are not enough… you do not need to be in a state of perfection to attract perfection to you. You do not need to be in a state of prosperity to attract prosperity to you. It is important for you to understand and realize this.
The thoughts in your mind create your reality. What you think about you bring about. Be on high alert of the thoughts that run through your mind.
The ego has a tendency to keep you stuck in the past, but you are more than your ego. You are a creation of God, of heaven above, you are all powerful ever-expansive. You are a creator of your life. You came here in this incarnation to create. To create love. To create joy. To create harmony.
So, be aware of the thoughts that might be running in your subconscious mind – that program in the background that you might be completely unaware of. Read the rest of this entry »